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Q: Is my problem or his?

I met a 35 years old European guy on smartshanghai dating and we had good conversation for couple of days. And we were about to meet each other on last Wedsday or something but I did not get his message for meet up that evening. At about 8pm,I deleted him from wechat as I felt sad. I did not receive his message until I added him back to wechat. Then he asked me where I was now and he told me he didn't say the exactly time to meet me at night.

 

Then we continued to talk nicely and arranged to meet up on the weekend . He didn't tell me when to meet up in the weekend. I have waitted for him for the whole saturday but did not receive any message from him then I deleted him from wechat again.

I start wondering if it's me being less patience or is he just not a caring and throughtful man?

 

8 years 20 weeks ago in  General  - China

 
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Im  sure you have many problems just that we are not trained shrinks no

Better you settle for Cub and raise new generation of Burger King workers surprise

iWolf:

That's a fascinating thought. Cross-breed a nong with a redneck hillbilly. Call Discovery Channel first so they can film the de-evolution of man. They would manage the shit out of Guiyang Burger King

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You will never know if it you that isn't patient enough when you keep jumping to conclusions

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Why didn't you send him messages on the Wednesday or Saturday asking him if he was still free BEFORE you deleted him?

 

You've now deleted him twice......he's going to think you are an impatient, spoilt little girl. Adults don't delete people just like that.

 

It might be that he is not organised and is also rude. Personally if I was arranging to meet a woman I'd arrange the time in advance and confirm it before leaving to meet her. So the problem is partly his (note I said partly! This does not excuse your impatience).

Viki87:

True. But already deleted him.

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Another one bites the dust...

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"he's going to think you are an impatient, spoilt little girl." Oh, you mean like most Chinese regardless of gender?

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Oh, was this the reason you were crying on the weekend? Poor Viki. sad Don't let jerks mess you about!

Lord_hanson:

Perhaps if you weren't so nasty to people you wouldn't have to cry all by yourself.

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Im  sure you have many problems just that we are not trained shrinks no

Better you settle for Cub and raise new generation of Burger King workers surprise

iWolf:

That's a fascinating thought. Cross-breed a nong with a redneck hillbilly. Call Discovery Channel first so they can film the de-evolution of man. They would manage the shit out of Guiyang Burger King

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i rly dont get why u delete or block ppl just cuz ur angry !!!!! iu can just not talk to them !!!!! unless someone is annoying you or keep sending texts and wont take a hint, i dont see a reason from block or delete !!!!!

 

In  my point of view, its an action which people with insecurity problems tend to do.

Im not judging or anything, just stating my pt of view, my ex used to be like that, whenever she is angry, block+delete. then regret and add again. 

meiduo:

Some people are not worth in your life could delete them all. And some people you have him/her in your contact list for years and you never talked what's the reason to keep them

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Im talking about deleting because your angry. When ur angry or upset and the solution you will come up with isblocking & deleting the contact info, well i believe its just a weak move.

If u just delete without blocking then its ok. because if its a useless contact then its perfectly fine, but why block !!!! especially if ur gonna add again the second u calm down

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Of course his !!

You are  infallible , right ?!   

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sounds to me like someone needs to get la*d.  maybe then the world will work more smoothly for ya. GL !

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If he didn't contact you, he's perhaps busy, forgot or not motivated enough to contact you. Just go and find another guy. Why do you want to meet a guy that forgetful?

 

Normally men would arrange with me at least 1 week in advance if they want to meet me, but my schedule is usually very full, I will have to cancel a lot of dates as I can only meet up to 5 men a week and I don't want to be that busy. And I definitely have no time to check with a certain guy who does not contact me, the moment I loggin my wechat there'll be hundreds of new guys wanting to see me or see me again.

 

Now even when I tell the guys I'm no longer available, they still insist that I should give them a chance. :/

 

Being too popular is a big problem here. But I guess it's the problem that everyone wants. Laughing out loud

Viki87:

Good for you.

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You seem to have more problems than anyone else Vicky, so I will stick my neck out here and suggest it is yours.

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