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Q: Why don't Chinese girls do friends with benefits?

Friends with benefits, sex friends, whatever you call it when you have regular casual sex with someone with the understanding that you are allowed to have sex with other people. 

 

In many countries this is normal for young people. 

 

From my experience, Chinese girls don't like this idea. A lot of Western girls don't like the idea too, but there are a good amount that are totally fine with it.

 

Why do they feel you need to be in a relationship to have sex? 

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and thats why we have hookers

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and thats why we have hookers

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I have been in a .. I suppose you could say relationship ...  where that's basically what the situation was. I also know that some people I worked with were doing the same thing.

 

I don't think it's as uncommon as you might think.

 

 

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That depends completely on the person. I've thought the same thing you have, but then I met other people.

 

But, here are some things I've learned:

 

1. Girls from first tier cities are more open.

2. Girls who speak English usually have a better understanding of western dating culture and it's easier to communicate.

3. University girls are more open
4. Unmarried women between the ages of 25-30 are usually more independent and often living away from mom and dad, thus making it easier for them to have a western style dating life.

5. Using dating apps can make things happen quicker.

 

Girls you'd think be easy to sleep with, such as the poor uneducated younger girls are usually more difficult to sleep with, unless of course they're a hooker.

Englteachted:

Here's why I'm thumbing you down, being open about sex is not a western thing. 

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here are 2 thoughs about it....

1. girl from countryside, once in shanghai they "open" themselves. Local girls here are more concerned about what family, friends would think about them..

2. mainland girls English proficiency is most of the time  inversely proportional to their attractiveness 

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Nicholasba -> It's been proven that overall intelligence (not just English proficiency) is inversely proportional to one's physical attractiveness. Ever wondered why the top minds in our world or in history all look like shit? Ever seen a celebrity/model/actor who looks hot and is actually smart? me neither. I would say that nature is fair, hot people are dumb as shit and smart people look like shit. But here is a thought, ugliness can be fixed through a healthy diet, sport and surgery, low IQ/intelligence can't be fixed, who find themselves in a weak spot now? I let you meditate on that matter.

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well you know, is like water boiling at 100 degree, nevertheless.....there are also unicorns...somehow...

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You really know nothing about your own country. That is actually quite common and there have been several articles about it. They have stupid names for various types of arrangements. It seemed too formal. Things like small wife. Posts like these highlight how stupid you are. Just because you call it different names or add formal rules you're still having sex without the bonds of marriage. 

Get the fuk out of the stone ages and embrace sexual freedom.

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I'm American, and pretty new to China. 

 

I'm not talking about a mistress situation, I'm talking about two single people having sex with no strings attached. 

 

From my experience, Chinese girls are not intersted in that, and will only have sex if you are officially dating. For the most part. 

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Chinese are no different than any other nationality when it comes to sex. Are sending ur wiener at the first chance u got a video chat with a girl met on the Internet? In my experience they don't like to talk about it, but they really fine with ons...obviously for not loosing face they can't be too straight about it.

 

 

But besides that, friends with benefits in my experience translated in Chinese is just the average relationship Chinese engage in,the only problem is that then they marry that bitch

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Yeah and I'm Vietnamese.

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You are wrong Twonkwad. It is rampant and Chinese girls are really into it.

 

It's just you they aren't into.

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Perhaps it's my age? 

 

I'm 27, so I'm having sex with girls that are 22 to 30, aka girls who are really looking to marry. Maybe after they get past a certain age, and more cynical about marriage, they are more open to open relationships. 

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Once they graduate from that public toilette thy call university,Chinese girl are eager to get married thanks their selfish parents. Either ur looking for under 23 or over 30

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Because Mao and the Communists ordered them to be that way.  Remember, the traditions they claim have been part of China since 1949, but don't convince them of that.  They know better.

 

Any girl that wants a relationship for sex, do it in a hotel and never let her know where you live.

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Only if you can offer benefits which others can't

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only if what you offer can be considered as a benefit for the Chinese girls.

 

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