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Q: 5000 divorces a day in china your thoughts?
i used this as a discussion topic for my class i was shocked how many people believed that the govt should punish people who try to get a divorce with fines, one student even said if a man divorces more than twice he should be locked up (university students)
sorry i forgot to ask this is a high divorce rate always a bad thing?
12 years 29 weeks ago in Family & Kids - China
That number has to be made up. I mean come on, the guy as already bought the house and the car before asking the woman to marry him. Isn't that all that is needed to live happily ever after. And here I thought the Middle Kingdom provided fairy tale endings for anyone that had the money to afford it.
Because parent decide who should marry who.... Love is no issue
what class are you in? this is funny....never ever heard gov got a thing with marriage...
But it's a truth the growth of divorce rate is sharply higher and younger than before. It's mostly among 80's and 90"s tho..these generations are growing up in the best era of China..their parents are not as poor as before..they are financially independent..so they think they are alway independent, even in a marriage with 2 ppl. Most of these divorces are because 2 ppl don't want to compromise and understand each other. Some divorces are because the change of China socity brings too many new lifestyle(QQ) and money become a big issue in their marriage. China is changing everyday, but their people actually not able to follow up this big change with knowledge, better education, thoughts,etc....at this point, MAYBE gov got a thing with these divorces too (pondering)
I know a girl, she is just over 30, now has her third wedding!! she is from a upper middle class family, very nice girl when friends gathering, there is no any omen she will marry 3 times!! she must has some other side we dont know maybe~~ 
crimochina:
introduce her to me, i will show her that marriage is nothing compared to a "good time"
It's a bad thing if people don't change something about their next relationship. If the first one doesn't work, there's a reason. Instead, kind of like in other developed countries, they decide to divorce instead of trying to compromise and work it out. The other problem is not thinking about compatibility before getting married. Whether it's for love or money, that's not enough of a reason to get married, it's more complicated than that.
10,000 people going their separate ways in a country of approximately 1,300,000,000 doesn't seem like a lot.
5000 divorces is not even in the radar of Beijing's population~ so no big deal.
I think this is a good thing for the Chinese people. The younger generation is learning now that getting married for love and not family obligations is the way to go.
With all of China's new wealth, I am not surprised by this rising divorce rate Crimo. Couples now have a lot more things to argue about. More money always brings more problems into any relationship.
Love (and lack of) and Marriage were interestingly looked into by Mr Thomas Hardy, particularly in his penetrating work - Jude the Obscure.
QUOTATION: And so, standing before the aforesaid officiator, the two swore that at every other time of their lives till death took them, they would assuredly believe, feel, and desire precisely as they had believed, felt, and desired during the few preceding weeks. What was as remarkable as the undertaking itself was the fact that nobody seemed at all surprised at what they swore.
ATTRIBUTION: Thomas Hardy (1840–1928), British novelist, poet. Jude the Obscure, part first, ch. 9 (1895).
diverdude1:
lol... don't worry, I'm still trying to figure it out too...
Statistics are relevant only when compared to the general picture. What is the percentage of married persons in China? Of these, how many divorce? Of these, how many remain divorced? Family ties still remain much stronger in China than they are in the West, if for no other reason than for concerns regarding the social net. If one might compare statistics in a manner of divorce vs. married population, then one might have a more accurate picture.
For example, totally unrelated but as an example. The city of Chicago has one of the highest murder rates in the United States, together with Detroit and Atlanta. Terribly high. 90% of these murders, however, are committed within a very delimited area of the city, rendering that part of the city almost lawless. The rest of the city, however, has a murder rate and an overall crime rate far less than that of most other American cities. I only say this to point out that statistics are relevant when used in comparison or against a general backdrop,.
nevermind:
That whole "family ties in China" thing is such BS. You think we don't love our parents? You think we don't care about our siblings? In fact I would say we care about them MORE than Chinese people because Chinese treat their family like a horrible burden and they "owe" them things.
I talk to my Mom and Dad on the phone every couple days, know why? Cause I love my parents and want to talk to them, not because I feel obligated. When i go over to see them my parents and I get loaded and watch a hockey game together or do yard work.
My dad worked 16 hours a day running his own company for his family and still made time for his kids. REAL time, like taking me to football games or sailing - teaching me how to be a man, not telling me to study and making me feel bad about myself then going out to screw his mistress. The amount of Chinese people I know who claim they hate their parents is astounding.
So screw you and your competely ignorant views of what you THINK western culture is. I also notice this post is in keeping with all ignorant China-trolls who go and drag up posts from years ago for some stupid reason.
AdamE:
actually i would have to agree that chinese families tend to me close.
this doesn't mean western families love eachother any less, i dont think they do. but i think overall it's true western families arent as close.
sometimes it's a bad thing to be so close though, like parents constantly in your business or telling you how to live your love life. that can be counterproductive a lot of times.
3 years past it was quoted that 1.4 million marry each year, whilst 1.2 million will divorce. Today the statistics read 1.4 million divorce. Maybe it is because they are still being introduced, enticed and selected guided by the parents for their ability to provide future securement, it does seem to be about who the parents like and think most suitable. Instead to real family values. Falling in love and loving someone for who they are, not what they can give you. I tend to think that so many Chinese relationships fail simply because they do not know or understand each other enough. The habits the likes and dislike the shortcomng and the real understanding that marriage is a 'together' thing. 50/50 not just all take and no give.
That's the reason why i am still single.It's not definitely bad to be single,i think.
single or marry,More and more people are afraid of marriage.Once you have married,you will face up with another family,a lot of things you need to do.....it is not simple
Scandinavian:
"Once you marry you have your favorite person in you life everyday and no longer needs to deal with family"
Where can I get 5000 wives, if it only takes one day to divorce them all, I'm game.
:
Here... Put on this Bomb.
You don't mind Virgins, do you?
(there was supposed to be a smiley here, but the screen doesn't want to work.)
I think marriage & family are less appealing nowadays. E.g In Russia (where I am from) less & less people decide to tie the knot & even less people decide to have kids. As for China, women here realize that they are in short supply thus they have more choices than men. Chinese women are educated, they have more money to spend & they're beautiful. They just can afford to divorce even when with children. I don't think it's always bad. It gives women more freedom which makes men & women more equal when it comes to marriage.
LAR:
Wrong, SOME Chinese women are beautiful while many are not. Some are educated while many are not. Some have more money to spend and many do not.
There are many people in China, thus 5,000 divorces per day is within reason.
Have you seen the way women are treated here? This is pogger... I'm sure you all know how they treated my wife. That's unfortunately quite common... I've seen it happen time and time again.
Women are waking up, and are starting to realize that they deserve better than what so many bastards are offering. And then they blame the women for the way THEY made them.
As Hulk-Pogger said, with the way women are treated in China, and women's increasing awareness, I am surprised the figure is not much higher. I expect it will rise drastically in the near future.
You know this story, Pogger's story, and the general view of the nature of so many Chinese men vis-a-vis women added to the gender imbalance leads me to think there is going to be a huge crisis for Chinese men in the very near future.
Surely any Chinese woman, no matter her financial background must soon realise (if they haven't already) that in the marriage stakes they are now a rare commodity and so have all the bargaining chips, THEY get to chose the men not vice versa. So either the men improve or the women find partners from the rich elite / overseas. It's down to you Chinaman, buck up or your genes die!
