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Q: How can I deal with this guy?
There is a Australian man who is fall in love with me and come to wait for me everyday.He is handsome,but 38(too old for me,I am 25) and he has a girlfriend in Canda.I don't wanna hurt him,seems like his feeling for me is real,he is very nice to me,what should I do?He just can't control himself to see me,that is the only thing he wants,he never touched me.He kowns he has a gf,can't be with me,but just comes to see me evweryday...Mentally,I won't choose this guy
1,He is too old for me even though he is handsome,I have better choices.
2,He has a girlfriend already,I don't wanna rob someone's boyfriend.
But it is nothing wrong for this guy to fall in love with me,how should I deal with him without hurting him?Cause he is very protective and very considerate to me.Never a guy being so nice to me actually.lol
11 years 13 weeks ago in Relationships - China
Ask yourself,do you want to be with someone LIKE HIM ? If no ,tell him,Leave you alone please.
crimochina:
you really need to become friends with vicky, she needs to learn how to judge guys. just qq pals. if you do, i promise to stop dreaming about you.
He has a girlfriend back in Canada, but he's an Australian guy? Why would he leave his girlfriend there? Long-distance relationship? Whatever, just tell him to screw off. Don't bother with him.
Let me tell you this: if someone is willing to cheat on someone else in order to be with you, they're not worth it. They'll just do the same thing to you later down the road when they find someone "better." Either he ends the relationship and seeks someone else, or he's a pig.
Victoria1987:
He is working in Canda,just come to China for short time business.He just has some problems with his girlfriend who he has been with for 10 years.I am not planning to have anything with this guy.I prefer a funny young western man
cause I am a young lady
crimochina:
vicky, do you know what lines are? do you really think everything everyone tells you is the truth?
of course his feeling for you is real. he really wants to have sex with you. if you really want to have sex with him, go ahead. but do not start planning the wedding and thinking about kid's names. it will just be sex. read your post. and just se isn't a bad thing, if with me it could be a great thing.
Actually, if you want to get rid of him, start "planning" the wedding and naming children. Tell him this often. And also about how the first time you make love on your WEDDING NIGHT, it will be incredible.
First date, he needs to meet your parents and extended family.
This should make him back off.
MrTibbles:
Also, tell him it's traditional in Chinese culture to buy you and your family all iPads before you can kiss.
MrTibbles:
@ Grimya - actually, I'd expect that from an 18 year old girl. From a 25 year old girl, I'd expect her to take whatever she can get, as an unmarried Chinese woman at 25 will never ever find a man as she is far too old.
MrTibbles:
And yes, I am kidding. But a lot of Chinese women feel this way.
I think he is too young for you, only 38. look for a foreigner that is 83
Hey I'm 38 and have dated many 24-25 year old women before my current gf who is 28.
Age is relative and means little if you have a real connection.
He is either smitten with you and looking for an excuse to leave his long time gf or he is just horny....but really if he is just horny and he lives in China then he could get action whenever he wanted if he tried even a little....he obviously cares for you.
The question is...do you like him? This is all that matters.
Shining_brow:
Absolutely!! (although, I too often find the 24-25 year old girls here are too much like 15 back home :(
Victoria1987:
if he is 10 year's younger,has no girlfriend,I am sure I will be with him.But...for now..impossible
.I was one of the girls for my ex,I don't wanna risk to have a unfaithful bf anymore.I don't wanna make his gf sad also,that is not good.
1. i guess he got even more choices than you. 2. in any case someone younger would again rob him from you
Don't be fooled. He just wants to get inside your __! I've heard this story plenty of times before. He's trying to woe you into falling in love with him. Who knows what his true intentions are! What about the girl in Canada...how does he treat her? Seems to me he likes to cheat or do things when people don't notice.
You're 25, better grab one while you can. 38 isn't too old, anything under 75 is fair game for you.
TedDBayer:
You're chasing man and being picky? Like I said anything under 75 will do for you. 38 certainly isn't too old.
