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Q: How long before you sleep with a Chinese girl
I'm seroius and not making fun of another much missed and loved post. So cat live me alone.
I met a nice woman in China. I went to church with her the first day I met her, so you know I did like her. She asked me out for a beer, which surprised me. Later when we went out we were joined by the GF, thats normal. It just contined from there very slowly.
The three date rule doesn't seem to apply in China. Is there a play book for Chinese girls? No Ipads were envolved, (what's an Ipad?) I did not push the matter at her place as I did not want to stay there and I started avoiding my hotel due to the flocks of chickens waiting for me. Yes guys I didn't score one.
12 years 30 weeks ago in Relationships - China
First off, why waste your time with chickens... there is never a reason to have to pay.
Second, for your question, you can't always bring them home the first night you meet (she is normally out with a group of friends and doesn't want to look bad in front of them). But the first night you take her out for drinks one-on-one should be all you need.
Then again I've never used the church as a first date.... so you might be dealing with a slightly different class of girl than what I have flocking to me.
if you have been talking to her through qq for over a month right when you meet her in person. otherwise it can really vary 1 week -3 years. depends on where you are , is she seeking marriage how long before she thinks you are serious about marriage, and has she been hurt before. meeting girls at singles mixer are the best they took at most 2 weeks to crack, but you gotto let them believe you're looking for marriage. which means a very tearful break up
That depends on how do u think...
I dated a Canadian for 3 months... Never slept together...
I know someone slept with a guy at the first night, and they are still happily together...over 3years till now...
Just try to sleep with her. If she turns you down who cares? If she likes you she'll still see you again.
My wife wouldn't even let me kiss her until we'd dated five weeks. On the other side of things, my record to be in a cab back to her place is 25 minutes.
So who knows?
How about if you really like her, does your question really matter? Sounds as if you met someone nice so why don't you let nature take it's course? Is it really necessary to soil your oats or find someone you enjoy being with? Answer these questions and I do believe you can find your own answer. If you can't than your not looking for a long lasting relationship so stick with the chickens
DaBen:
Sex is part of that long lasting relationship, bring a whole other level of closeness and togetherness. So if he has met that special person, then the sex will only heighten their bond. Come on techezee, it's a magical time that leaves both partners pleased and emotionally complete (unless you're into more of the triple thrust and done mentality). If he is serious about the relationship, then seeing the sparkle in her eyes afterwards will only seal the deal for his heart.
TedDBayer:
I really do like her. She asked me why I'm not married. She asked me out for a beer. But She does not act like a home woman. I treat women well. It is difficult for me to read her.Her English is OK and I laugh when I get a ' I dunno' cause I find it cute. I also had to come home, which I really didn't want to.
If you're ready to be pushed into marriage then go for it.
I make it clear the first 10 minutes, I'm married and have a GF, if they stick around it's bonus... If the run, who cares, NEXT!
Frenchie:
You are pathetic as one can possibly be to the male race. You should be castrated like a cow.
i think you r honest, so dont ever listen to the jerks like Mr crimo n Mr Njord,
if you really like her , let her take her time, it doesnt mean you have to wait so long, just like techezee said : let nature take it's course. it depends on what kind of woman she is n what experience she had n whatz her idea about sex n dating.before you know her, dont push her anything.
n what will help n what you have to do is show her you honesty,tell her your feeling(dont lie),treat her well honestly, tell her about your life which will let her know you truly like her.....actually no need to mention marriage,if she doesnt sooo want marriage, it will just sound lie....
of course, give some slightly hints, create some romantic aura...
then, i think you two will go there soon n begin a serious relationship.....
wish you luck man! 
PS:if you dont think she's worth doing all this, then just go for the chickens...
Njord:
Jerk? I never lie to them or pressure them, I never promise anything or lead them to believe I will be have an exclusive relationship and I make it 100% clear marriage ISN'T on the menu... I never mislead them. I don't go to bars or clubs, KTV nothing, I meet normal girls that work at banks, stores, supermarkets restaurants etc... So if my being honest about my intentions makes me a jerk who knows what the phuck you want...
Njord:
You seem to have confused with a man wanting sex with having a long term relationship... See that is not what he's asking, he's asking how much does he have to work to get a little pussy, if you need to work it to long, it's a waste of everyone's time...Trust me there are lots of VERY curious Chinese girls that want to get some something something going on before their mama's make them marry "Homer".... Hell I think we're providing a public service, I should get a medal!
sophiemars:
well ,u said it! i dont know, but i dont think im confused with his question,n your words made you sound like a jerk! i do think so! baby.what!or am i supposed to admire you for being hoestly n giving the girls sth sth sth going on before....., well i cant , u have not taught me that n u dont have a chance! jerk, so what, itz your life,but believe me ,jerk,can be very honest! actually itz the good kind jerk....
Yeah, Njord, you are being a jerk. It's your attitude, not your honesty. Like many foreigners here, you seem to be treating China like your own personal whorehouse.
@ TedBayer: 3 date rule? Are you a 70's child? 
There are no rules in love unless you are playing a game. Rules are for games. You want to make love to her or just have sex? There is a big difference. Making love involves flirtation, communication, romance, and patience. Sex is just banging in the dark to fulfill your own needs. Actually, I no longer find pleasure in the latter. You said you really like her? Treat her respect and wait until she is ready. You will know when she is ready. Chinese girls are much like all other girls. They want to be loved and feel secure. When they have this, they will do anything for you.
I never said I wanted to sack her quick. I just don't understand the dating protocols. i think I got to date 6 before I got a hug and was allowed to kiss the cheek. From what I read about Chinese women that after date 3 they start thinking of you as marriage material. I'm trying to figure someone out, that doesn't speak English well. I don't want to hurt anyone.
But on the other hand China does have whore houses and I've never even seen one before. The pimps and the girls chased me, so WTF , I was on vacation.
I'd probably be like Njord too, but I'm in different shoes, size 12. If they chase you, whats a poor boy to do.
if she is dating you this long (and without sex), she is probably looking for serious relationship. Be careful! a serious relationship with a Chinese girl can quickly lead to marriage. If this isn't what you had in mind, then find another. You will only hurt her. I have found 3 categories of girls in China: Traditional girls who want a serious relationship and no casual sex, Girls who are curious about the free lifestyle of foreigners (including casual sex), and the mercenary type that uses sex to separate you from your cash.
