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Q: Do you think that I can completely overcome shyness?
I have big problem, sometimes I wonder if I should see psychologists. I am too shy when seeing a man I found attractive.
I will feel too shy to go approach a man I found attractive and even if the guy approached me first, I'll acted cold and pretent to not look at him and tried to not speak much to him. Eventually those guys I found attractive who approached me first in real life would leave after feeling that I'm not interested.
I tried to overcome many many times but failed. I know if I don't change, I may end up being alone the rest of my life. I really have no confidence if I could overcome shyness completely.
Anybody has suffered serious shyness problem? Do you think if I can overcome it completely?
if this is an example of you being 'shy'
http://answers.echinacities.com/node/327393
I hesitate to think what you are like if you are forward......
Blondie_:
Viki is 'traditional' and 'shy' with chinese characteristics.
iWolf:
Come on guys, it wasn't like she picked up some random drunk and gave him a david bowie in the alley next to the wheelie bins. Ooops.
You should have taken the time to take some free therapy sessions on your recent visit to the USA.
ambivalentmace:
Actually 47000 people making over a million dollars pay the city income tax that gives 72 percent of the New York city budget, so they probably do give free therapy. The strange thing is how they bad mouth the rich when the 47000 that actually live there and not move to Florida should actually be getting a medal for supporting the 7 million free loaders on the system, Perhaps one day all of them will move and New York can be a twin city of Detroit.
See if you can find a drama (acting) class/open improv group in Shanghai. The games/exercises that they do COULD help you deal with that. I had some serious social anxiety issues after the first time I was in Baghdad, and it greatly helped me.
Don't expect a sudden, monumental change after trying it once though; change takes time.
understand in., she is Miss 'Gorg-i-ta' .
There is a lot of stuff online to help you. Here's a website you can start with.
www.wikihow.com/Overcome-Shyness
Some girls meet a guy and are "flirtatious", some meet and are "shy", meet a guy like you would a girl by being "amiable", if he asks about family in the first 3 questions, he wants to know if you have a bf and screw your brains out once, if he gets to family after 5 questions he wants to sleep with you more than once. That's a good start.
if this is an example of you being 'shy'
http://answers.echinacities.com/node/327393
I hesitate to think what you are like if you are forward......
Blondie_:
Viki is 'traditional' and 'shy' with chinese characteristics.
iWolf:
Come on guys, it wasn't like she picked up some random drunk and gave him a david bowie in the alley next to the wheelie bins. Ooops.
Dont think too much , be stright forward , a girl being shy is a very attractive thing for men but certainly this rule has limits though, I recommand you to try to have more friends , hangout oftenly and dont care bout what people would think of u If u have done so , or didnt just be you and try to stay focused at your goal
