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anonymous
Q: Should I break up with my boyfriend?
My boyfriend was smoking heroine.He told me to quit and three weeks ago he smoked again.Then he made his mind to quit smoking heroine again.Then tonight I found him call somebody and tired to not let me know.I asked him who was he calling.He lied that was his friend.But I did not believe and kept asking him then he told it was the drug dealer he was calling to.He has no saving because he wasted his money on buying heroine before.And I found he has a bad habit,which is he spent his money fast without even sure if he will have enough food for tomorrow.But as a bf,he treated me good.Should I break up with him?I am so worrying he can't quit drug.
He is American.Pls help me.What should I do?I love him.Now he let me down and i felt so painful.Does anyone smoke heroine before?
9 years 45 weeks ago in Relationships - China
Answer : YES. leave him
i will use short sentences so you can understand clearly
1) don't EVER get involved with someone who uses illegal drugs - simple.
no exceptions - ever.
2) you can not change him if he doesn't want to change.
Guy's don't like girls who want to change them.
3) if you nag him about stopping, things could get nasty - fast
don't ever nag a bf anyway, he won't find it attractive.
It never works.
4) he has lied to you - he probably won't change
5) you have no idea what sort of people he is involved with - they are not nice people
6) if you stay with him, you have only yourself to blame if anything bad happens to you
the most obvious thing is, what he is doing is illegal
it is a no-brainer
EDIT: Don't try emotional blackmail either: "if you love me you wouldn't take drugs" It shows lack of maturity.
royceH:
Sorrel, you are a wise young woman and I suspect that whoever you finish up with will be one lucky bastard!
Robk:
I agree, Sorrel is quite smart and knows what men think as well.
Nagging, never works... it only makes a guy miserable and probably the woman too.
No point trying to control people, life is too short and people will always want to resist.
Victoria1987:
Haha.Then go for your godness Sorrel.Many men are stupid.lol...
Sometimes I think this Victoria girl isn't even real. If she were real, how could she be so stupid as to continually ask for advice on this forum and then get angry and reject it? Why waste the time coming here? She never hears what she wants to hear. It doesn't make sense to me. I don't think she is this stupid. I think it's some type of experiment or something to test our response to common problems??? Some university student in Hong Kong is getting data for his thesis? That's got to be it, right?
iWolf:
You could be correct and this forum is being played. She sounds like Think Tank's(szstuff) biggest fan and/or (ex?) girlfriend who has asked for research information on forums there.
Is this forum her version of lazy research/data aquisition??
How the fuck should I know? Be an adult and make your own decision.
How the fuck should I know? Be an adult and make your own decision.
Victoria is not the biggest problem. The problem is idiots like Sorrel who reply with a detailed answer instead of ignoring her, and the 11 weirdos who then go and upvote her answer. Just ignore her. Her question has f all to do with China, other than she's Chinese.
Englteachted:
I confess to being a weirdo and stupid for posting an answer to this shit.
uuuh my friend ,pliz just leave him....his habit cant be changed.
You and your boyfriend should become travelling acrobats. The money you make will be able to fund his drug habit and as a bonus you will both be travelling acrobats! Be sure to not let him smoke heroin before doing the trapeze - heroin can make you feel dizzy.
Does your boyfriend teach Kindergarten in Huadu, Guangzhou? I know a guy there that has a major cocaine/heroin addiction and burns through all his money for the habit. Short (170-ish cm), thin, dark hair, American...?
