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Q: How can I make expat-freinds in Beijing...

Hi all,I'm a Chinese boy.

I will arrive in Beijng to find a job in July.

When I was young,I would love to learn English language.But I've never speak to a foreigner.

My oral English is poor and you may already guess that.

Next month I'll arrive in Beijing,and it's a good chance to make a foreigner friend.

I wanna know how and where I can make expat-freinds?

If anyone wanna hang out with me  in Beijing,OK,Let's explore the city.

7 years 15 weeks ago in  General  - Beijing

 
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Buy them beer.

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Don't make a big deal about wanting to practice your English. Just get to know them and be their friend.

 

That's what p*sses me off, oh can I be your friend.... sure ok..... because my English is poor... BOOM bye bye

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If you want to make foreign friends, NEVER tell them that you want them to practice your English. That is the best way to make sure they will avoid you completely.

Just treat them like you would your Chinese friends. Talk about sports, movies, games. Ask them about their day, how are things going. Invite them for a meal or a drink (and by invite I mean suggest to meet up, dont really need to pay the whole thing. Going "Dutch" or "AA" is safe as it does not make anyone feel obligated).

Just never never NEVER tell them you want them to practice your English. They will feel used and you will be ignored. We get this ALL the time, and we too, would like a friend to have a beer with, talk sports, cars, etc.  Your English will definitely improve and while chatting it is okay to occasionally ask "how do you say....". Just dont make it sound like a lesson.

Best of luck!

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go to the bars in chaoyang district. and yell out "this round is on me!"

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Give them your sisters phone number.

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Lol. The problem with a lot of you guys who want to meet foreign friends is that you're a bit discriminatory in the way you pick friends.

Most Chinese only want to make friends with native english-speakers, more so Americans, Aussies, Brits and Canadians. I've seen this so many times. People from other parts of the world are almost completely ignored if found out they don't have a steady hold on english.

Many don't realise that making friends with these people will soon lead to making friends with english speakers.

 

I knew a Chinese guy who was so open to everyone, whether they spoke english or not. Never used to bug anyone to help him with his english or ask 50 questions. This guy had dropped out of college and was living in a room with 5 other guys, hustling and sneaking into business lectures at tianjin university. He made friends with a lot of us Africans and South Americans.Always go out of his way to hang out with us or show us around and stuff. One Nigerian guy was so moved by this guy's ambition and attitude that he hooked him up with a Nigerian import factory. One and a half years later, this Chinese guy has a house, a car in Nigeria and earns like 12,000 rmb a month. 

 

All in all, if you want foreign friends, just be a cool non-naggy guy with everyone and soon everyone will want to be friends with you.

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NileRafter has nailed it, here.

 

Why do you want to make English friends? Is it so you can practice English or get status by implying you hang our in fancy expat bars? In that case, you're probably not going to get far with most people. Be genuine. If you have a real interest in other peoples' countries and a desire to share information about your own country then relax, make an effort to get to know all the people you meet and treat them like people, not laowai.

 

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As people above stated, I'm sick of people asking to be my friend at all. They don't have to say it, but I know it's because I'm a foreigner. Just tonight someone I know texted me, saying that the daughter of a director from the school wants to meet me because she is my age and wants to make friends with a foreigner. I feel obligated to meet her only because she is a director's daughter, but have no interest in her. If you want to make a friend, follow others' advice, DON'T say you want to make friends with a foreigner, and especially don't say you want to practice your English. In fact, never ask a foreigner anything like "Do you want to be my friend?" Be chill, keep it casual. Real friendship is something hard to come by, but it's highly valued.

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And it's good to help a foreigner in need, but if they are capable of doing something by themselves you don't have to interfere or doubt their ability or intelligence.

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Go to expat places. And lose the Buddy Holly glasses. 

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Yeah, like the others said, making friends with an expat is not english practice. If that is your intention, it will be fairly obvious and they wont hangout with you. 

 

Dont ask the stupid questions either like "can you use chopsticks?" or "can you eat chinese food?" That makes me instantly think less of someone, even if it is just to make conversation.

 

Just act like you would if he was one of your chinese mates. I only know two guys that acted like that, I was a friend, not a foreign friend. 

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Do something really crazy like on that new movie battleship...ask them what they want or help them out in some way. Always make a good first impression on them. If they say they are hungry or tired find a way to get them something to eat or offer them a ride home etc., Don't get too caught up in just what you want or just what they want be mutual about it!

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yo walk up and say i practice my enlish, we go for tea? many many many people in beijing do dis.

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just wondering if he is gonna have to translate all these replies...poor lad,just be his english-practice buddy already!! Am African so the few that want to be friends wit me want to find out if i can dance or have pictures with wild animals or want to hear a story of how suffered to get to china...because we are all poor,live in  the  jungle and all we can do is dance...yet wat we do isenlightenedwinkbroken heartsurprise

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Go find a tutor or someone that can teach you one on one they will be your friend forever....just make sure you help each other out...If you want to find a friend do what always works best phone a friend of a friend that has a foreign friend and hook up with her. Hopefully it's a she and not a he......hehehe!! laugh

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