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Q: Why do I now feel bad for Chinese men?

OMG!!! After reading some of your comments about Chinese men, watching a YouTube video, and reading a BBC article, I feel bad for Chinese men. Every time I walk pass the gaming rooms near my apartment and see them sitting in there playing games all night, my heart drops. Sometimes I stop and stare at them through the window and say, "Awww." Should I feel bad for them or are they okay with the fact that they may never marry?

 

Englteachted 

Chinese guys like that have never actually slept with a woman. They just go to SPA's or massage parlors. So they don't know that some women like to sleep with a pillow between their legs.

Chinese men get hurt feelings when the wind changes directions.

 

retiredinchina 

 It's pretty hard for a Chinese man that is outgoing and flirtatious to find a date, if a man like this actually exists, when you don't know if the lady your hitting on is dating someone or married, no wonder they play computer games and ignore a goddess when she walks by them with out even a glance.

 

 

 

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It must warm your cockles to be so condescendingly superior to everyone. Your delusional melanated-aryan cult really did a number on you.

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Don't feel bad for them.  Chiners aren't into girls.  Chiners are Butt Pirates.

http://acc6.its.brooklyn.cuny.edu/%7Ephalsall/texts/gaytexts.html

Tami.X:

I was thinking either homosexuality or polygamy could help.

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wtf is polygamy?  you are gonna send me running for a dictionary.  I think I remember that word from a long time ago,,,,  polygamy,,, a guy has sex with more than one girl?

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Tami.X:

po·lyg·a·my
pəˈliɡəmē/
noun
  1. 1.
    the practice or custom of having more than one wife or husband at the same time.
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    One wife, two husbands.
  3.  

 

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diverdude1:

can't have more than one wife at a time.

 

anyway, I just wanted to say this....... Tami,, did I get your name right?  you do seem like a weirdo, psycho,,, but I'm glad u are here.   Nice to have a new nutcase here.  haha. ,,  are u really in china though?  someways I hope so,, and someways I hope not.  And, are u really female?  Negro?  that's really cool!  Ya know,,, not so many neros or females in Gookland.  And to be both!  Negro and Female,,,,, wow!  you are braver and more oyut there than most!  I'm glad u chat here !    Kisssssss u

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GI jane at it again lol

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I don't feel bad about them, some are fine and others are not, just like men anywhere else. The difference in China is that the 'not so fine' dudes can't accept it and try way too hard to overcompensate for it by playing fake tough and acting all cocky.

But I feel their deep rooted insecurities when I am sipping a coffee not bothering anyone and a short skinny dude can't help himself but to give me a strong death stare out of nowhere.

I don't blame them for it, I smile and mind my own business, but I have been saying it for years, these are not friendly stares.

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Oh so they are jealous of you?

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RandomGuy:

It's pretty obvious that they are, their demeanor towards foreign men in general speaks for them. It's not every Chinese guys, but a very large percentage of them, typically the less physically attractive ones, short and skinny.

 

I don't think there is any foreign man who has spent more than a year in China without being intensely stared at by young Chinese men for no other reason than being a foreigner.

 

And there is a sharp very noticeable difference between curious stares that you may get from kids or elders or from countryside youth, and angry stares that you usually get from urban young men who obviously struggle to find a partner.

 

Something interesting I have noticed, in any country it always is ugly people who feel threatened by the injection of outside genes into the dating game and who call themselves 'nationalist' with a touch of xenophobia.

 

I was having a debate on another website recently with people who have 'nationalist' views on politics, we came to the point where I was arguing the aforementioned, every photos of nationalists I could find were unattractive people, doesn't matter what race or country they were from.

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I don't feel any sympathy for a bunch of fools that CAN NOT and WILL NOT admit their mistakes but would rather blame others for their shortcoming. 

 

They blame foreigners for stealing their women, even stoop as low as to call them spies. 

 

Pathetic. Insecure little creatures. I have seen some Chinese men who aren't little douches and they have no problem getting women. 

RandomGuy:

My wife's best friend used to be with this local dude (so typical Chinese-Chinese couple) who admitted to not liking me just because I am a foreigner, and thus to being a racist scumbag.

 

We would always hang out with her because they are best friends and I also have a great chemistry with her, we really are on the same wavelength on so many things, she was honor attendant at our wedding and all that.

 

Anyway, that dude hated me from the beginning, he would have an attitude and everything. So one day I took him alone and asked him to chill because I have no further interest in my wife's best friend, we are just friends.

 

Still he hated me, and would always ask my wife's best whether 'the foreigner' would be there when she was to meet my wife. One day she asked him what happened and he said he just doesn't like foreigners.

 

Then he went on a rant about Chinese sticking with each others and foreigners can not be trusted and on how foreigners are hurting China and stealing Chinese girls, he said I stole my wife from a Chinese man and more junk.

 

Things went downhill from then and they ended up going their separate ways. She wasn't sad about it because he was a racist scum anyway.

 

His and others obnoxious insecure behavior towards interracial couples has convinced my wife that the reason why so many Chinese men are lonely has more to do with them being complete losers than with the gender gap.

 

According to her, many of those men would have no problem getting laid with Chinese or foreign women if they dropped the misplaced racial pride and xenophobic attitude.

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Should have looked the greedy c*nt straight in the eye, (he was already married? What the f*ck is his problem?) and told him you were willing to go to war right then and now rather than prolong the frustration of waiting for any official proclamation from your superiors. Tell him it would be in both of your interests to have his little war out right there and then in order to spare each of your egos the discovery of how disappointing your countrymen's support would eventually be. Then politely ask him to step outside. 

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It must warm your cockles to be so condescendingly superior to everyone. Your delusional melanated-aryan cult really did a number on you.

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The answer to this wise question would save yourself from a lot of sufferings.

 

Many possible reasons, the most obvious being empathy. You are putting yourself into their shoes, saying to yourself, 'if I am like that I would feel awful'. What a sad / painful / wasted / ....fill in whatever you like.....life.  

 

While you can be spot on, ie this is actually what they are feeling, for some, what you haven't done is take it one step further, asking what a normal, healthy psyche would become under such circumstances.

 

Imagine you are being locked up in a prison, what would you be thinking day and night? What kind of mentality would you develop? When you see visitors dressing nicely touring the prison, what feelings would come up?

 

Now, the warden broadcasts everyday that those visitors are the ones who put you in the prison. If you want to vent your anger, jealousy, hatred, they should be the targets, not the warden. They cheated you and they are your enemy, you must use all deceiful means you can come up with to bring them down, together all prisoners should unite, the prison is your home, without it you have no home, no prisoner id, you exist no more.

 

The above is a brief synopsis. You can still empathize with them, sure, what do you think if you make friends with them would happen to you? What do you think they are feeling and thinking as they interact with you? I think you are smart enough to figure out the rest.  

coineineagh:

You are crediting her with too much decency. She's a racist gloating at the misfortunes of another race, dressing it up as pity and empathy.

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Tami.X:

I have spoken to many melanated people here and they told me that Chinese people are some of the most racist people they have ever met. The fact that I am genuinely feeling bad for them should be viewed as a positive thing. The melanated race has many misfortunes as well. 

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coineineagh:

All races are melanated, fuckwit. Even white people have melanin skin cells. Otherwise we couldn't get a sun tan. Yes, Chinese are very casually racist, and they are also shy and casual about it, so unlike white racism, there are no blatant opportunities to confront them on their bigotry, without looking like the troublemaker. Yes it sucks. The best reaction is not to reciprocate the race-war-mentality, but to show you are more sophisticated than the city-dwelling farmers who mistreat you. You are only showing them you aren't. What will be the inevitable result? Race war confirmed. You are in an isolated position in China. Do you really want to initiate this conflict? Have you no common sense?

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There is a hawkish stream of thought in Asian cultures, about how to best go about achieving cultural dominance. The belief is, that expressing colonialist arrogance is necessary to establish a true feeling of superiority. It's not dissimilar to US warhawks who believe a country needs an outside enemy image in order to not fall apart from infighting. So it may actually be people's intended goal, to appear like a self-deluding chauvinist.

Perhaps you're very perceptive about the game of one-upmanship being played, and you're returning the sentiment. You're a convincingly arrogant, self-deluding chauvinist. With perhaps enough vocal advocates like yourself, you may be able to lift the self-image of black people through negative value judgements. Like Hitler's advisor Goebbels said: "Make the lie big, keep repeating it, and eventually people will believe it."

You appear to be quite vile, in the way you present your judgements. And you are quite happy to be disliked. But if you are in China, you really need to watch your step.

earthizen:

That insecurity and cultural invasion mentality is what I would term as overcompensation. I once saw a Lambo crashed right in front of me doing that. That car sped by like a hurricane, it was a two lane (on my side) highway in the countryside. It overtook all the other cars, the traffic was sparse so there were only six to seven cars, the driver spotted a gap between two cars on both lanes, way ahead, aimed for that, made a left (he was on the right hand side lane, swoosh into that gap, lost control, made a sharp right swerve after overtaking those two cars, overcompensated, the Lambo continued right and crashed into bank of highway.

 

China is doing that right now. Its crash is imminent, its arogance, both on the international political platform, the hubris with the emperor's new clothes thing, and on a civilian daily life tourist platform  has managed to offend pretty everyone they come into contact with, the rest of the world basically only talk money with them. China has no real friends in the international arena. They only have themselves to blame.

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@Tami you are sounding like insecure yourself, Self-boasting talks, looking down on others and hatred regularly are symptoms mostly appears in these cases.

You don't need to generalize and use racism on every topic. People are people, There are many different kinds of people everywhere. 

If you have something better than others, be thankful, try to help. be cool and enjoy your life.

Tami.X:

I am sorry but how does feeling bad for people mean that I am looking down on them or thinking I am better than them?  I do not conform to society's views on how people should act, think, speak, blah, blah,blah.  I am a free thinker, I speak my mind, and I live my life according to how I want to live it. You do not know me so you can take your theology somewhere else.

 

Insecure??? You are wild crazy!! You don't understand me or other's in my community so the only response you can have for our pride is to call us insecure, crazy, etc. Shut Up.

 

I know who I am and I am proud to be a Melanated Goddess. I am God! And I say that with the utmost confidence.

 


 

 

 

 

 

 

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bhimpatel:

You are either very insecure person or just big dumb fuck who is so obsessed with self-ego. 

Ever heard of reverse psychology?

 

 

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I am a person just like anyone else, Neither less nor better than others. I have my own flaws and strengths.Like most people.I have my best days and my worst days too.I am pretty much happy and enjoying my life. I hate people like Terrorists, Rapist, Cunning Selfish politicians, religious leaders or anyone with propaganda who plays with innocent people's life and brain. But I do not hate anyone for just being different than me, or having a different lifestyle or opinions than me. As long as it is not harming others, it's fine to have it your way.

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bhimpatel:

I am sorry but how does feeling bad for people mean that I am looking down on them or thinking I am better than them? 

 

Ans: Do u think members on this website are as stupid as you who would not notice your real feelings behind those of your words?

 

 I do not conform to society's views on how people should act, think, speak, blah, blah,blah.  I am a free thinker, I speak my mind, and I live my life according to how I want to live it. 

 

Ans: You are not a free thinker, Actually you pretty much brainwashed.

 

You do not know me so you can take your theology somewhere else.

Ans: Reading your opinions is enough to know you, and you are judging other people(say Chinese men) even without knowing their opinions and that is totally fine, right? 

 

Insecure??? You are wild crazy!! You don't understand me or other's in my community so the only response you can have for our pride is to call us insecure, crazy, etc. Shut Up Ans: Yes insecure, that is why you need to bring your community and pride in this talk while I was just talking about you.

I know who I am and I am proud to be a Melanated Goddess. I am God! And I say that with the utmost confidence.Ans: Wake up lady you are far from being confident, you are either an egoist or insecure.but not confident.You are not confident enough to be yourself and accept what you are, so you need to make up shits like melanated and goddess to make yourself feel good.

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Looking at how racist you are it seems that you feel bad about Chinese men only because they are not "melanated"...

 

Lets play "hot or not", please share here a picture of yourself and let us decide if you are a "goddess".

philbravery:

Dude Believe me when I tell you to be careful what wish for.

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iWolf:

Are you thinking Bill Cosby in drag?

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philbravery:

You would take the hard drugs to help get through it

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Tami.X:

I was standing outside of Wal-mart in the USA one dark, cold winter night. I was standing there waiting for my Uber when two white males approached me. One of them said to me, "You don't have to be afraid of me, I don't bite, I might not." The other said, "You are very beautiful," I said thank you and he said, "Yeah you gotta be at least an 8 out of a 10 but I don't know because its dark out here but I think you are an 8/10. Now it was dark and they were clearly intoxicated. Actually I was thinking are y'all coked up or doped up? You'll get your whole little KKK clique smoked up. But anyway it was the funniest compliment or whatever you want to call that I have ever gotten in my life especially because white men in America are afraid to hit on melanated women. They are intimidated by us and think that we only date melanated men.

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i have met a couple of red bones that could score an 8 and some fulah girls also. It is possible.

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