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Q: Is he just making excuse to avoid me?

I met a French guy in resturant during his working break. He went on vedio chat with me after he went back. But after that he never sent me messages anymore. I asked him the reason,he just told he was too busy and did not have much time for wechat and he did not see the messages I sent to him before. After that,he did not contact me again.

Is he making excuses to avoid me?

I guess he still got time to eat,to pee and sleep,right? Then he has no time even for one message? He has not contacted me for four days.

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He's just not into you Vicky. End of story. 

 

Next please......

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Perhaps he is busy. I thought you would know the difference between a western and Chinese man by now Vicky. Western guys don't like women who send them 1000 messages a day. You mentality of he isn't dead so must have time to talk to me is not good. Give him some space, of he likes you he will contact you.

Strawberry66:

I did not send him lots of messages,just several few messages on wechat during four days.He has not contacted me for 4 days and I have a very bad feeling that he will not contact me latter.

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Hulk:

This. It's annoying to get a million messages a day from a woman who won't give you any space. Huge red flag...

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Strawberry66:

I did noxt send him lots of messages.Only very few messages in four days and he did not talk with me much.Now I am done with him.

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Shining_brow:

"Now I am done with him."

 

That's funny...

 

He was already "done with" you...

 

Gotta love how people can't actually take rejection - and so they somehow think that they are rejecting the other person instead... Have to make the other person 'wrong'.

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Being too pushy is a big turn off Vicky. He saw all more messages and thought you're desperate .

Strawberry66:

My ex sent me a lot of messages when he was pursuing me.

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RandallFlagg:

And did you enjoy that? Did you respect him?

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Strawberry66:

Lol,I did treat my ex well. And I enjoyed with him.

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RandallFlagg:

I'm referring to him sending you lots of messages. Did you respect him for that? Do you like men to behave neurotic and needy?

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Every woman loves to receive messages from bf everyday.

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Is this a serious question or a half-assed troll??

 

Ok, let's go with the serious question on a whim.

 

Firstly, are you 12 years old? Because that is how this question appears....asked by a 12 year old.

 

Secondly, he saw you (probably all of you) on vedio [sic] and now doesn't want anything to do with you and gave you obviously bullshit excuses "uh, I didn't see your messages". Some may call that a hint to move along, others with a delusion may consider this playing hard to get. I think you should consider that he wants nothing to do with you after your vedio [sic] playdate.

Strawberry66:

I already gave him up and not contact him anymore.It's nothing,we never started dating,just a simple vedio chat and a few messages between us. I don't waste my time on men who do not value me.

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iWolf:

And as of 45 minutes ago your were still pining for him. Good to hear you got yourself sorted within an hour.

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Strawberry66:

Ha ha ha. What can I do with someone who does not like me? Just let him go.

Surely I feel a bit sad when being turned off,but that's how life it is. I have to accept it and go on living my own life.

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iWolf:

Oh my God. Vicky just became a big girl.

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Strawberry66:

I never being a lucky girl to have a bf taking care of me. I work to get paid to support everything I need. Living alone in the biggest city of China without family with me,life isn't easy for me,I cried,I loved,I suffered. But I have no choice,I have to hang on there because it is the way I choosed to be. I hope one day I can meet someone right for me. I just on my way to pursue my love,that's my dream.It's a simple dream,but it's the most beautiful dream I have ever had. No matter how tough it is,I never lose my passion on it.

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Lord_hanson:

Vicky, we don't want to hear your sob story. Most people in the world have to support themselves. As for having to financially support yourself and not having a bf to buy everything for yourself, don't complain to western men about that. You again forget th differences between western and Chinese. Most westerners won't say, oh no, let me buy something for you.

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Strawberry66:

The men who won't buy things for women are materalist. I do not care buying my bf when I have money. Money is not that important compares to love.

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Lord_hanson:

buying things is not love Vicky. It is one thing to buy a gift, that is normal. It is another thing to complain that you don't have someone to buy you things. Gifts shouldn't be expected. If they are demanded then they are a form of tribute. I can only think of one type of person who demands material gain in exchange for affection, a pimps work colleague.

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He's just not into you Vicky. End of story. 

 

Next please......

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Watch the movie "He just not that in to you"

 

It explains everything you need to know about that.

 

4 days... and no contact means he probably won't contact you anymore...

 

Men are like lions (well the real men anyway), when they see something they like... they will pounce all over it... if they don't... well then they don't want it... it's that simple.

 

Men usually don't like to play mind games like women do... sorry.

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I'll say the same as some of the other posters. He's just not that interested in you. No big deal. No need for drama.

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Avoiding you? No.
Why would any man do that.
Your video chat probably stunned him with enthusiasm, and he'll need a week to recover.

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So glad I bought alcohol today...

MissA:

I can't face any of vicky's posts without a glass of wine in hand.

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I think he is just playing hard to get...

This could the ONE.

 

Imagine living in F**** Paris, you don't need to go to French concession for French food, it'll be right there at every corner... Good Luck!! 

Strawberry66:

What do you mean?

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Can you not just accept that he was not that impressed with what he saw.

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you may offer him some space ....or whatever,forget him..

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I never pushed him,let alone giving him space.

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no why surprise

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cant stop laughing hes french ok enough said

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LOL "I guess he still got time to eat,to pee and sleep,right? Then he has no time even for one message? He has not contacted me for four days."

 

Hilarious! Anyways, all jokes aside. Maybe he really is busy, you have the time to pee, eat and sleep so you must have the time to make me a sandwich, clean my house, do my work for me and so forth? Those 3 things you listed are necessary, contacting you isn't.

 

With your attitude, I am not suprised he hasn't contacted you. You aren't dealing with a Chinese man here.

 

 

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