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Q: My boyfriend disapeared!

We were planning to meet on Thursday evening, but he emailed me telling me that he felt ill from the bad oil in one Chinese resturant. So he cancelled the Meetup. On Friday, he emailed me agajn telling me he wants to meet me before his flight to Japan, I emailed back for the Meetup. Then he didn't reply. And I know his flight is on Friday night.

 

He told he has to leave China for a week for his visa problem. So it's a brieft departure and he told he would come back to Shanghai after a week.

 

He doesn't use cellphone because he told he doesn't like, we contact each other by email. He doesn't know my cell phone number either. I can't find him now. What's going on?coolI am sad now.

3 weeks 1 day ago in  General  - China

 
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Wanting to be your "boyfriend" but only communicating with you through email?!  If he won't give you his WeChat/phone number...  That should be a major red flag. 

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You might want to consider the possibility that this relationship isn't going to go far Vicki.

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 Maybe this happened:

 

 

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Wanting to be your "boyfriend" but only communicating with you through email?!  If he won't give you his WeChat/phone number...  That should be a major red flag. 

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Smart guy

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Do you lot actually enjoy responding to the BS stories that come out of this fake account? It's like wrestling! 

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After he checked your posts on echinacities , he decided not to wait for his flight , he jumped RIGHTAWAY into the sea swimming to Japan .

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I am going to try and take a sensible view on this so please bear with me Vicki. What do we know about this, well,

 

1. We have a bright sassy girl from a remote village who has moved herself from all those backward ways into a modern, cosmopolitan world called Shanghai. To gain the experience she needs to open her own global trading empire she travels to America.

 

2. On returning to the bright lights of Shanghai she opens her international trading company based upon the knowledge she gleaned from her old employer. She is so hard working and dedicated she even works for other companies as a highly skilled manager, awesome!!

 

3. She meets Mr Right and falls deeply in love and the rotten scoundrel takes off for foreign lands and leaves her heartbroken.

 

Ok now I have turned off the alarm and woken up lets deal with the world of reality rather than the world according to Vicki.

 

1. Girl leaves the village, but the village never left the girl.

 

2.Thinks she has started a business but does not realise selling one or two products to clients she ripped off from an old employer does NOT constitute running a business.

 

3. Goes to a bar where she is totally surprised that no-one took any notice of her despite her amazing ass, we do all remember her photo's of that ass don't we. She has such high standards that she allows a guy she has only just met to get his fingers inside her in the car park. Luckily, for the guy, she resumes her composure and goes home leaving him smelling like some old piece of cod from last weeks fish market. Stay classy Vicki! 

4. She has now found Mr Right, is this the guy in the car park, who knows. She knows he is Mr Right because she has taken her time getting to know him this time and after three weeks, yes folks a whole three weeks, the patience of this girl is amazing, starts dropping boulder sized hints about marriage. She knows him so well she forgot he likes to spend HIS money on traveling and he does not like giving out personal information such as phone numbers.  The poor girl cannot understand what went wrong after all it was three weeks and it should have been perfect just like it was in that documentary, or was it just a movie, she saw by that nice Mr Walt Disney, and just like Blanche on that Streetcar named Desire she turned to the comfort of strangers for consolation and sympathy.

 

For f***s sake Vicki when are you ever going to grow up and start to act and think like an adult. What the hell did you expect was going to happen, he got laid and moved on, get on with it. As I said you may be in Shanghai but the village is strong in you and always will be.

 

 

 

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Sorry to tell you but this guy's whole schtick should have raised a virtual semaphore of red flags.
Did you ever go to his digs for a nookie? No? Oh, colour me surprised.

The flakey itinerant bohemian ragamuffin artist may be exciting and romantic in a romantic comedy movie but i think he is channelling Hugh Grant a bit much to allow any part of his imaginary back story to hold water.

To be unable or unwilling to provide some form of contact in this day and age is ridiculous particularly when he appears well versed in the use of wechat.

You can probably find him at the Pudong Happy Giraffe juggling on a unicycle for the kiddies after which he'll head back to the dormitory for some fast noodles and shoot a few quick emails off to his next prey on www.shag-a-gullible-village-idiot.com.

But kudos for honing your super powers to Avengers level. The super power to hook up with the most obvious sexpat in the neighborhood.

Seriously now, it's time to put this shyster down to a bad experience and move on to the next complete classless loser who comes along.

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He doesn't use cellphone because he told he doesn't like, we contact each other by email.

 

I stopped here. My stomach hurts badly...hahahahahahhaha I mean, really? Vicky is grotesque r!

 

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Make a movie. A spy movie. KGB, RCMP, MI 6, PSB, Scotland Yard, and any other agency you can think of. You could make millions. enlightened

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He just has disapeared for more than a week. 

 

He was being so romantic and loving and I never expected that we would end up likes this.

 

Back to single again then. cool

And the high paid job turned out to be a crap.

So I lost bf and career together.

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Very insightful.

 

That's exactly what i will do next time when i need to disappear on someone.

 

Thanks for sharing Viki.

 

 

 

 

 

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Move on Viki, move on!

 

Clearly he knows how to use email and youtube and facebook!

 

Check this out only when you find a new guy and can laugh about it:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=krQD2ojYv48

 

https://m.facebook.com/jason.epand

 

In this day and age, if a guy wants to find you, he will, by all means.

 

It's not like he doesn't know how to use technology!

 

And if he doesn't use a phone, or wechat, he's not suitable for you, you need someone who can learn to use new tech!

 

And i highly doubt about that too, i stalked on his FB, he was in Shanghai since at least 2013, in 2013, wechat was the number 1 hookup app in China, i stalked even more, in 2013, he was a teacher in china. As a full time or part time teacher and no phone number? I'm not sure how that worked, at least he needed it for opening a bank account, from his reasons for not using wechat -he thinks it's used to hook up, clearly he knows it, clearly he has tried it, not telling you about it? Well, maybe there are something on it that 'a girlfriend' should not see?

 

By the way, the emails he sent to you was using nlp heavily, which was why it felt so irresistible. And his voice felt melting? There was a pua tech to use hypnotic voice to put women into trance to get in their pants and get them tamed so they will get in a trance when they hear that voice.

 

In a word, PLAYER.

 

Viki, next time when you date someone new, please send them to me for an inspection first. I make really good human flesh dumplings and according to the research, white meat is healthier, and imported meat can sell a good price. Wink

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HA!

 

He broke up with you via EMAIL after he slept with you and disappeared on you for over a week? And if that doesn't sound insulting enough, the reason he gave was 'you are not studious', lord, tell that son of bitch who stayed in China for years, lived on this planet for 10 more years than you did and never learnt how to use a phone and how to use wechat, shouldn't he be saving that for himself? And besides, how come he never realized you were not 'studious' enough before he fucked you? 

 

And you Viki, stop finding excuses for that bustard. Who said couples must  have the same interest to make it work? You do not like to read as much as he does, so what? If a man loves you he'll find all the reasons to be with you and if he doesn't, he'll find out all the excuses to get rid of you. And indeed, how long did you guys dated? Who would go on dates in the early stage and expecting 2 people just to read??? 

 

We don't know if he's a player, but let's just keep his links on the site and help other women to avoid such situations in the future.

 

 

Viki87:

Miki, some guys just like this, maybe for him, studious is very important. I am studious but not that hard sometimes. I can't concentrate on studying or reading when a bf is distracting me but it doesn't mean I didn't do it when I was alone. He judged me too fast.

Miki I feel too lonely for never end well in my relationships through all those years. It's tiring and heartbreaking. I tried to be nice with this bf but still I found that I wasn't wanted. Nice just isn't enough to be liked by a man. Oh well, guys always complain that I am not matchable to them. They'll always end up with someone else. I am always the unwanted me. Maybe I am just the boring one and the unwanted one to most guys.

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It's just an excuse Viki. 

 

It's normal to want to spend time with your partner no matter how much you love to read. If he sees you and your relationship as a priority of his life he will make it work out with you despite you read or not.

 

So don't take whatever reason he gave to you very seriously, in fact, don't take him seriously all together, just find someone else.

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Viki87:

Miki, many guys are just like that. They usually go for women who have strong interest on something to what they like to do. Otherwise they'll just break up with you fast no matter how nice you treated them before.

 

I don't have strong interest on any particular thing but I am interested on several things. I am not sure if there's any guy will choose to marry me.

 

Unless there's a guy doesn't care that as much. I am nice I think but to many guys that is just not enough. 

 

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Not at all...

my wife and me have literally no real common hobby or much of an interest.

I do sports, play computer; she watches tv or play on taobao.

These are the times for us. Going out for a walk together just talking etc. is what we do together.

You do not need a common hobby to make a relationship work.

 

btw I am married several years already just to atest.

If you spend too much time together by sharing all your hobbies, that would be terrible annoying. Everyone need their ME time.

 

In your case your guy just found a meaningless excuse to break up with you. Actually I am surprised that he broke up with you instead of never contacting you again and disappearing

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SpongeBob:

Perhaps he felt threatened that Viki started a searching team on ecc and someone such as me actually found him out on the social media. He realized he had to break up with Viki or one day, he'll end up becoming human flesh dumplings. :D 

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Viki87:

Dom87, maybe guys are diffrent, skme guys care about same hobby, some guys like you don't.

 

The fact is he and I actually share the same hobby, just his interest on studying is perhaps stronger.

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Viki87:

Miki, you are the best stalker

But still don't post my ex's info on ecc, that's not nice. It's just his choice to break up with me, we aren't sure if he's a player. I don't hate him.

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