Really? All Chinese women r like that?
No wonder my male friends say that I am not a female!

Ok, let me tell u, cause if they don't act like that, Chinese men will think they r too strong, and less feminism, and most Chinese women want to marry Chinese men, so they have to be like what Chinese men like not western guys.

And don't worry about take care of Chinese women, we have enough Chinese men who can do this.

It's called "Sa Jiao" (撒娇) and many (not all) Chinese women like to sajiao to their loved ones.

I think Wenna mentioned one part of sajiao, but it can be a lot more complicated than that. It drives most Western men (and even some Chinese men) mad as they view it as acting childish and too dependent. Here are two links that might help you understand a bit more.

http://candleforlove.com/forums/index.php?/topic/26915-sa-jiao/

http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/metro/2010-05/14/content_9849796.htm

i totally agree. i guess they gotta learn from western girls

they are born with the materialistic attitude since the beginning....... and they the only child so they are little bit spoiled as well. they also varient from girl to girl but yes chinese majority girls are demanding ...... extremely demanding........

That might because the defferent ways for communication. If you think that is a way for demanding more. Then just stop the relationship and look for a western girl.

Chinese women are really hard working and careing, you should really learn more about China.!

In short, because no one tells them it's disgusting to behave that way. Because some men like it when girls act like they are 12.. Who knows.. maybe it's sexy to have the women in your life act like a 12 year old and have the physique of a 12 year old boy too!

*P.S. Asking questions like this IS a way to learn about China, Juneyao! Some people were brought up in countries where they are encouraged to ask questions when you don't understand a concept.. not just to sit quietly and pretend you understand so you aren't the stand out.

Thank you SciFiBri. I am happy to discuss questions and I like people speaks frankly. But still, some words make me feel a bit prejudice.

Because they have so little and the prospects for more are dismal.

Also, Chinese believe, perhaps rightly so, that this period in Chinese history is the time to go up that social ladder - lots of opportunities around. The gap is closing, and soon it'll be like Europe - fixed.

Also a cultural thing, where husbands are expected to provide apartment, car, money, etc...to their wives. If you want a long term relationship with any Chinese woman, you better 'show her the money'.

In exchange for that, she will 'do her part': act cute, girlish and absolutely 'adorable'. It's a question of taste - Chinese men like to feel empowered. Having to take care of their 'dependent gf' gets them that ego high. Go figure.

They believe they should be the number 1 priority - they should come first, before anything else. Perhaps the meaning of love is different.

I suppose if you can have a baby it makes you some what powerful..in a sense!! Maybe!!??

sa jiao is not just a Chinese thing. Japanese and Korean girls also participate. But it is a cultural difference and it should be respected. Western men may not prefer it (sometimes it makes me crazy. Sometimes I allow my girl to sa jaio me), it is the Chinese way. Do you expect all cultures to mature in the same fashion and speed? do you expect all cultures to hold your view of what "mature" should be?

Not all Chinese girls are that way, there are many who can take care of themselves. I'm ok with sa jiao, women all over the world sa jiao at one time or another. The problem is when a woman uses it all the time, then it is annoying. Obviously, if there was no one willing to take care of a girl like that, then she wouldn't be able to get a husband in the future. But someday that very girl will be married, with a hopefully happy husband. And if not, then she will learn her lesson and will have to grow up a little. Some guys like girls who are self-sufficient, some guys want to take care of someone that needs them. And why is it that only girls are getting blamed for this behavior? Aren't there guys who want to be pampered, where the girl does all the work to take care of him? That certainly happens too, let's not have double standards here. Even the women who sa jiao compliment their boyfriend, buy him a cake or do something special for him.

I'm almost old enough that I forget how North American women can play ''cutesy, baby talk'''
but as our women do something worse it's called PMSing,, another chinese word for 毒意味着盯

They get brainwashed by their parents, family, (to meet or live their expectations) or simply by their chinese society...

It really is a fascinating and disturbing social phenomenon. I have yet to hear a decent explanation for the so-called 'little spoiled bitch' problem with Chinese women. I want to throw out a sort of theory I am working on:

Part of this comes out of a 'vacuum' left in post-Mao China. Women must 'reinvent' their roles in a newly capitalist/westernized/modernized China. 

It might be worth mentioning, the last 'ideal woman' to reference was the infamous, last and only Empress Cixi who was (it is rumoured or legend) a notorious spoiled bitch who had every demand of her 'neutered' man servants? (literally their balls removed for her).

But I believe the real culprit is the 'cultural vacuum' being re-filled with Korean and American 'romances'. Of course, to sell tickets the producers know there is nothing more appealing to a woman's purchase than unrealistic fantasies where beautiful rich young men grovel and beg and 'attend' to hysterical, emotional crying 'baby' girls. Who may even slap and emotionally abuse the man. Nevertheless, the Korean love drama will make it clear:  The most perfect man will appease her every emotional outburts, pouting, crying and even lower his head and finally do all she wants.

And the same ideals happen in the Hollywood and Western stories. The women are more independent yet their handsome rich successful boyfriends will do what? Entertain all their hysterical fits, crying, they will want to spend hours discussing her fears and tolerate all her irrational behavior AND give her a hug and buy her flowers after her outburts. 

I believe many young Chinese women (without unlimited romance series to download for free) are filling a kind of cultural void with this nonsense.

Something must be done about this. You know I have had a number of discussions with other foreigners married to Chinese Mainland women. Often we come to the agreement all our wives are the most 'spoiled little bitches' we have ever feared to be with. Interesting, many of the same demanding, spoiled (act spoiled, act as rich princesses) these are girls from relatively poor villages in China. They are WORSE than the so-called 'Shanghai Snob' or 'Hong Kong Princesses'. Even more hysterical and demanding?

Well honestly, I have no solid theory yet. Maybe I just throw that out there and some social experts can work to find the real cure. I don't know. It is really something fascinating and terrorizing too. 

Mine's normal , we share everything. If your gf is an ATM just get another.

because Chinese men give gifts on Children's Day............

Finally I was able to make her understand the difference between Children's Day and Women's Day...Still she got gift from her friend on that day....

It's probably because some people including yourself expect so little so there has to be something inbetween to keep that balance going. Imagine the possibilities!

My Chinese girlfriend asks for nothing ( materially, financially) from me. She has, on several occasions, begged me not to 'waste' my money on her even though at such moments I really wanted to offer her something.I soon realised if I wanted to get her something I shud buy it when I am alone and just offer it to her, not take her out & ask her to get something.

What she 'demands' is that I spend time with her...she just wants to be around me, even when I cant talk to her because I am working on something...she tells me she doesn't care. 

She is a type of person who discourages me from getting her material things, yet she has her own creative ways of surprising me with gifts. Her family isnt rich,though....just a daughter of a retired teacher and bus driver - average Chinese. So don't generalise that Chinese women are too demanding.

Bona, my wife is the same we joke sometimes about how expensive it is when spending anything up to 10yuan!!!! Seriously though I earn money in England and we will never be rich but can have a nice life here, travel when we want and buy what we want. It has taken her nearly six years to believe that we can afford things without having to worry about it.

You are right, there are many Chinese women who are not that demanding. Not everyone is a Shanghai gold digger.

They are spoiled, so am I.

IN EVERY CASE, THERE IS ALWAYS EXCEPTION,  but the majority of Chinese girls are that ambitious and children inwardly.

Cause we have high quality of taste when it comes to women and with that taste comes too many responsibilities and payments to be done {iPads........iPhones........LV.........Gucci....and so on}..........so it is like this "No money no hottie".......Simple equation......get the hottie pay the money or sell the kidney..........Good Luck mates

Well said Zoo! Yes, and mature and grown up!!! And, not acting like childish,annoying idiots..like 12 yr. olds as mentioned!!!!!!! :(