I don't know what to do.  It amazing how I can waste lengthy periods of time.  It'll be better for me when the ice is off the roads so I can ride the bike.  My guts now hangs over my belt and I suppose it's only a matter of time before I can't even see my best mate.

I just think before I act or react. Thinking about the responsibility I have to my family 99% of the time relaxes me and helps me make a good choice... After that 1% terrible day I usually buy a new Cell phone, that cheers me up.. lol

On that days, I'll go to supermarket, grab beers or wine or whisky, whatever available. at home I make some meat steaks or whatever contain at least 0,5kg of meat, play some movie or music and drink and eat, drink and eat ...

Alcohol!

Sound off to my wife or my friends. My wife, Chinese, actually agrees with me most of the time about the stupid things that happen here. I usually meet up with friends at least twice a week for a long lunch and maybe hitting a bar afterwards. Friends are definitely my safety valve here.

RANT on the internet! Seems the safest way to let people know your misery. I just hope the wumaos aren't tracking me down...

i usually go to the supermarket to buy some food i like，then go home and watch movies while eating on the side.sometimes i go walking，but it doesn't seem to work for me.

When I get really stressed, I ask myself the question, "What am I doing wrong?" Hear me out. We KNOW that locals don't have the best manners and can't queue up, so if we're constantly getting upset about it, that's our own fault for exposing ourselves to it.  We're adults...we should be capable of managing our lives. Nobody likes a victim of their own poor planning.

If you hate your job, nobody put a gun to your head and forced you to sign the contract. If you can't get a better job right now...invest in learning some skills that will open that door for you, and don't worry about something that is paying the bills while you better yourself. If you have shitty neighbors, don't skimp on housing and complain that you live around swarms of loud bums. If people are making you late...leave earlier. Don't shop at questionable vendors and fret about getting ripped off. There's all kinds of things we can do to head off stress before it starts. Just have to make good decisions.

I've learned to not base my happiness on any local behavior or institution, because that is a path to misery. Be happy with what you are personally doing and where you are going in life, and you won't sweat the other stuff.

I really empathise with this as I'm sure most foreigners are who have lived here for a while. For most who come here for a few months experience I don't think this is an issue, I know I was much calmer in the first year I was here.

But after making the decision to stay for longer and really trying to 'live' here, the everyday problems really take their toll some days. I have definitely had my fair share of these days and realised how short tempered I can become. The best thing that I try to do now is think about back home when we all have our 'off days', when things just aren't going well. Being in a country so different with the communication and culture barriers will always amplify the stress!!

Then I remember that nothing is MAKING me stay here and if I want to pursue a life, career, experience here then I just have to suck it up and deal with it... bloody hard sometimes but that's just the way it is. Depends what your into but if I can get the motivation to do some training (gym) then I always feel better for it after and as hard as it is to get it done, it definitely calms me down. Failing that, could just head out with a few friends and a couple of bottles... ususally does the trick!

Last night, I cried cos my husband never have my picture on his Q-zone.

Lol... that was silly. but it just never happened in China. Men never upload their wives pictures anywhere. Get used to it. 

Yeah, I'm a walking time bomb no matter where I am... come to think of it, I could use a bullet to the head.

I feel exactly as you say (starting my 4th year in China). I've two safety valves
 * I go running, 3 to 2 times a week, 1 hour each time. Not mere jogging, I push my heart, lungs and legs to the edge. It burns and stings, but it's a powerful relaxant (runner's high) that double as an healthy habit.
 * I play Minecraft with the Tekkit mod.

In the long run, I plan to leave China, plain and simple. Ejection in about 6 months, hopefully.