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Q: Do you Have Chinese Take away?

Personally I detest the term that has been adopted my some Men in reference to Chinese girls who marry Western Men.

I meet my wife on the Web about 7 years ago and try to come back to China once a year for a month or so to meet up with Family and our friends However most Men I know in Australia who are married to Chinese Girls only went there to get married and will never go back to China The Girls do not speak much English and the Men have little or no interest to learn Chinese  . I speak the lingo or be it poorly and usually miss pronounce words to the amusement of the locals ( got to be careful when ordering Sprite)laugh My wife was a English teacher and speaks English extremely well  I learn to speak Chinese as most people here do not speak English.and when in Rome.

When we are at home in Australia visiting some mixed marriage  friends we have to use Chinese on occasion to communicate  with  the wife

this is where I think the cant get a western woman thing comes in and where the anything to get out of China thing comes from ( my thoughts may not be yours)

I do not think for one second this is probably true in some relationships but I hate being Tarred with the same brush

there has been occasion that my name is Schultz when I over her something I shouldn't  but to be honest the Guy was a jerk anyway

any of you guys have this problem at Home? 

 

6 years 49 weeks ago in  Relationships - China

 
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I thought you were referring to British-"English" takeaway - take home food. I have Chinese takeaway at my apartment. I can phone security and they'll take-away whomever is bothering me, Chinese or otherwise. I can't for the life of me decipher the code that you use to post in.

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I don't know the answer cause I've never been in a like situation, but I wanna pipe up anyway cause I'm surprised.

Phil, first time I've heard the term "Chinese take-away" for a wife.  It must be exclusive to Oz or other countries?  It isn't used in China - where I live - as far as I know.

I guess it's akin to the "mail-order bride" which, I believe was popular some years ago amongst Western men and Philippino women. And may still be popular.  Dunno.  (Correct me if I'm wrong.)

But I get the insinuation made to "take home food" as Sinobear points out.  Not very flattering to some, I would imagine.

Yeah.  I'm gonna marry my Chinese GF in the near future, but not sure I would like others to refer to her as a carton of chow mein or dim sum.  So I empathize with you, bro.

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Any two people that get married and don't speak the same language are just asking for trouble. Its Ok for a short time, then gets pretty frustrating quick. Even if a Chinese speaks English there are still so many things the over come, the temper, the no answering questions. Its good short term, but its like Chinese take out, you're hungry for more half an hour after you eat.

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Drat!

I thought this was about ordering dinner by phone or internet....

 

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Never heard the term, phil. It's stupid, anyway. So many aussies, men and women, partner up with foreigners that pointing fingers at people's relationships is stupid.

 

That said, the less pleasant side of me does smirk when i see a 'relationship' where the two don't speak each other's language. Maybe it stops arguments: if you can't talk you can't fight?

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i think not speaking the same language makes for the perfect argument free marriage.

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I really do hate that. Thankfully in Canada it's died down a bit because interaccial couples have become so common. I remember years ago when I dated a girl from Korea I met at a bar who was studying English in Canada we would get looked at walking down the street because she was clearly a FOB and I have glasses, automatically that idiotic notion is thought about. 

 

8 years later, when my wife and I are in public it's not as common. But what I really hate is on occasion you meet a total zero who also has an Asian GF or wife, but only because of the reasons the guy you mentioned does. And what pisses me off is that they think you're the same as them. 

 

One oaf at work with a vietnamese GF and I were walking down the road and a Chinese girl passed and he says to me in such a creepy way, 'Man I love Asian women. Especially the skin tone, is that why you like em?"

 

I just said "I married my wife cause I fell in love with her and we shared similar goals and dreams in life, not because she's Asian." And then it was silent. I wanted to add, "While we're at it, I am not like you. I never had a problem with women in my own country." 

 

Loser. 

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Back home I have several friends who are married or have been married to people from other countries. I have never heard anyone use the term such as "Chinese Take Out" without talking about food. However, those of my friends who have met eastern European girls are met with a "mail order bride" stigma. The same thing I guess. 

 

I have rarely met people from my own generation or younger that would see mixed marriages as anything but a positive

Note. In China, Chinese Take Out is just called Take Out. 

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Me marrying local means I'm going to end up marrying my cousin, or at least someone distantly related in one way or another. No thanks! I prefer Chinese takeout. 

 

It's a match made in Heaven. She got American fast food (a fat, morbidly obese loser), and I got Chinese takeout (a beautiful, 100% docile China doll). We just needed lots of MSG to make it taste better. devil

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Oh, this kind of Chinese Takeaway - a bit like ordering a 69 enlightened 

I guess you end up with a sweet & sour relationship!

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I ordered CHINESE TAKE AWAY .......  but it was intercepted, before even getting a f****ing visa ........so I have been willingly condemned to a life of simple pleasures and joyous family (big family) events ..................  instead of my dream of working my ass off to pay my cable bill and car insurance etc. etc. etc.

 

really happy that the immigration guys are all f*****ed up

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I must lead a sheltered life, as I've never heard the term used that way before. I have heard the Hong Kong transfer back to China referred to as the Chinese takeaway.

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