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Q: Does the new 2 Child law affect you?
I have probably asked this before, but I ask it again.. Because... does the new law make you scared to go home?
My wife wants another. She wants a second.
How to deal with this 2 child law when she wants but you don't?
I'd guess in the same way you'd deal with a wife in any other country who wanted a 2nd child and you didn't. By talking to her.
I'm lucky. Had the snip years ago and my wife doesn't want 1 child, never mind 2.
I'd guess in the same way you'd deal with a wife in any other country who wanted a 2nd child and you didn't. By talking to her.
I'm lucky. Had the snip years ago and my wife doesn't want 1 child, never mind 2.
After Child 1 we decided not to have more children born in China, not because of policy but because of childcare/hospitals etc.
To quote one tv series:
"It doesn't matter if you want. If she wants, it is already decided. Now try to think what you can get out of it."
I just tell her, sorry I cannot afford a second kids education in china ;_;
One child is enough,my wife and I have one and we dont want any more children.
Your wife has a point too. Two children have great company and support system growing together.
Two kids are enough for me, complete family. But how to say no is point out the future with time & money on the mind. You have a kid thats old enough to travel and give you some free time than don't have another baby because you'll habe to start putting time back into the baby less free time for fun. Well if you want another baby than forget what I said.
Like mentioned above it is the same as any country, talk with your wife about it. I personally don't care what any law says, I will have as many children as myself and my wife want. No one can tell me how many children I can have.
Children are not toys. Nor are they even puppies or ponies.
Ask her to give you just ONE good (ie, non-Chinese*) reason for having another kid. Having children shouldn't be based on emotion - because the pain, hardships, and harsh realities of life are based on facts.
And, no offence, Scots, but if you're a heart-attack waiting to happen, leaving her with another young child to look after is a really BAD idea...
(*"who will look after us when we're old?" - Irrelevant! "But my parents said they want another grandchild" - irrelevant! "But Uncle Xi says we should" - irrelevant)
BHGAL:
I am a firm believer in "HAPPY WIFE: HAPPY LIFE".
but there are of course limits...I recall going to get snipped when I was 37-38, and chickening out, walked out of the clinic. I certainly had no desire to have any more children and still don't, but, the damned, not necessary knife scared me.
An enjoyable life as we grow older should be near the front of considerations. I am nearing 60, damned if I am gonna change diapers or do elementary homework, or take the youngster to classes. shit, my 20+ year olds still share enough issues with me.
