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Q: I wonder what are the reasons?

I started to plan on things logically for finding a bf.

 

I went to those pubs, spent less time on the phone, try to appear not occupied. But most times, guys didn't come to me.

 

I went to language events, there are some cute guys there. I tried to go sit the same table with some guys, they don't really seem very interested in talking to me. Actually most just didn't talk to me.

 

I saw many cute guys walking near me in the street, most also don't come to me. I didn't notice they were looking at me either.

 

I am shy when comes to bf hunting. I usually will pretend that I didn't look at the guys I found attractive even that I did peeked a bit.

 

So I dress stylist to go around those places where those cute guys walk around. But I wonder why they don't come to me most of the time? Just sometimes there are guys approached me.

 

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not trying to be rude just asking a question

 

do you take peoples advice?

Hotwater:

"do you take peoples advice?"

 

Vicky has asked this and other questions many times in the past. If she took peoples advice she wouldn't keep making the same mistakes and having to ask the same questions over and over again........

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Hi Viki, I don't know you but I can say that you try to hard. No one wants a girl who tries so hard. Just chill. Stop going out of your way to do what you think guys like or want. Be yourself. Forget about stylish. Be yourself. That is what is attractive. Not an obviously contrived pickup artist. You will never find what you are looking for until you stop looking. When you least expect it in a place you never expected.

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If you look you wont find a boy friend,enjoy your life at the moment being single,you will meet the right person when you least expect it.

 

if you look it wont happen

 

 

Viki87:

Then you are lucky by getting when you are not looking.

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When I was young I got the best advice for love:Don't look for love; it will find you.

Viki87:

Love don't just happen if you sit at home. Just a few people are lucky to get by just sitting there.

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I'm sure this has been brought up before, but have you tried dating websites?

 

 

Viki87:

Tried a lot. Most guys on dating site just looking for fuck.

 

 

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i thought thats craigslist

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Yes it is

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why do you want a boy friend so bad?

Viki87:

It's nice too. I really want to be loved.

 

Come home from work, eat dinner with boyfriend, it's so cute, isn't it?

 

I was waiting my ex going home, we ate meal together and watched film together, then cuddled with him together. It is the life I want. I miss it but can't get it back. All I can do is find a new bf

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not trying to be rude just asking a question

 

do you take peoples advice?

Hotwater:

"do you take peoples advice?"

 

Vicky has asked this and other questions many times in the past. If she took peoples advice she wouldn't keep making the same mistakes and having to ask the same questions over and over again........

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"Come home from work, eat dinner with boyfriend, it's so cute, isn't it?

 

I was waiting my ex going home, we ate meal together and watched film together, then cuddled with him together. It is the life I want."

 

Viki, 

a dog would do all these things, with the added advantage that no matter how badly or irrationally you treated a dog, it would still love you.

A dog would put up with someone who thought only of themselves, initiated drama or ignored them.

 

A dog would be a very good companion for someone who had problems interacting with rational people, someone who is self-absorbed.

 

A (decent) bf on the other hand would require someone who is capable of behaving rationally, an adult woman for instance, and not treated like a commodity that had to be 'hunted'. 

 

if you have tried to get a bf before, do you have any idea why you failed to retain one?

 

I know it is useless to suggest you do some self examination, but it is the best advice to someone who repeats the same behaviors over and over.

 

"insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results'

 

Could it be that you don't want to change your life because of all the attention your get here?

I suppose online attention is better than no attention at all.

Viki87:

I am trying to improve how I treat bf. Sure I have problem too.

 

But it's really hard to find a good bf, several bfs or date who left me then got married to other women or found new gf. They then tried to ask me to either have vedio sex or real sex.

 

I feel pity for their wife and gf. I feel better off they left me.

 

I happen to know many married  foreign guys who tried to cheat their wives with me.

 

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viki

if you claim to know married men who try to cheat with you, maybe it is because it is something they see in you that is not that attractive for a long-term relationship.

 

why would you video chat with married men anyway ?

do you not know about appropriate boundaries? (rhetorical question)

if they are trying to have sex with you it is not all their fault, but there must be something you are doing that is leading them into thinking this.

 

it is not all their fault, especially if this is happening again and again (see comment above about insanity)

 

they probably smell your desperation.

get a dog - your most likely chance of a fulfilling relationship, and if you need to have sex, a one night stand should be enough for you.

 

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Oh my goodness. You are so stubborn. Blondie.

 

I am single, I can sleep with whoever I want, married men or unmarried men. 

 

The only fault is them trying to get me on bed when they are either married or having gf.lol

 

And I didn't sleep or have vedio sex with my married ex, even if I did, it will never be my fault if I am single.

 

My fault is only for having a curvy body.

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Why do you guys continue to entertain this? Stop answering her questions. She obviously comes on here and poses us these questions all of the time to compensate for the fact that she gets no attention in real life. I don't think that she intends to learn anything from any of us. She just wants the attention, quite sad really..

dom87:

because these are the only threads that someone opens?

This forum is pretty much dead otherwise

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