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Q: Are the Chinese more romantic than westerners?
First off i've gotta be honest, i'm about the most unromantic man in the world. My idea of romance is waking the missus up before we make out, and then when we're finished, letting her cuddle for five minutes while I text or play Tetris, instead of rolling her off with a "That'll do, Pig" before farting and hogging the sheets. And I don't see any signs of such a cynical/darkly humorous approach to love as mine in my observations of the Chinese. On the contrary, they seem to be naively innocent and all too quick to get slushy to some cheesy ballad whilst exchanging matching bracelets or some other such vomit-worthy show of affection, and they have 'two' Valentine's days to do so on! So what's the deal? Are they more in touch with their emotions? More loving, sweet-hearted, kinder people? Or are they just more easily suckered into the fairytale fantasy and blind to the ugly truth that the greatest love stories ever told are only so because those involved always end up dead before they've had a chance to screw it up?
Cheesy all the way. http://english.caixin.com/2013-09-26/100586724_2.html
I am aware that a money bouquet is not far from a piece of jewelry in terms of "buying love" but saying "I love you so much honeybunch but I just couldn't be bothered spending 5 mins picking out a nice set of earrings for you so here is cash" just doesn't cut it in the big book of love.
that's exactly why i don't like british humor...
Chinese more romantic or more trying hard before they accomplish the marriage-task and then looking for a xiao san
mArtiAn:
Well don't worry, British humour doesn't like you either. And your avatar, by the way, looks like a little girl with a beard.
mArtiAn:
Did I say something? As snotty, high and mighty replies go, yours is an old favourite, love. Just not so effective (for obvious reasons) when the conversation in question is in print.
Man you make me look good . I still open the door for my wife and salute . I buy flowers once in a while but I tell her every day that I love her . maybe i am doing it all wrong 
mArtiAn:
Ok, well maybe i'm more romantic than I let on. I mean, I probably went the last six months without giving her flowers, but then last week I went all out and pushed her into a rose bush. Grand gestures when least expected, that's what love is.
Nothing says 'in touch with your emotions' like a grown woman stomping all over a subway platform and acting like a spoilt 6 year old while her boyfriend tries to cajol her into shutting up. I'll take Western romance over a sa jiao relationship any day.
As for Chinese romance--they have the same tendencies as some Westerners. They get sappy over the idea of it all, but, in actual relationships, things start to slide over time if a couple doesn't watch for them. Maybe they are more cheesy than Westerners--but cheese has nothing to do with actual romance.
mArtiAn:
I heard that, the first thing you notice as you go into the garage of my rented apartment (aside from the cobwebs and rat droppings) is one of those cheesy wedding portraits that are so common. There's enough dust on it that i'd make a fair bet it's been in there longer than it was on any mantelpiece.
actually i think chinese a the opposite of romantic.
probably best example is my gf.
I bought flowers for valentines day, the answer: "How much did it cost? I kill you if it was more then 100 RMB"
other things i cant even be very romantic here. Tried to set up a candlelight dinner at home, guess what a proper tablecloth and CANDLES (without smelly shit) were nowhere to get
Scandinavian:
IKEA is your friend if you want to be romantic. A piece of fabric that will act as a tablecloth for the duration of a dinner and some plain candles can be acquired there for reasonable money. But why not go all the way and bring the missus to IKEA and have a romantic feeding session of a plate of mash and meatballs surrounded by locals failing to use the utensils in their intended way.
dom87:
haha yeah, but ikea is too far away for just buying some stupid candles
Scandinavian:
you can buy other stupid stuff too http://www.ikea.com/cn/zh/catalog/products/20241013/
cooter:
A trip to the IKEA cafeteria is worth it just to see Chinese customers carrying their own trays away from the table. You can tell who the newbies are by the level of confusion on their face when told they have to do this.
Scandinavian:
there are plenty of joyful moments in IKEA in China.
- Any section where there are soft furniture like beds and sofas there will be people actually sleeping
- Kitchen section is strangely underpopulated
- Free refill of drinks in the cafeteria is exploited.
- Lots of picture-taking, like it's a theme park
- The section where people have to pick their furniture of shelves is also funny, the whole concept of manual labor during a shopping experience is foreign to people. You can tell how they hate having to actually do anything themselves. I would guess the IKEA delivery and assembly service is a big part of the total revenue for that enterprise.
Sinobear:
Catch-22: And she'd kill you if the flowers cost less than 100 RMB
Scandinavian:
IKEA has a decent selection of plastic flowers (if there is such a thing as a decent selection of fake flowers)
"Honey-Bunny, they were cheap and they'll last just as long as a cubic zirconia ring and we can reuse them every year"
There is a clear distinction between romantic and cheesy. Romantic is doing something thoughtful that you know your partner will like. From the beginning of the relationship you will pay attention to what she/he likes and take a mental note. Then one day, you surprise them by preparing their favourite meal or buying them their favourite flowers. Cheesy can only be romantic if neither have any taste, but for the most part I consider cheesy to just be a show for other people rather than the loved one.
That is impossible. Enough said! Chinese boys are the weakest horny guys I've ever seen, girls have no idea why they have boobs, well they know theyre for milk. Well there are 10% of Chinese who are romantic.
Scandinavian:
actually boobs are not for milk, most Chinese girls thinks it's unlikely that their boobs will be able to provide food for an infant. it is a f'ed up culture for sure when hospitals force new parents to use formula, so they don't take up hospital space while the baby learns to feed.
ironman510:
My Chinese wife breast fed for 2 years, i said F**K Formula Milk.
Chinese women are very sentimental. I met one woman that really had an affect on me. I asked if she had a boy friend, she said no, but that she loved money, if I gave her money she would show me love, how much more sentimental can a girl get.
mArtiAn:
That's a sweet story, my wife's much the same; loves the finer things in life, like diamonds and gold, and why not? We should all shower our sweethearts in what makes them happy, so I try to give my wife a golden shower every day.
mArtiAn:
The only people i'm letting have a stroke are myself, my wife and our family doctor, and that's only because she's a qualified GP with marvelous credentials, and she looks like a dirty bitch.
