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Q: What should Ido?

I have told that the previous designer girl came back and she unified with the assistant girl to attrack and insult me.

 

So they started this drama this afternoon, ordered tea for everyone but not gave to me, while my boss came to my desk to discuss work, the assistant came to gift the boss tea right in front of my face. 

 

I mean, those tricks are so childish. I do not understand why they bother doing it for insulting me during working time?

 

They boss is crazy and said the tea is so tasty while clearly he can see they are playing a trick on insulting me. Then he asked the girl to help order pizza online  but they didn't order. A professional boss should say thank you but let's order tea not in the office next time. How do you say?

 

I just feel so sick working here. I feel embrassed while everyone got tea but not me.

 

The 3D drawing guy said I do not love China for spending money in the US. It offended me so I told him what he said is not good and I showed my anger. He didn't apologize but said in a bad tone that he's just joking, I got even more pissed and the 3D guy started to not speak to me. One day when my boss joked that he could make the 3D guy "designer executive" on name card, I mocked at the 3D drawing guy that it won't make him a real executive even if he gets  "executive title" on name card, so I did revenge.

 

I told the designer(a girl) to not interfer my management and politely asked her to be more considerable and keep quiet so I can concentrate on work last week. I told her that she shouldn't insult me while I taking half day off, she didn't say sorry nor admit that he even said it. What is funnier is he blamed on me for making story up to ruin her reputation.

 

My office now only has 4 of us, so now the assistant and the designer girl unified to attract and insult me by making trouble. The 3D drawing guy didn't say anything to attract me but not speak to me

 

So I do not feel great going to work here everyday, everyday is in a bad mood and I feel embarrassed to go to an office no one greets me. They just took me as enermy.

 

 

 

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1) Find a new job NOW!

 

2) Then stop whining about it here. 

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You could stalk from office to office with an Armalite AR-10 carbine semi-automatic weapon pumping round after round into colleagues and co-workers....

 

or maybe you can just quit.

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Sorry can't tell you what to do until the VPN news has been proven real or fake news.

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Start looking for another position immediately. If you find one you like, then good move, if you don't find one then at least you have the mental satisfaction of having tried.

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D.I.L.L.I.G.A.F. If you don't know what it means look it up.

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Stop distracting yourself with petty dramas, and focus on what matters in life.

Is there a reason you date foreign, buy foreign, and tell everyone you do this?

Are you avoiding a family confrontation?

Do you like playing around with guys, and don't want to settle down?

Are you unhappy with yourself?

Take ownership of your part in causing your problems, and make plans to improve yourself.

And if you don't want to do that, stop pretending to "ask advice" from people when you just want attention and ego strokes. Nobody should have to be bothered by provoked dramas from people with Histrionic Personality Disorder.

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1) Find a new job NOW!

 

2) Then stop whining about it here. 

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resign.

u faced many troubles n obstacles in this company since joinin' thm.

start cny wth a new beginnin'. at this time you'll get many opportunities shd u desire a job. or start yr own business n build customrs.

hope the comin' 'year of the dog' is stress-free fr u.

 

Viki87:

A customer just asked me to send him an PI for ordering some chemicals, the one brought some from me last year. My own business, now I just wish he could pay.

Not feel interested on starting a new job, a new sales manager job will have start everything all over again and I would have to change apartment as now I live close to this job. Hopefully resign and run my own business but still not enough saving to be self-employed now. My plan was working here till my business got stable but so hard to continue working here sometimes especially when the girls tried to make trouble for embarrassing me:(

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Viki87:

If I resign now, it will be very hard to get salary. The boss has no one to replace me at the end of the year. It is quiet difficult to hire anyone better than me for this shitty location.

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Viki87:

You are right, I decide to resign now. But I have tried to resign for many times, I am not agreed to resign because the boss didn't have anyone to replace me, I wonder if I should leave till he found a replacement.

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Curiousdude:

u hv already told him few times tht u want to resign. will u stay anothr year if he doesnt act on tht or doesnt pay arrears ?

or gv him a final notice to leave at cny. then its his wish fr his business.

his unprofessonalism n carelessness shd not spoil yr time any furthr, isnt it ?

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GreggCFTUFinch:

Why don't CuriousDud and MuffDiverDud just get a hotel room with It and be done...with it?

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Viki87:

Why you attack them? I think they were being nice for supporting my bad working situation.

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Competitive work environments are rarely cooperative environments

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Because this is China. .

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Why don't you fuck off, it's the easy option

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This is what happens when people read self help books.

Honestly Vicky, know your station in life, accept it and embrace it.

Me for example. Almost 50 years old, getting paid the same as I was when I was 30, in actual numbers, not a manager, dont want to be a manager. No car, only one house, considered a master by my chinese friends, considered an uncontrolable cunt by my bosses.

Just be yourself Vicki. Put the self help books aside.

Dont be one of these idiots driving a BMW at 10mph without a clue. Ride your bike up the inside in a traffic jam and give them the finger:-)

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Still not made a decision to stay or leave.. fuck off, truth is you cant get another job so shut the fuck up.

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I wonder if I can get the two girls to leave the job by themselves? So I can get to stay.

 

Especially the designer girl, she's a bad person anyway. So I do not mind playing trick on her to get her quit by herself. 

 

The assistant girl asked a day off today, I am wondering if she would quit after cny, but I sensed there's a possibility.

 

If the assistant left, all I need to deal is to get rid of the designer. Even if the designer stayed, as long as the assistant quit, she would lose her ally and I could just try to be picky on her work to make her feel hard to work here. Her job is to revise artwork for my customers.

 

I know it is evil to play trick on people to leave, but if I want to stay, that's the best way to deal. They are not good people anyway, I do not feel guilty to do it.

 

 

The designer is the one who would insult me but played the trick saying she never said such word to insult me.lol

So I need to get rid of her in a short time, anyone could help think of smart way to get rid of her?

The last plan is if I can not get rid of them, I would leave myself after cny.

GreggCFTUFinch:

I wonder if you can ever get a clue...you are nothing. Always were nothing, come from nothing, will result in nothing.

 

You have your supply of beta males on this site, CuriousDud, DiverDud, et al...you are the sum of your social media presence. Sad one at that.

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