So sad this conversation is even taking place. Most Chinese "girls" are crazy about "white men, and in most cases it is not because they are crazy in love with you. I feel as if most men going to Asia behaved as dogs let of the leash. There are "good and  bad"  or  women who have self respect or not everywhere in the world. It is deceiving that Chinese women are perfect or better than western, I think because more expectations and independence is expected from them. Most western women would also not marry men who are 20 years older. Western women wish for emotional closeness, connection and partnership in a relationship rather than someone who is going to save them and secure safe passage to the "west".