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Sign up with Google Sign up with FacebookQ: What do you do when your best friend's girlfriend wants you?
Was recently invited by my best friend, who teaches in another place that is close to mine, to stay over at his place. He's a very nice guy and has been asking me over for some time as we came in at the same time. I obliged and turned up at his place.
He was with his girlfriend, who is from Africa, and told me hat he had forgotten to mention that his girlfriend is staying with him. I felt awkward, and had wanted to book into a hotel but my friend insisted that I stayed with him.
Both our off days were on the same days and this made it convenient for us to spend good time together. In any case, we finished the day at the pub and came back home late.
My friend excused himself as be had too much to drink. I could not sleep as it was a new place and so was on the sofa when his girlfriend came over, and started chatting with me. She then said something shocking to the extent that she does not mind being with me, and was trying to convince me that she was good for it. She had thought that I would jump at the idea and have sex with her. I gestured that I have no wish to be be engaged in anything and that she should be with my best friend.
Feeling disappointed with my answer, she too had gone to bed, where my friend was.
i have been thinking of this episode and was wondering if I should tell my friend. What do all of you think? Should I keep quiet about the episode or should I sit my friend down and explain what had happened.
Bro's before ho's. What would you want with a girl who cheats on her boyfriend.
crimochina:
protected sex, but not with her friends gf. but if it was a strangers gf, go for, just be sure to wear a raincoat
Scan's right, but kick yourself in the ass anyway.
Scandinavian:
Yes, even when it is the right thing, saying no to sex is always wrong unless you are a bearer of the heavy burden that is a wedding band
this is clearly your friend's fault.
"He was with his girlfriend, who is from Africa, and told me hat he had forgotten to mention that his girlfriend is staying with him. I felt awkward, and had wanted to book into a hotel but my friend insisted that I stayed with him."
like i said on an earlier post. what the puck is up with the younger generation of guys, don't you know anything. listen women like sex more than we do. you have understand female sexuality. it's like a caged tiger. you do not invite another guy to stay at your home if you have your girl staying with you as well. because you are stirring up fantasies in her mind. some people know how to dismiss them, others feel they must act on them.
do not say anything to your friend. but absolutely do not go out with him and her. only if he is alone..
i really need to write a book. guys don't know shat these days.
I also agree with Scan. You did what a real man and loyal friend would do in such a situation. And if you regard him as that good of a friend, make sure you let him know what kind of person his African girlfriend really is.
crimochina:
your advice does not apply in reality. she could point the finger at him, his friend might think he is jealous and trying to form a wedge between them. telling the friend would cause more trouble.
GuilinRaf:
I agree with Crimo, she could say that OP was the one who tried to initiate it and that she kept quiet out of respect for the friendship.
Most guys will believe the GF.
The best thing he can do is say nothing, but make sure to see his buddy ONLY sans girfried.
Wait.. is he really your 'best' friend, or merely the best friend that you've got over here, that you met recently??
Have you lot seen each other before? Or was that the first time you met her?
Something is smelling a bit fishy in this... and not just a quick thing that she's proposed... perhaps something more thought out.
Shining_brow:
Btw, if she's like that with you, she'll be like that with someone else. Their 'relationship' is doomed to die. (unless, they're quite happy with an 'open' relationship)
If you don't tell your friend now, he's going to find out later the hard way... do you want to be the guy who knew, but didn't say anything?
Tell your friend to save yourfriend from a whore.It will be much better for him to find a better lady.
crimochina:
no, it is not his job to interfere in their relationship