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Q: Is it easy for you to say love ?

 

I have a student , who is American. the minute when she learned 我爱你 i love you .

She just can't stop it saying  I love you我爱你 , i love you我爱你 , i love you 我爱你to me every day  . At first , I was very happy .But later on , i feel nothing !

First of all ,That's too much : i love you ! 我爱你

Second of all, she use i love you我爱你 as an excuse  to get rid of homework !

LOVE is so easy for foreigner to speak out . Sometimes you can't tell it true or not .

But a lot harder for Chinese to say it . Once you say it , you truly mean it !

 

About culture , I  shocked .

 

3 years 37 weeks ago in  Culture - Shenzhen

 
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Where i come from, these 3 words can be used in many different contexts, and the tone gives an idea of what is meant: here are a few examples

 

1) if you are expressing how you feel to your bf/gf/husband/wife

2) thanking someone who has done a big favour (let you off homework)

3) looking for a favour

4) sarcasm

 

there are many other reasons to use these words 

yes, it is cultural

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Where i come from, these 3 words can be used in many different contexts, and the tone gives an idea of what is meant: here are a few examples

 

1) if you are expressing how you feel to your bf/gf/husband/wife

2) thanking someone who has done a big favour (let you off homework)

3) looking for a favour

4) sarcasm

 

there are many other reasons to use these words 

yes, it is cultural

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I love you man!

As Sorrel says, it doesn't have to mean people have deep affection for one and other, but can be simply a compliment. I've found especially west-coast americans to be somewhat over-expressive

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It may be cultural, but the word 'Love' does/usually have a special meaning for us (I'm from Aust.) & other Western cultures.

Its only, mainly thru t the Americans (USA) have demeaned the word, e.g. on stage/promotion etc 'I Love you Baby'..Love you Bro' etc its a term that's bandied about often, & it seems to me has lost it's real meaning.

It is a term we use for family members, pets etc.

However, here in China its also used , by guys (foreign!) to get girls into bed. And apparently it works in many cases. Personally. Its not my thing, cos I still think that it's a special word & should only be used in honesty.

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love you long time

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In the UK it's common for some people to call you "love".

 

I suspect it's not so much a cultural thing, but a lack of lingual inflection.

 

Saying "Awww, I loooove you so much teach"  in a flirty manner is a lot different from saying " I love you" over a candle lit dinner.

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In China, girls say "我爱你" after meeting me once, or constantly.

 

- Add them to your QQ list? "我爱你."

- Confront your ex for cheating with five rich guys from Shanghai who had rolexes and radiation-hardened microchips? "我爱你."

- Walk down a street on your campus? "hey... 我爱你."

- Find someone trying to learn English? "I love you."

- Get in a taxi cab with some dude? "I looooooove yooooooooooou.. hahahahahahahhahahaha"

 

IF I HEAR SOMEONE OTHER THAN MY WIFE AND DAUGHTER SAY "I LOVE YOU," OR "我爱你" ONE MORE TIME, I'M GOING TO FLIP OUT AND KILL MYSELF. I'M GOING TO CUT OFF MY HEAD ON THE ESCALATORS AND LET IT GET STUCK IN AN INFINITE LOOP, NEVER MAKING IT UP OR DOWN THE STAIRS.

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Your student, as all nationalities, as all human beings, has the capacity to express love.  It is a powerful emotion we all long and strive to demonstrate, no matter what we say. 

 

I'm shocked that your culture shocked.  Your student sounds like a parrot excitedly repeating some new phrase the master has taught.  Explain the connotations of 我爱你 and how it makes you uncomfortable because you understand its power and significance   This is not cultural, the word is tossed around carelessly all over the planet.

 

If I tell someone I love them, I truly do.  If someone tells me they love me or I can literally feel someone expressing love to me, I try and be aware of that.  It makes the moment sweeter. 

 

 

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Put the kettle on, luv.

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Sounds like you should actually do some real teaching instead of focusing on cliche expressions...  Either that or be careful to make some explanations to accompany possible culture sensitive topics.

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Sorry for another post...  But if you ever go to Shanghai, don't stare across the Bund at the tall buildings.  there will be a giant, confusing, even offensive I <3 Shanghai displayed on one of the buildings.  not sure how I feel about being forced by the city of Shanghai to love it...   But as soon as I read it in my head I have no choice!

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What is this thing called love?

What's this thing called, love?

 

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I am incapable of saying silent "e"s, so no, i cannot say it.

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It is hard for me to say that to others except my family.

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Every day is full of happiness!

 
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Love spelled backwards is Evil

 

*ok,,, spelling's not my strong poynt

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All You Need Is Love

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Love Love Me Do

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I Want To Know What Love Is

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I love rock n roll

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I love ewe...

 

 

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