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Q: To those dating Chinese: do you feel the noose of marriage around your neck?
An honest question to those working in China, dating Chinese and with no intention of remaining in China long term.
12 years 22 weeks ago in Relationships - China
What GuilinRaf said, but instead of "do not plan on", rephrase to "I'm not looking to...". It gives the possibility of staying around, and maybe meeting the right person. But, TBH, I'd suggest the stronger version - otherwise she'll be thinking "I could still be the one to make him change his mind".
Most girls here are very, very serious about marriage. If you date one more than 3 times, she is already naming your future children.
I would recomend that you make it very clear from the get go that you do not plan on remaining in China nor marrying said lady. That way misunderstandings can be avoided.
Cong:
what if you don't rule out marriage? you can't know instantly at the start of a relationship whether or not you're going to love someone enough to marry them.
GuilinRaf:
Cong: Very true. One never knows when that naughty little cherub with the magic arrows will strike!
What GuilinRaf said, but instead of "do not plan on", rephrase to "I'm not looking to...". It gives the possibility of staying around, and maybe meeting the right person. But, TBH, I'd suggest the stronger version - otherwise she'll be thinking "I could still be the one to make him change his mind".
I keep reading about 3 dates and you're engaged to a Chinese woman. I did not find this. My GF keeps asking why I don't marry at home. And the 3 date rule, does it apply to hookers also?
At home we have another 3 date rule.
I find most of what I read about China to be just fantasy.
Xpat.John:
The hooker 3 date rule only applies to Thai hookers. :) Ummm... Not that I know that, or anything.
