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Q: Are Chinese men really effeminate?

I ask because we have a picture of our obviously-female daughter on QZone. She's wearing a pink hat with flowers, holding a purse, and wearing a bunch of girly clothes.

Half of the people can't tell if she's a boy or girl. A quarter of them keep saying, "You have a handsome boy."

Our daughter does not look like a boy... not even close. Have decades of man-purse abuse and acting effeminate skewed Chinese men's perspective of male/female? Or are they projecting, hoping we only have a boy, so we won't be "cursed" with a girl?

For the record, all the girls realize she's a girl... it's the guys who are being derp.

4 years 45 weeks ago in  Family & Kids - Beijing

 
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I think that they are.

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Nah it's just that the long fingernails, handbags and strange dress sense makes them look like it.

 

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I agree sometimes it is difficult to appreciate whether they are men or women. Most of them dont even have beard, and body hair, dont talk about the size down there. However they really think they are men because they have money and can treat their girlfriends.

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I think they become effeminate and cowards when they are not peasants.

 

In my previous neighborhood I have seen Chinese men catcalling foreigners when they are 5 and the foreigner alone, and yet they waited until they passed this foreigner, but the same men looking down the pavement when passing a foreigner without their 4 buddies, this is the pure definition of cowardice. At least uneducated older Chinese have the guts to shout right in your face when something goes wrong.

 

When it comes to being effeminate I am sorry but MEN DO NOT CARRY PURSES, it's anything but manly, also I know Chinese men who do beauty masks (you know the green paste on face) regularly and are afraid or any little scratch on their skin, let alone the ones who walk and talk like women when carrying their purse.

 

And the same men tell their counterparts to beware or foreign men, and some local women believe it.

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result of gender inbalance

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Hulk: Could they be uttering concealed insults on QQ, by claiming your half-half daughter doesn't look feminine enough? I'm sure you're wondering that. Just let the juvenilized chimps pat themselves on the backs: China is a poster-child of the harmful effects of neoteny run rampant: A culture of dependence, nobody taking responsibility for their lives, rigid thinking, selfishness, pettiness and so on. Who cares what they think. Adult features are not ugly, and remember that smooth Chinese baby-faces are usually accompanied by immature baby brains. Be strong, loud, proud, and disregard childish insults by these impotent lilliputters. Your daughter will fare well wherever she lives:
www.vagabondjourney.com/china-has-turned-my-daughter-into-alpha-kid/

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They see some Korean men acting like this and think it is fashionable. It is mostly men in big city trying to be "cool". You sometimes but not very often see men like this in the countryside. I guess their fathers tell them to act like a man. The city men see that the women here like the Korean boy bands so try to copy their style. It is as simple as that.

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I don't know about men's look mucho, 'cause my eyes mostly piercing girls. Everywhere I am, not only in China.

 

Found this article/book with nice pic on today's Telegraph:

 

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/culture/books/11201682/Why-we-should-all-be-f...

 

Why we should all be feminists

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's We Should All Be Feminists might just be the most important book you read all year, says Rupert Hawksley

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, author of 'Americanah' 

 

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It depends on what you mean by "effeminate".

 

I've seen plenty of Chinese men, especially younger men, with expensive, gaudy silk shirts, leather purses (with whatever fashion logo), expensive dress shoes, and other clothing that is far removed from the "rugged manliness" that's popular in the West. 

 

My theory is that it's similar to the foppishness in the West back in the day. Teased out hair, long fingernails, heeled shoes, purses, expensive (and delicate) clothing all says, "I am not a laborer.", since it is wildly impractical to work wearing any of these. If you look at the actual laborers, they are dressed far more utilitarian (if you notice them... most of the physical workers go unnoticed). 

 

In China, wealth is everything, and especially for men, who are valued by their ability to acquire money. Men show off that they are of the leisure class to attract women, and to jockey for social status, much like French aristocracy back before the Revolution (though, you could say the same for most of Europe back then), with their powdered wigs, silk shirts, high heeled shoes, and other fashioned that told the commoners, "I don't work in the fields". China still has a legacy of feudalism, and is highly class structured. 

 

Consider the utterly Chinese fashion of men carrying their oversized wallets like American footballs, under their arms (or casually held with a few fingers). They're incredibly easy to steal, and take out the use of an arm/hand, completely impractical compared to stuffing a normal wallet in your pocket. However, they allow men to show off that they have money.

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