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My Chinese gf is being followed and now apparently harassed by a university classmate. She doesn't know this guy, and yet somehow he knows her name, her phone number, etc. (gf has weibo, renren, etc., or the guy found her info through related friends and or school directory). He's been calling her repeatedly, waiting for her sometimes at the buildings she has class and has confronted her on a number of occasions.
She made it pretty damn clear she wanted nothing to do with him, which evidently had no effect.
So my question is, short of stalking the stalker (went with gf once in campus and he ran off) and beating the crap out of him, what legal recourse is there for these types of situations. Do restraining orders exist, can the university take action here? Is my gf allowed to carry some type of self-defense and possibly physically harm him if she feels threatened?
Maybe I'm going overboard, but I have to assume this guy may be dangerous.
12 years 16 weeks ago in Health & Safety - China
actually a lot of rapes in china start of that way. he is waiting for the right opportunity. the govt cant intervene until she is dead or raped. but then he could say it wasn't rape. if you really care for her. you know what you must do. it is either him or her. preemptive strike. you must do what is necessary to protect her. or be there to pick up the pieces if there are pieces to be picked up
I don't think there is any legal restraining orders here. And even if there was, the chances of them actually being enforced is about zero.
Use a little guangxi, set a trap and make sure the guy gets a very blunt message.
Restraining orders rarely work anywhere.
The only thing you can do is beat the shite out of him. Go with her to school, hang back, and wait for him to approach her. Publicly shame him by calling him a stalker in front of everyone. If he tries to get big then beat him unmercifully. I've been in this same situation and I'm sorry to say that that's the only solution that gets results.
Let him know he's been 'watched' as well... give him a warning - bluntly (but not harshly, unless he gets too big for his boots). If he ignores your first warning, then give him a good second warning..if you need a third warning, he won't get out of hospital too soon (and he's an idiot).
Keeping in mind, stay close to her after the first warning... cos thats' the time he might try something (if he does!) Tell her, she needs to hang with friends more - if she sees him, she calls you, to give him that 2nd and 3rd warning.
Maybe this a situation were you get her father,uncle to speak to him and if it carries on violence
Dude, it's China, find some crooked cops and pay them to pre-emptively arrest and beat the shit outta him.
Aww, you guys are so cute, willing to beat up a guy to protect your girlfriend. I'm a little bit proud.