Yeah, I'm the only young foreign woman in this city that I know of. From all the crap I hear the guys have to deal on this site, I am either lucky, or it's just completely different for female expats. I'm almost never treated in a rude way by anyone. Everyone has been really nice to me, sometimes to the point where it's annoying. For instance, they will always offer me a seat everywhere I go, and if there's only one seat, they insist that I take it, even if I don't feel like sitting. It just makes me feel silly. On the plus side, it means that if I need something, they will take care of it for me. For instance, I said that my room was cold, so the director alotted money to pay for a new comforter, which I didn't expect. On the downside, sometimes I feel like people treat me a little like a child. I think this is partly culture (being a girl), partly feeling like they think I need help because I am a foreigner alone at this school. Sometimes it bothers me, but I usually let it go.

I find that a smile and thank you goes a long way, and people smile back. What bothers me the most is the staring, but I think it is because of being the only young female foreigner in this city, maybe even for several years. I think it's also much more difficult to get a boyfriend than for foreign men to get a girlfriend. I think there are many cute Chinese guys, and I don't know enough Chinese to talk to them, as well as the usual culture difficulties. Most of all, I find it difficult to reciprocate their hospitality. I don't carry around food to share with friends. I don't cook at my house, so I can't invite people over for a meal. If I need help with someone, there is always someone willing to help me, so I try not to ask for much. I only teach 12 hours a week because I dropped my part time jobs from last semester. Now I just feel bored as there isn't much to do, and no other young expats to hang out with.

I don't know how to compare myself to other female foreigners either, and it's always been a question for me as well. Am I treated well because this is a small town? Is it because I'm a girl? Is it because they think I'm pretty? Is it because they feel bad for me? Am I better off than other female expats, or is this how most are treated? I have no idea, and there aren't many regular female expats on this site, either, so I don't know how many answers you will get.

there was a foreigner female teacher in my school before.

she was in here for about one and half year, and we spent a lot of time together. she was pretty when she was young, big eyes, and high noses. everyone loves her. but in fact i donnot think she was happy here. every week she had 15 hours coueses, besides that, she had nothing to do. in fact, once she had bought a cat in the market. but was dead very soon, it made her so sad. finally, she left china and decided not come back again. it is because once she met somebody was selling dog's meat in a county. dog is athe friends of us, how could chinese eat dog's meat.

once came into a country, you have to accept anything may happened
. as a foreigner, you have to find a chance to make friends.

I am here with my husband, so I find it interesting to compare my experience with his. We live in a smallish city, by Chinese standards. There are enough foreigners in the city to have a couple of expat bars, but not so many that we aren't a novelty. There are many more foreign men than women.
We both get stared at a lot while we are out and about, but that is usually as far as it goes for me. My husband is more likely to get people saying 'hellooo' or asking questions. I tend to get left alone. This might just be because I am not very friendly-looking, whereas my husband is.
People tend to be polite and helpful to me. My Chinese is good enough to ask for what I need and, mostly, to understand what is going on. 
I am an old, married woman, so I wouldn't expect men to chat me up, however I think they see me a completely different species anyway.
My husband does get attention from the girls, sometimes even when we are together. Luckily, we have a very secure marriage!
Shopping is tricky and it is impossible for me to get suitable make-up and toiletries or clothes to fit. So, I will probably end up a bit scruffy. Luckily, Shanghai isn't too far away for occasional shopping trips to preserve my appearance and sanity.
Overall, my experience of living in China is really positive. I agree that a smile goes a long way.