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Q: any foreigner in Ningbo looking for a girl friend?

i am 36 years old, unmarried, it's an old age for a Chinese man, but not for foreigner i think.

i like eating, dancing, and traveling, if you are well educated man, polite, and planing  stay in Ningbo, pls contact with me, but i don't like black man, i don't want to produce a black baby. Sorry.

 

my wechat number is: imissyousweet

 

6 years 30 weeks ago in  Relationships - Ningbo

 
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Yes, racism and the assumption we have low standards will certainly endear the cream of the crop.

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Yup. Racism is one of the first traits we foreigners look for in a partner.

 

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Yes, racism and the assumption we have low standards will certainly endear the cream of the crop.

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Mixed race babies are beautiful! 

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not a black baby producer 

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No black babies? Now that ain't nice.

 

How about green babies?

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how about Creepy the Hillbilly
ohh sorry you are to old and not his blood relation

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another vicki :\

coineineagh:

compared to this woman, Vicky is not so bad. at least she doesn't "choose" white men out of abject desperation, or jump straight off the bat to rejecting black babies.

6 years 27 weeks ago
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Everyone has certain tastes, if she doesn't like black men doesn't mean she hates black people just doesn't want to marry a black guy

 

Im from the south and i can tell you how many white girls or black girls who say "i prefer white/black/mexican" guys etc

 

unless she says "i hate____ people" cut her a break

cub:

@defender good answer good attitude! iwolf phil and samsara and others like them are the PC crowd They cant be ''different'' cant be ''unique'' a ''individual'' either thinking on thier own and very paranoid always with a knee jerk reaction! They make good UN one world order robots and thought police ! So what CRIME is it without being bashed is it when one can CHOOSE whom they want to date or marry? Unless big bro made it illegal you still have a CHOICE what race of a person u prefer to date and marry And BTW I didnt read where joy lee said she hated black people! just dont prefer them to date or marry! Go ahead you 3 HATE me all you want call me names thumbs down me big deal! The truth is the truth!

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coineineagh:

she didn't say "i hate black people." true. she said "i don't want to produce a black baby." but i guess it was nice of her to put a "sorry" at the end there. hey, on an unrelated matter, and despite nobody asking, let me just say i don't want to do business with Chinese, drivers in China are recklessly dangerous, people can't distinguish German from Vietnamese products (or be certain which one borders China), the government breeds delusion, people use others as commodities, their language is simplistic without verb tenses or plurals, the written script is needlessly complicated, and locals are so shortsighted that they wilfully destroy their environment for short-term gains. "sorry". never let it be said i don't respect Chinese, because that is not what i said!

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you can't talk like that about a whole race of people.
you're the one reaching out to meet people, so at least choose your words more carefully.
"i like light skin" is more benign than "i don't want to produce a black baby. Sorry."
NOBODY ASKED. Nobody was interested what you think about black people. Yet here you are, publicly singling out people for their skincolour to prevent the off chance a black man might show interest. any black person who reads this will be reminded of ingrained xenophobia among uneducated nongs.

yes, some expats date women over 30. it's not because we can't get a pretty young girl, because we really can. it's just that some expat men appreciate women for their intellect, personality, style or wealth. Such women are *more* desirable in expats' eyes. I'll hazard a guess and say you have none of those qualities.

you are a leftover woman. if you intend to cling to any acceptable-looking laowai to save face, go ahead and try. but watch your words. i guess a life crippled with shame and disappointments warrants a comparable relationship. but please take your bargaining and compromising to an appropriate forum. this is not a meat market.

though it is a bit of a sausagefest.

"eChinashitty Wok take a order prease."
- "Yes, any discount offal that goes with an old whine. But not dark meat; I'm not *that* hungry."

cub:

@coin what a load of manure! You are so full of it assuming guessing as though u are a expert Dr phill shrink! So why dont you watch what u say yourself? You make a great thought police by using your ESP skills! Bashing ''shaming'' a persons CHOICE to CHOOSE whom they want to date prefer or marry is straight out of the UN PC handbook! Joy Lee dont need YOUR permission whom she chooses to date or marry be it race color religion age culture And since u are a Chinese man yourself coin, using the word ''leftover'' as a weapon to shame embarrass a single Chinese lady over 30 might not work doing joy lee damage ok?

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coineineagh:

@cub: she didn't choose a partner, she excluded a race preemptively. she only CHOSE to be RUDE and HURTFUL to strangers who DIDN'T ASK what she thought of their race. nobody was planning to lock her in a hotel room with a horny nigga to have unprotected sex unless she spoke up quickly (though a reverse chocolate enema seems like a good idea to unclench this uptight "star"), so this issue of chosing her future baby's race is entirely in her mind. you shouldn't defend her delusional comment as an act of free choice - it is not applicable. she also thinks some foreigners date older women because they are more "open", as in: lower dating standards. this is not about being P.C., it's about not harassing innocent people with overt racism. she thinks Chinese are #1 because she can't get a man from her own country. She approaches foreigners admitting we are her 2nd choice, and begging the heavens "oh cruel fate, please don't make me produce a BLACK baby." I know exactly what she thought of the white guys 5 years ago, who she is now willing to date. Her choice of words betrays thinking that is immature even for a 16yo, let alone a woman of 36 years. She is a useless, uneducated, stupid, inept, expired sack of meat, and i'm telling her to dispose of herself in the proper waste receptacle. she is stinking up the place. And no I'm not Chinese. I just feel if she's playing the part of a leftover woman, she deserves the title.

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coin, did u just swallow a psych book? Joy lee has a opinion she has the freedom to choose a choice whom she wants to date marry have kids She also has the right to change her mind to like or dislike any whom she prefers Im defending her to have a right and freedom t choose not according to normal society standards What if i told u i wont date black people because i dont want or choose to as my choice? Does this make me a racist i hate black people or think less of them as a race? NO it dosent! i just dont prefer to date or marry a black person because i dont want to ok? Thats my choice and i respect black people and if other races of women want and choose to date marry a black person have a mixed race baby great im happy for them because the chose this! To the word ''open'' thats a code word for being flexible to choose be different a variety not a cookie cutter mentality based on culture or traditions or what society says People society needs to grow a backbone not be ofended or hurt so easily Life is what it is Strengthen a persons mentality dont fall apart get bent out of shape so easy being offended being a victim allways! Thought police tactics and pc has ruined people and countries! Go ahead coin u and others here can call me all the names u want because it dont hurt me at all and exposes your hate See, i wont conform to any PC Why is it that 50 60 years ago everyone wasnt so uptight easily offende or hurt? Maybe people knew understand that humans were not perfect back then and had a backbone u think? So what joy lee did or said wasnt something u approved of maybe she shanged her mind since then? Obviously if a person don't want a black baby then they dont marry or want a black man ok? Is being frank honest to the point too blunt? Is it? Did joy lee bash or denigrate another race just because she said she dont want to marry a man from this particular race? Of course not

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coineineagh:

this woman clearly only chose foreigners because chinese men are off the menu due to her age. she has a cookie cutter mentality. she accepts her role as leftover woman, and reasons that she is not too old for foreigners, hence her "choice" for plan B, white men. still not open to considering black men, though, proud to use that aspect to announce her self worth at the expense of them. is it really a choice if she only chose white men AFTER she had become too old for Chinese men? she clearly never considered them before. is she truly a beacon of openmindedness? read what she says again honestly; there is no choice worth defending. she is despicable. an embarrassment to Chinese. with her age came no wisdom.

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cub:

Well coin the way u and other foriegn men tell me and say constantly on this site is how chinese men married or single cheat lie have affairs are dispespectful abusive to thier wives or GFs right? So maybe joy lee has experienced this seen and knows they are like this and they throw away dump thier ''older'' women 26 years or older for a younger 18 year old model! As a chinese leftover lady maybe joy lee dont want a chinese man because this u ever think of this? Maybe she has seen or experienced a bad situation dating black men before and says no black men and mabe she will now only date white men because of this reason? Did u care to ask her this or do u know all the facts aout this and not only guessing? Do u know everything or ALL about her dating or personal life regarding this? Please coin dont tell me u know everything about her ok? If she is like u say and guilty like as u say is doing her past will catch up to her! Coin is like in my case im not afraid or embarassed to admit i wont date a black or latino/hispanic lady Am i now a racist a bigot singling out 3 races im not interested in dating or marrying out of all the other different races? Of course not! Its just im not interested or atracted to a black a hispanic/latino woman thats all and this isnt hate either! its my choice my preference! Anyway nice chatting

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coineineagh:

in your case, the topic was started, so you're not volunteering your dating preferences out of the blue. for her, i can compare her topic to dating profiles where girls might say "no blacks". and it's clear that if she is so against having black babies, that she has no previous dating experiences to base her judgement on. it's not that she tried but didn't like it; she refused beforehand, just like she likely refused foreigners when she was still marketable to Chinese men. She may have been dumped before, but it may have been a result of constantly trying to get the richest, most popular guys who provide her the most face, casting reliable partners aside in her race to the top. But this is not a dating forum. She barged in a discussion forum, placed a dating ad, declared she turns to us now because she's out of options, then explained which foreigners she'll settle for based on race/skincolour. Had it occurred to her that black people might frequent this forum? It's like starting a conversation with a group of guys at a party: "Hey guys, listen to me for a minute because whatever unimportant things you foreigners discuss is irrelevant. i have this aged pussy to offer up to the highest bidder, and i heard you guys still buy up antiques sometimes. but no blacks; the thought of selling myself to a black man offends me; my pussy is still too good for them. So, which whitey looks decent enough to help me preserve face?" … "yeah, uh? WTF? Piss off, you rude, ugly old bitch."

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sorrel:

Anyone who specifics a dating preference such as 'no blacks' is just plain creepy, as if they are God's gift to humanity and they are somehow conferring a favour on those they have not excluded. And it is unnecessary to announce to the world something like that unless you are clueless or have questionable social skills.

Skin colour is no indication of character.

 

By saying 'I'm not interested in dating jerks, a-holes, BS'ers, wankers, creeps, morons, complaining butt-hurts, whiners, narcissists, perverts and gobshites' is a lot more fair as it doesn't discriminate against race or nationality and gives everyone an equal opportunity to prove they are a decent human being from the start.

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cub:

well coin, its a combination of culture and traditions and morals[if any] or lack therof a society raises cutivates sometimes forces on proples attitude perceptions and/or expectations how they act talk date marry interact and live! Look at china how communisim stifles and kills freedom and emotions! And personal responsibility suffers greatly! Now if joy lee is what u say she is has said and done what u claim can u blame her 100% i think a culture like china raises creates a lot of this and this is the result! Am i saying ALL chinese are like this or say do talk or act this way? No of course not! So lets just say there was a poor choice of words used in describing a persons likes or dislikes or preferences and in the wrong ECC catagory ok? Again because its easier to say what a persons choice or likes/dislikes race age of people is easier to proclaim on a site like this! I just hope in real life people dont do or say things to strangers like u described! Maybe its because i look at the glass half ful or that there is hopefully some good in everybody! But i understand that chinese are blunt about some things No, not all are but many are And a foreigner sees this bluntness as rude coarse arrogant right? @ Sorrel, that long list of people u mentioned a person would declare to not be interested in wouldnt u admit it describes a lot of people some more than others? Wouldnt u say we all have been guilty of being like this[ to some degree] at one time in the past before we refined ouselves? [dont raise your hands] i guess thats what makes us imperfect and human right?

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coineineagh:

the "victim of cultural indoctrination" is an often-used argument that will even win court cases. and it's true. Darwin was an awful racial supremacist, despite proving we are all related and descended from monkeys. Karl Marx was an unapologetic sexist, dismissing womens' contributions despite writing the manifesto for workers' rights. But I don't think all responsibility should be so easily set aside, because it lends itself to abuse too easily. If you are toting backward values in a progressive environment, you should be held responsible, even if your opinions are not entirely formed by you internally.

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sorrel:

@ cub

in my book, everyone is given the benefit of the doubt and sometimes good people behave like dicks, and will own it afterwards, as many on this forum have, holding up their hands after a particularly BCD.

 

Others just continue behaving like complete dicks despite being given opportunities and chances to display other behaviors. 

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