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Q: Would you allow your spouse to refer...

Would you be okay with your spouse constantly referring to one of your tenants as sexy, beautiful, handsome, etc? My Chinese landlord constantly sends me texts that translate as Belle or Beauty. I personally do not mind but if I were his wife, I would chop all ten of his fingers off. At first, I thought it was weird that he sent me a Wechat friend request at 11:00 PM and then he sent "Hello, How are you?" I thought it was weird so I did not respond although I did not know he was married at the time. A few nights later, I sent him messages asking him to place screens on my window and to send me my address in Chinese. He texted me back and said, "I am married." I was like oh I hope he is not thinking what I think he is thinking because I wasn't trying to hit on him or anything.

 

All of the messages were strictly professional. Maybe his wife did not like the emojis but nothing was inappropriate in my opinion. After that, he told me that his wife will come to my room and do everything(lying). I was very passive about it: Okay, Awesome,You and your wife are great. That same night, I locked myself out and I sent him a message on Wechat requesting that he open my door. He told me to come to his room to ask him to do it. I went to his room, the door was open and he was playing cards with his friends. He jumps up when he sees me and leaves the room. As I am walking away, I heard his wife yell something in Chinese and he started laughing. I was like, "What was that?" 

 

BTW: His wife never came to my room for anything. He fixed my internet 4x and he measured, ordered and applied the window screens.

 

A month later, I have been getting messages from him and he is calling me Belle and/or Beauty. He seemed sad when I left the apartment and asked if I would come back and he told me that I can call him anytime. He is a very nice, helpful person but I don't know what his intentions are. 

 

Now I would like to adopt a Chinese name. I want it to be Black Belle.黑美人

Hēi měirén

 

bellenoun [ C ] UK ​ /bel/ US ​ /bel/ old-fashioned 

beautiful and attractive woman or one who is beautifully dressed

美人

 

23 weeks 2 days ago in  General  - Shanghai

 
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Looks like Vicki has some competition for attention seeking.

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If I secretly was looking for a divorce or wanted to have an affairenlightened

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Looks like Vicki has some competition for attention seeking.

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A few words spring to mind: hubris, vacuous, delusional....for starters.

Kudos on the subtle segue to squeeze a bit of colour into that fantasy wishlist.

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You should get bigger mirror ...  Maybe ... 

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why I have this creepy feeling that Tami is just another personality, character of our sponger  Miko?

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they also call ugly waitresses beauty to order a dish

give you something to think, the rest is up to you

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Allow your spouse.....? Do we live in the middle ages?

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I might not like it if spouse referred to others with terms usually reserved for one's Lover/Partner/Significant Other,,,,,,  but wouldn't piss me off near as much as some nutcase cutting off my fingers.

*note to Nutcases-  Kill me if u wanna pull some nutcase sh*t on me or mine, cuz if you don't, I'll hunt you down and torture your ass to death God willing.  

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He wants to try the black foreign girl so he can brag and tell the story to all of his male friends later on, much face gained.

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