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Q: What is the best way for me to turn down Chinese men?

I recently had to tell a couple of my Chinese acquaintances that I only date black American men. They gave me a funny look and I knew they were a little offended. I am specifically asking this question because there was this Chinese guy who I briefly communicated with on WeChat and he was trying to get with me but I told him no and that I only dated black men. I also sent him this very rude meme that I posted below. He sent me a message telling me that I hurt his feelings. I now feel bad about how I turn down men of other races and would like some suggestions on how I should say it more politely and respectfully. Thanks in advance.

 

I sent this to the Chinese guy and now I feel like I was a little too harsh.

 

 

24 weeks 3 days ago in  Relationships - Shanghai

 
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Just tell them you need "the big one" and if they ask what that is, just say you wouldn't understand.

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you will find very few Chinese wear a wedding ring, so finding a single person is through social networks of friends, so just tell them you have a significant other already, nobody questions your answer, because nobody wears a wedding ring anyway. It's pretty hard for a Chinese man that is outgoing and flirtatious to find a date, if a man like this actually exists, when you don't know if the lady your hitting on is dating someone or married, no wonder they play computer games and ignore a goddess when she walks by them with out even a glance.

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Chinese men get hurt feelings when the wind changes directions. Stop leading men on and using them for your benefit in the first place, don't accept favors from guys you're not interested in. If they pursue you, simply tell them you have zero interest in them if they continue, delete them

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Best way?  Ask for money.  Gooks are super cheapos.  

haha, I like your puking fox thing...... i think if I were a chick I would also puke if some guy tried to assault me with his penis.  I think if I were a chick i would go lesbo. 

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You can be honest without being mean.

 

Who likes rejection including you, right? Why? It makes you feel there is something wrong with you, at the very least some aspects of you are not good enough.

 

So? Tell the guy there is nothing wrong with him (no bruised ego), he is just not the kind of guy you are looking for. This is the gist, the actual words are up to you.

 

Unless the guy is a psycho wumao, brainwashed by CCP to never take no for an answer, treating everything as a war, which in this case doesn't look like he is, this should work out without a glitch.

 

Just in case you run into a zombie like that (plenty around in china, and you are an obvious target), ie a predator, a warmonger using you as a trophy, be ready for combat mode. That I think you are well trained for. Blunt, mean, whatever....doesn't matter, because these are psychopaths.

 

 

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They must be wondering why you are in China.

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Just tell them you need "the big one" and if they ask what that is, just say you wouldn't understand.

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Nice one Tami. You are really on a roll.

I'm just wondering why every post is about skin color and your racial superiority?

Shit, that sounds like a skinhead.

But to answer your question....99.9999% of people have never met an African-American and you may be misconstuing their intentions. Yeah, yeah, i know you've been to a few countries and hated being with whitie, but China is a whole different animal
What you think is going on, is never what is going on.
You may reasonably believe they are hitting on you because they tell you you are beautiful blah blah blah. Being fresh off the boat you don't yet understand that everyone is a beautiful girl or handsome boy. Everyone.
Maybe you think you are all that and that is the problem.
Or of course, which is equally likely, the Chinese boys just want to shag a foreigner.

Your best solution is, if you like them as a friend, to put them straight in The Friend Zone. "You are just like a brother to me". Call them "uncle" or "brother". That shit is universal.

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Just curious... why would you only date "black American men"?

 

Why not "melanated American men?"

 

And, why only Americans??? Are Canadians not good enough for you? (let alone those from other continents and countries)..

 

 

(yes, I'm giving you shit.... especially about the first bit.... 'black men', but you're a 'melanated woman'...

 

I totally agree with you about the white/everyone else categorisation... and it makes me wonder why you're not just 'American', without any need to further 'identify'. The only time I think such things should be asked about would be census time, and that's merely for statistics... but then, I come from a country that actually understands the concepts of 'freedom' and 'privacy')

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Just tell them you have a foreign husband back home. 

 

 

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Turn their knob counter-clockwise.

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Just start talking to them. Start with your ethnicity diatribe.

 

Guys will start slowly backing away from you, looking around them for the guys in the white coats and edging toward the nearest exit. You'll be left alone.

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Just say you are gay

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Come on Guys; she is just making an excuse so she doesn't have to have sex with the guy! I"m half North American Indian
. But nobody in the family comes from India. Come to think of it, they might have come from China a couple of thousand decades ago. Maybe that's why I will date only Chinese girls.devil

But I wouldn't know if they came from Taiwan, Hong Kong, Korea (North and South), or even from Canada

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You can send the guys who are interested in you this clip when they ask you what kind of guys you like, hoping they can appreciate the humor. 

 

http://h5.m.xunlei.com/h5/page/wx-short-video/index.html?_t=4990217&origin=a_sl_app_v5.33.2.4660&id=35243136344395776&appVersion=10820&appType=android&storid=651833e277

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@diver It isn't that bad, those are the bests. Yeah, the yellow one looks like it is at fairly high speed, judging from the distance it uses to accelerate. The norm probably looks like this.

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