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Q: Any foreign ladies dating or had dated a local guy?

This question even applies to you ABC's, BBC's, etc. Seems like most of my foreign guy friends have a local gf and all my foreign female friends is single or has a foreign bf. 

 

11 years 29 weeks ago in  Relationships - Shanghai

 
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I tried dating a local guy once.  But since neither of us were gay, it didn't work out.  All of our dates were just prolonged awkward silences.  He did offer to buy me an iPad though.  That was nice of him.

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So John, you were... hhhmm.... 'foreign lady'surprise

without iPad?

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LOL....@ THE FOREIGN LADY IPAD COMMENT

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hahahah, i hope this is a joke 

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I tried dating a local guy once.  But since neither of us were gay, it didn't work out.  All of our dates were just prolonged awkward silences.  He did offer to buy me an iPad though.  That was nice of him.

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So John, you were... hhhmm.... 'foreign lady'surprise

without iPad?

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LOL....@ THE FOREIGN LADY IPAD COMMENT

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hahahah, i hope this is a joke 

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I know an Italian girl who not just dated a Chinese dude but married him and now she is pregnant with his baby....was surprised at the beginning but i went to the wedding and did what my " Chinese Custom" duties in their wedding and to say the truth i bever saw a happier couple

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He must be one hell of a local Chinese guy then. Congrats to them both.

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I am dating a Chinese guy. We've been dating for almost two years. And I am crazy about him. He is not a normal, traditional guy but still born, bread and buttered in China...Hoping to settle down in China with him. 

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Not normal uh? Well i think i know what you mean. I know some Chinese models that just seem really down to earth, smart, good hygiene, and knows how to eat healthy. May happiness continue the rest of your life.

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Congratulations and good luck to you !

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I know of a French lady who is married to a Chinese guy a few years younger than herself. They now have a baby. The man is one of the few smart Chinese guys I have seen - He is handsome, humble and looks well organised in what he does. No wonder this French lady fell for him.

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I've also got a Chinese boyfriend. He was born and raised in China, but he went to college for four years in Switzerland, so he's not super traditional or conservative. He's smart, sweet, handsome, patient, and fun--everything I could ask for. He said he has no interest in Chinese girls because they're too materialistic. His last girlfriend was with him for four years, but in the end, she left him because he didn't have enough money. She lost something really great.

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I saw one foreigner girl, with chinese man in metro about 2 weeks ago, seems they was close to each other. but this sunday, i am pretty sure was the same guy, but with chinese girl and both have full hands of bags in the shopping centre. the centre is at close to that place, i saw the guy with white girl entry the subway, btw . just one case. 

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what's up with "foreigner women" instead of "foreign women"

11 years 9 weeks ago
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I do not know what's wrong with them 

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Oh so you are a stalker too? I'll make sure to keep my distance  So detailed! gosh!

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I have been seeing a Chinese guy for about a month now and I must admit I am totally crazy about him! He is really cute, fun and intelligent. He is really attentive and he is such a gentleman. I really hope everything works out great between us Smile

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I have been in China for 6 weeks now and have only noticed married Chinese men take an interest in me thus far.  I am not sure where to even begin looking for eligible bachelors.  I attempted to go to a KTV near by but quickly made a U turn when I noticed the looks on the females at entrance faces......Then I assumed that this was not really a KTV place for the single ladies.........So, I will take the back seat for now and just learn from others.....ANY ADVICE FOR NOW.........laugh

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I have been in China for 6 weeks now and have only noticed married Chinese men take an interest in me thus far.  I am not sure where to even begin looking for eligible bachelors.  I attempted to go to a KTV near by but quickly made a U turn when I noticed the looks on the females at entrance faces......Then I assumed that this was not really a KTV place for the single ladies.........So, I will take the back seat for now and just learn from others.....ANY ADVICE FOR NOW.........laugh

snowballeffect:

Stop looking and you might find one....good luck!

11 years 24 weeks ago
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There are so many gentlemen in China, do not worry....

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elchinocabron:

Hola, tienes que ir  a los bares donde van los extranjeros.

 

Buena Suerte.

11 years 9 weeks ago
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If you really want to find a good man, you should avoid KTVs and clubs. 

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i am a chinese guy, and I believe most of the expats who gotto know chinese guys make friends at the school, workplace or bars. It's unbelieve for someone to go to the KTV alone since KTV in china is a place you go with friends, lots of friends. It's not the bars where you can go alone.

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vman111, you're totaly right. I have been in China for 4 years,and I noticed that only 1% of the ladies foreigner is intersting to the chinese guy, whele, 90% of the foreign guys with the local girls. That is not strange anymore, you know Chinese guy?!!lol

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it is so common that span countries wedding in nowadays.Chinese lady are so amazing that many foreigners love to date with them.For the foreigner women.I do not think Chinese men love to marry with foreigner women.

ElenaDob:

It works the other way around too, foreign women very seldom fall for Chinese guys due to culture differences.

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i wish see how looks that white girls with chinese bf,,are they short o fat?i never see hot white girls with local chinese

matrixjoseph:

seconded,there are so few chinese guys and foreign girls,not to mention the beautiful girls.

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not grow up in western chinese men date hot white girl in different place are  different  situation.
first i can sure 100% chinese men  like western girl especially height from 165-180cm and with nice tits and round ass western girl.
if you are blondy that would be better.

but we all know usually chinese not have good body type as white and black ...that thing are smallist of all race ,,sound bad but true.
if this chinese born and grow up in china even he study onther language even he go to onther county to learn in university ,,he still can't say as native speak and can't understand the culture of that country very well.they can't show the humor and clever 100%.
this why even have so many chinese imgrant and study to western country...just sevrel can date western girl in there too..but second generacion   have many chinese date western girl in there.they don't have language and culture barrie.
and in the world .not all western girl are hard to date ,,for example in the countris speak english are very hard to date white girls for first generacion chinese.in south and west and north europe still hard too.but in easter europe if you have enough money you can have white gf and wife..care about it i mean gf and wife not hooker
i have been lived in spain and rumania and canada several years,ow living in shanghai
usually in spain for first generacion chinese 0.1%have western gf 0.01%married western wife,,my work can let me know 50000 chinese in spain...(in all spain have 250000chinese)
and in rumania close 15% have rumania gf.i know 2000 chinese in there (in all rumania have 5000 chinese)
you can't say this chinese in rumania are all more strong and cute and clever and speak rumania better than this chinese living in spain.

because in rumania the economy are so worse ..if a chinese can give this rumania girl a nice life she will to be his girl..this situation as in russian.
but in north and west european and some countries as canada and usa ,even this chinese have good busness ,still hard ,,of course if this chinese have good body and cute face ,,that would be onthe situation..but in really world how many chinese own rich ,tall strong and good look together?i have many chinese female friends are still looking some guy as i said.

in china is different
i can sure in china many single men wish date western girls.if chinese want date hot white gf o wife,,the money can't help him near nonthing...the reason are not that western lady just looking for true love .....because all of white girls in china are not poor ,usually thay have good income and well family  offer them.they will not succumb for money.
that means if this chinese not enough tall and strong and cute and good lucky ...is very hard to atractive western girl.even you are clever and speak kind of english o onther language,,if you are not enough hot ,,you don't have many oportunited.
if you don't belive ,,you can care about the couple chinese men and hot western girl(they meet and love in china),,how looks about that chinese ...i saw several chinese have white gf o wife ,,all of them are more than 178cm...them white gf usually from 160cm-175cm..but when i in rumania even and in spain i saw several chinese just 160 cm o little high than 160cm,still have white gf o wife the height than 175cm .i can't belive is true love let them together...

the suggest for chinese men not grow up in western countries and wish date o marry a hot and nice white lady
1if you are tall strong and cute ,,thanks your parents give you this .do your best learn english ,,of course if you have free time learn onther language better..
2if you short as me even cute ,,still do your best learn english and practise my spanih ...thanks i have well family ,,try go to easte europea,,in there more chance,i promise not let my children as short and slim as me.so them month's DNA is super importent.even i can't marry a hto white wife i still wish marry a tall and nice body chinese ,wish my son when he is adult date white not so hard as his father.
3if you short and not rich ,,still still do your best learn english.that's only chance and  afew chance,,
4 if you short and not rich and want say you don't want learn english ,,sorry if you don't help yourself ,,the  god can't help you too.

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Pobrecito ;-)

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What an excellent article! Very interesting.

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The way you talk about women in general is very offensive and disgusting, and probably has more to do with why you are single. 

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Looks like your only sexual partner is going to be your dominant hand......

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 Very interesting article. There's one thing i don't absolutely agree with - in Russia women are very careful about marrying or dating Chinese because of the enormous culture gap, but you're right, if a girl comes from a poor family, she would give it a shot. I also know that the divorce rate between Russian woman - Chinese man couples is very  high (more than 50% of such marriages end in divorce).

  Russian economy is doing much better now, so ladies who come from the European part of Russia which is more prosperous are not in a hurry to tie the knot.

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Big turn off for me.  The chain-smoking asshole spent the whole night trying to convince me how wealthy his family was. He had the bar send over 3 different bottles of French wine, but then ordered two mixed drinks.  When I asked him to open the wine, he said the bottles were to take home with us.  He was so self-centered and selfish that when I went "to use the bathroom",  I never looked back and grabbed a taxi home, and blocked his number.

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your very lucky , most of them talk on the phone for the whole dinner and ignore you , so they appear important. where are you from slinky

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Big turn off for me.  The chain-smoking asshole spent the whole night trying to convince me how wealthy his family was. He had the bar send over 3 different bottles of French wine, but then ordered two mixed drinks.  When I asked him to open the wine, he said the bottles were to take home with us.  He was so self-centered and selfish that when I went "to use the bathroom",  I never looked back, grabbed a taxi home, and blocked his number.

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i still want date not too short and too over weight caucasion girl ,,but is too hard....

1 i grew up in china,,can't use any onther language show my humor

2 i don't have hot body..170cm   107 kg...normal asian body....

3 the caucasion girls living in china ,,means they are not poor girl..i know in easter european many poor girl have high salary asian bf..but in here,what even i learn language ..even better everyday ..but still show humor..and the caucasion girls living in china don't care about money..so i work hard and make me more rich ,,still can't atractive them ...sound sad but is true..

 

 

if you reasch it ,,you will found that local guys can have caucasion gf ,usually they have good body....

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I met only one couple where the girl was a foreigner and the guy was Chinese (bear in mind that I also met only one couple the other way around.... I was not surrounded by expats).

 

They were both lovely - he in particularly was one of the nicest Chinese people I met in my time there.

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i still wish date caucasion lady,,but so hard.

sorrel:

how willing are you to adapt to foreign women are you? many foreign women here are willing to adopt some local customs, but the men here seem to be less willing to compromise any aspect of their culture.

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I did, and married the man! We now have a 17-month-old and another on the way. 

 

He's open-minded (and so is his family), but still pretty Chinese. Hawks a loogie every now and then, but he stopped smoking when I got pregnant with our first baby. He's a great husband and father. I do believe in soul-mates, so I don't think us finding each other has anything to do with racial preferences, but more to do with fate! 

sorrel:

You were luckier than me ! I am sure that the 'westernisation' of the country will have an impact on attitudes, but at present, traditional culture has a large influence on the men's view of foreign women. I am not saying that some aspects of traditional Chinese culture are wrong, but the lack of flexibility is frustrating at times

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I would consider dating/marrying a Chinese man, but the few I meet are married or just want to sleep with foreign women so they can brag to their friends.

most are quite superficial, which is sad, because more foreign women would probably marry them if they took the time to get to know us

juestewang:

It's sadly true. I actually met my husband through one of his friends who happened to be a student of mine. I was interested in this particular student, and we had gone out several times. The student introduced me to my husband, my husband later telling me that the student had wanted to brag about an American girl who "was in love with him", and when my husband didn't believe him, the student invited us all to a dinner. 

 

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VMan111, I like ur photo!

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I have only met one couple where the girl was foreign guy Chinese. She left him and went back to America.. The two guys I know who have had Chinese wives are both divorced now.

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