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Q: How to celebrate my birthday?
My birthday will be coming this month.I am inviting some chinese and westerners to come to my birthday.
But if I have like 10 people come to my birthday,should I pay them all to come to the dinner?It's like a Chinese way to celebrate the birthday.
Or I make them to split the bills?
Where do you suggest to go?
I have may be like 2 Chinese and 8 westerners come to my birthday.
One American asked me what I would buy him to drink if he comes to my birthday
Friends that need to be paid for are not friends.
Here's what you should have done. Invite them out to dinner/ drinks, tell them it will be AA/ Dutch. Those that show up, surprise them by treating them and tell them to keep it secret. Life is too short to waste on fake friends.
Birthdays are hard, All foreigners know that in China the birthday girl/boy must pay. So why do you want to treat them differently??? if it was just Chinese you would surely pay. But because you invite foreigners now you want them to pay?? Thats not fair.
I have had the same friends for years, so every birthday they pay for me, but I had to do the work first. My first birthday, i paid. Then when one of their birthday came, I paid too. And I said he shouldnt need to pay on his birthday. Every year since my friends have paid for me.
But if your going to invite a bunch of new people every year then your going to have to pay, and if you dont want to pay then dont invite so many people.
Friends that need to be paid for are not friends.
Here's what you should have done. Invite them out to dinner/ drinks, tell them it will be AA/ Dutch. Those that show up, surprise them by treating them and tell them to keep it secret. Life is too short to waste on fake friends.
yeah, don't ruin your BirthDay by turning it into a StressDay worrying about money. It's not going to be very enjoyable spending 1000+¥ on something you had really rather not spend it on just for the sake of some 'custom'. Invite your few best friends to go and do something you truly enjoy.
KISS - Keep It Simple Sweety
tell that Am. boy to stick his head up his butt and jump~
Strawberry66:
I dont have good friends in Shanghai,my few good friends are in ZheJiang.They can't make to come to come to my birthday.
I might just spend my brthday alone then.
You'd expect after years here she would have ran out of "how to live my life" questions.
Naaaaaah.
dress in some sexy way, light the candles, and call me maybe
treat yourself to a Play Station 4
thats what I am going to do on my Birthday
I spent like 200 RMB on my birthday. Just had homemade lunch with some friends of mine.
SaifMalik:
You know... those people who you can out with, socialize with and rely upon and they help you and stuff...
HOW TO CELEBRATE MY BIRTHDAY!
ScotsAlan:
Lol. I stopped that years ago. I don't want reminded that my counter is counting down rather than up
Stiggs:
I used to get drunk to celebrate being old enough to get drunk. Now I get drunk to forget there is another birthday rolling around.
Can I write you a rubber bounce check for the show?