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Q: Again with the same girl .......BUT
Guys i really do like this girl....don't know how to start the relationship with her or get her to be my girlfriend.................seriously i can't sleep all night thinking of her.......am afraid i will lose her............any suggestions to make her like me and get her to be with me officially as a girlfriend?!!!!!........some of you will think am crazy or exaggerating but i swear i do love her with all my heart......need some valuable advice.......AM SERIOUS.......i don't want to lose her
Wish I could advise you Crea, but my love life has been a catalogue of misadventure worthy of a Steven Spielberg movie trilogy. All the old maxims are worth remembering though:
Be yourself: just not too much, you might scare (or in your case terrify) the poor woman.
Be honest: but that doesn't mean confessing to having a nasty strain of genital herpes, just stay open and truthful about who you are, women see through the bull.
Listen to her: this does not mean stare at her breasts while she bores you about her day.
Compliment her: though in doing so be sure to avoid using the words tits, norks, fun-bags, rack, melons (unless she has brought some as a gift, in which case it is ok, just don't snigger while doing so), ass, rump, hiney or welcome wagon.
Have fun: Rohypnol might be the way to go here but.........OK, SHUT IT DOWN, SHUT IT DOWN, NOTHING MORE TO SEE HERE, SHUT IT DOWN, THIS CONVERSATION IS OVER, SHUT IT DOWN!
Crea, good luck and have fun mate. All the best.
Createach:
i did not understand anything you just said.....But.......Rohypnol?!!!!........that might be a good idea.....................just playing....thanks for the advice.........by the way.....what will happen is i used Rohypnol on a policewoman in china?!!!!!..playing again....LOL..........God bless............and thanks again mate
seriously guys do you have dating experience in your own countries?????????????
after 1 or 2 dates out , invite her to dinner at your place. (it does not matter if you can't cook rice cooker and a small toaster oven) . once she is at your place be romantic. nice soft music , candles. while dinner is cooking offer to watch a short tv episode. (20 min show like big bang theory ) your goal during the show is to test the waters , first put your arm around her and judge her reaction. towards the end of the show, start massaging her back. if she offers to reciprocate, then you have the green light. (or even if she seems to enjoy the massage you have the green light) while working your way back to check on the food. kiss her gently on the neck. tell her "i like you a lot" .
learn to be assertive but not aggressive (if you date rape her i will find you and kill you).
Createach:
we do have.but damn man we are talking about a chinese girl here dating a foreigner.........now that did not come in my dating manual
crimochina:
i have news for you. chinese women are women. in general, women want to be swept off their feet and romanced.
dharma86:
You're going to put a lot of dating advice websites out of business letting out this classified information.
Have you ever dated women before? I can understand not understanding Chinese women, but not understanding how to date one?
Take it easy, be polite, kind, gentile, flatter her often, start by going out and holding hands, work up to buying her an iPad, then she's yours forever.
Createach:
all my chinese GF's were at my university time here.....now am like being to the real world of mature dating....and i am now talking about a chinese girl but at the same time this girl is a policewoman.............now this is something that needs meditation
I find it hard yo believe you're the stud you claim to be in the other thread. If you were you'd know there's always another woman around the corner and not be freaking out.
nevermind:
That I know, but I found that as I got older and slept with and dated more women the less I panicked about that kind of thing. When I met my wife I knew, but I had enough experience that I didn'r over-worry about things.
