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Q: Western men are so lovely,isn't it?
I see lots of western men become very lovely and patient when they fall in love with girls.Does most western men are like that?
11 years 13 weeks ago in Relationships - China
Unless they correct your English. Can you rewrite that please?. Just for us western men on this forum?
Western men are so lovely, aren't they? Are most western men like that?
Answer: Yes we are. We know how to treat a lady - romantic fools that we are!!
Scandinavian:
of course some western men are not very patient when it comes to minor language mistakes, isn't they?
DaqingDevil:
Sorry about that, but in this case they isn't. Chinese friends are always asking for English lessons so I thought..................ah well.
Is there a fine line between "bothering" and "help"? I must have crossed it!
Scandinavian:
yeah, the thing about crossing lines is that most of these lines are difficult to spot.
I think the difference between helping and being rude is if people have asked for help or not. Imagine yourself on the street tying your shoelaces and someone walks up to to and start to explain how to do this. Helpful or offensive?
But then again, who am I to give unsolicited advice about this, I myself would correct people :)
grimya:
It's just that this is an informal forum so people should talk freely and relaxed, if we always point the grammar mistakes is difficult to speak like this ;)!!!
I was worried because I thought that maybe you could see my comment as offensive so I'm glad that you understood 
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PD:I'm not native English and I'm sure that I make a lot of mistakes when I write, but I don't wanna be worried each time I write something here ;)!!!
Shining_brow:
Has Vic1987 expressed a wish to have her English corrected? If so, DD is right. If not, then....
I think we are, but not only when we fall in love 
Victoria1987:
It will be nice to get a westen guy and pet him everyday
grimya:
Hahahaha, I cook quite well so I don't need to be fed. Anyway I have other "needs" were you can help 
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Victoria1987:
I tried a lot to find and meet western looking guys,but all of them just like running away from me.
Who can tell me why?Am I scarely and insecure to be with ?
Australian men are. Can't say much for the rest of them, though 
crimochina:
aussie men are brutish see crocodile dundee (movies are real) a playful thumbs down on behalf of american men
Scandinavian:
Australians are descendants of British criminals who were shipped far far away, the British genepool was highly influenced by the Vikings pillaging and raping long ago. So basically Australians are Scandinavians... somewhere through the generations the Aussies did loose the skills to brew proper beer though.
Traveler:
See Victoria. American men think movies are real. Stay away from them.
Scandinavian; Australians are actually descended from the rejects of ALL countries, not just Britain, and proud of it. Everybody loves a bad boy
bill8899:
I'll drink to whatever emerges as the overall point of the discourse resulting from this reply.
Make mine a Fosters, Australian for BEER!
Shining_brow:
No Bill... "Fosters" is Australian for "crap we wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole, but we'll sell to whatever morons think it's drinkable" :)
Traveler:
Why do Australians call their beer XXXX? Because they can't spell beer.
hey girl,you made me laugh,thanks for that.
Victoria1987:
maggie
I am sad
I come to SH to look for my love,almost one year I can't find one.
I tried a lot to find and meet western looking guys,but all of them just like running away from me.Who can tell me why?Am I scarely and insecure to be with ?
In order to have more chances to meet them,I give up comfortable apartment to live in international hostel:( Now it is 2013,my prince still havn't come yet:(I came to SH on Feb,2012:( maggie I feel u r wise sometimes,give me some advices,I feel am lost sometimes
Victoria1987:
But what I am telling is the expat guys working in sh,seems like they like me,but very complicated.or did they feel not confidence to being with me?I am a little bit expensive about clothes,did they afraid to being with me?I am sure they like me,but seems like there has some reasons make them run away from me finally.Also cause I am talking a lot with diffrent guys from all around the world cause am a outgoing person who like to talk,will guys who like me get me wrong then run away from me?
(She is easy)And I have my pride,there was a candian young guy I like didn't say hello to me,then I didn't hello back when he saied hello to me latter.Then latter he run away with a french girl,which made me cry.Maggie,tell me if any of the things I tell is the reason
vicky if you want my answer, fall in love with me. (it can be a 1 week fling)
Paolo_Pesce:
... maybe you're cnfusing good mannered wth lovely dear, since we was very young, in our countries, we receive a good education as good mannered kind of persons. The most of mine chinese friends told me then they like me for that reason but, for al of us is just the natural way to be, respectful, friendly and gentleman in every situation...
I can honestly say that I don't find them any different to men anywhere else. But then i've never been romantically involved with either a Chinese 'or' a western man.
Hmmmm.
Nope.....if it ain't happened by now, I guess it ain't gonna.
Love can do amazing and crazy things to a person. The nice Western men are very gentle when they're in love. The bad Western men...? Well, who wants them anyway.
im sure you can find a good man anywhere, nothing to do with where they are from
"Western men are so lovely isn't it" Victoria are you Welsh 
hehe
I am from Brazil...
it depend.... here there are western lovely men but also have many dont mind about the girls, only want to play with girls. many of them don't want to have a serious relationship :(
here in Brazil there are many asian men too, i prefer the asian than western. hehe
@Victoria1987
Thanks for asking my advice, here you go:
Living at a hostel is a terrible idea. It is temporary accommodation, you won't find a guy there who isn't just passing through, maybe that's why it seems guys are running away.
I don't think Shanghai is a good place to find a nice guy. There might be more western guys there but there is also more competition for those guys.
My main piece of advice is to relax, don't obsess about finding western guys. You have your own life, think about making it something that someone would actually want to share with you.
Go make some friends, do things that you enjoy and get involved with good people. Don't change your life for anyone else.
There is a Chinese saying, "The more you expect, the more disappointed you get,"
Good luck.
GuilinRaf:
I suspect that she may be trying too hard. Both men and women sense this desperation to find a mate and are either repelled by it OR take advantage of it for short term fun.
At the same time seems like she is being rather picky. Those that have approached her have been rejected.
Anway, relax, start as friends and gradually, as you discover shared interests you can upgrade to bf./gf status.
OR, you could date Jatin. He is foreign, single available AND in shanghai!
maggiegirly:
Yes,I agree with you ,Guilin.
everyone knows it's pretty hard to find the right one,it takes lots of time ,so,you have to be very patient,otherwise,you would not find her or him If you being hurry or trying too hard.Should take it easy and He or she will probably come to you very soon.
