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Q: if your GF/BF live with a another Man\Woman in a small flat,will you ok with that?

My BF wants rent the attic of his flat to others while I am not in China . And he wants to rent it to a Girl. I asked him why it has to be a female ?He said because girl can keep the fat clean.

 

(The fat is very small, about 35--40 m2 and there is a room and a attic without a door,the sofa is just big enough for 2 peoples. Small kitchen  and small bathroom.Any way ,the flat we live in is normally is for couple  or single person to live in .)

 

And I told him that I am uncomfortable with that he live with other girl in the flat. Of course he said this is because my “Typical Chinese Girl Jealous”. It is all my problem , not his. And he said this relationship is not healthy!

 

I wonder if it  is really my problem or what …?

 

He always said that it is so nice that he doesn’t need to deal with other Chinese people and just stay at home , relaxing at weekend. But now , he told me that he doesn’t mind to share that flat with other girl! And I should not feel any unhappy with that. If I feel uncomfortable then this relationship is soooooooo unhealthy.

 

He always said that when I am in UK,I will meet a lots people ,and he said I might meet someone else(which I never thought about ).Is he trying to let me know that once I left China ,he will find another woman ?

 

Am I too sensitive? Or I am just too stupied?

 

If your GF/BF live with other man in a small flat, will you ok with that?

10 years 50 weeks ago in  Relationships - Other cities

 
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i think you have good reason to be concerned, but if he is going to cheat on you it won't matter if it is with the girl upstairs or someone else.

I think Chinese girls do get a little crazy, but in this situation you have the right to uneasy.

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Dump him

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Agreed, time to get rid.

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There are far too many Chinese girls interested in foreign men for either party to be thinking clearly. I would imagine that he is not as interested in you as you are in him. That's been the overwhelming majority of cases with me, and I am a morbidly obese slob.

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if for some reason you want to keep the guy, great sex,money,etc  find a girl to live in the apartment yourself for him. better the enemy you know than the one you dont know

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I think it is time to "upgrade" to "Boyfriend 2.0".

Dump this one, he is already looking for an excuse to spend time alone with another girl, AND he is trying to deflect your  (valid) misgivings by implying that you will or may cheat on him in the UK.

Once you are gone, he will probably do what he wants.

I really think you can do better. MUCH better.

Good luck!!!!

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Yeah, dump him. Everyone else who tells you to dump him is spot on. The guy just wants to sleep around.

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Listen to all the posts above.

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tell him goodbye. he is not serious about you.

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dump him and don't even waste your time and energy to think about him.

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