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Q: How do you stay positive?

11 years 42 weeks ago in  Health & Safety - China

 
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By knowing that even though I have a difficult time keeping in contact with friends now, when I go home I can call my best friend and we can cry together and I can visit her. Honestly that's the only thing that helps sometimes. I miss her terribly, but she is often busy and doesn't always have good internet. Well, I have slow internet too. Since I only have 2 weeks left, I don't think I can be very unhappy. Time that was going so fast has slowed down. Everything here has lost importance or interest in my eyes. All that matters is that I will go home. I tear up just thinking about it. Before I came to China I have never been homesick, and I'm not exactly home sick now. I don't miss my house, or my family, or my normal life. What I miss is the food, my friends, and having a nice place to live without giant spiders.

 

I think everyone stays positive in their own way. What works for you? I know you've said you want out, but you have to stay. Maybe there are some changes you can make so life can be a little easier. I have struggled with mild depression since I began high school and it has never gone away. It's just one of those things where if you understand it, it's easier to deal with. Having something worth living for is the easiest way to stay positive, feeling like you have a purpose. It's not that I never have happy days. I do, but in the end, it all comes back to wondering what I'm supposed to be doing as a human being, why I'm a human being. Why am I a human being? I don't know. It feels like experiencing everything through a corrupt or defective layer. Feels unnatural, just saying.

 

Eat some chocolate or something.

danielmarino:

The eating chocolate thing works great!

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By keeping things in perspective. Many of the negative things that happen are really, in the grand scheme of things, not important. And the weird things are, well...just weird. You won't be here forever, and in the meantime, look upon your experience as just that; an experience.

 

I've been here three years. Not that long, really, but long enough to where I've learned to not let too much bother me. People are just people. When they are rude or I fail to understand the reasoning behind what they do or say, I remind myself that there are strange and rude people all over the world. it just seems there are more in China, because there are lots and lots of people here, so it turns into a numbers game. Situations I used to find frustrating, now I just laugh at. Keeping a sense of humor goes a long way, and there is sooo much to find amusing where I live. 

 

Another thing that has helped me, believe it or not, is that I enjoy taking photographs, so my camera goes with me just about everywhere. I take a lot of photos, and this, for some strange reason, has helped me see things a little different. Now I actually look for weirdness to happen, lol.

 

So, in summary, don't expect too much, laugh a lot, and shoot everyone...digitally, of course. It works for me... wink

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Digitally, you say.... I shall keep that in mind, thanks.

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I think as much as you try to stay positive, I believe negative energy around you can bring you down.
Somethings I do to help me is I like to rid my negative energy at the gym....
And also keep telling myself that this is only temporary, I will be going back home, where it's comfortable and pleasant. And I will appreciate everything more after this experience here.

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A nice long bike ride in the morning before traffic gets going. That starts the day off well. And when things are double plus ungood, just gotta remember why you are here, and try to tune out the annoyingness as white noise

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Try to meet positive people and hang out with them. Think on the bright side and don't have to many regrets. Things won't last so just keep that in mind and make the best of what you are doing. When it's time to move on you will just move on and don't try to remember the negative side of things instead try to focus on the positive whatever that may be.

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I stay positive by not giving a shit...If you get too serious then you start losing it frown

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I agree with gladosich, I take lots of pics every place I go and the pics are great, they always have something to say.

I make people laugh, I'm always joking around. When I make someone laugh it also picks me up, it's just how I am.

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Do something out of your comfort zone.

 

Spend time with a friend you haven't spent time with in a while. You'd be surprised how the different atmosphere makes you feel.

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by knowing what i've got and how blessed i am with bunch of caring friends and family

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Today, I am finding it quite hard....

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That's what she said!

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How can you not stay positive?

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I drink lots, starting early in the morning helps to make a nothing day seem worth while.

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I'll second that!

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How early are we talking? Before midday, early?

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My wife, my new daughter, and a few strong drinks and a good massage

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