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Q: Aren't Chinese girls so amazing they know how to do everything except...

Cook, sew, bake, use a wash machine, and clean a house.  One of my colleagues married his Chinese princess and now claims she has not cooked nor made anything except a bag of microwave popcorn since they got married over a year ago. My mom and grandmother taught me how to bake when I was 10 and cook when I was 13.  Vicky, do Chinese moms ever teach their daughters anything about being a wife and homemaker?  Is all this ignorance deliberate?

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Not every Chinese women are the same, my girlfriend knows how to to all of this plus she is a big brain studying at the best uni in Hong Kong and coming back to GZ on weekends and holidays, and her family has more fucking money than I can ever hope to have.

 

You look like a frustrated White woman whose expat friends married Chinese women. Maybe you can look at Chinese boys, many are so lonely.

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Being a wife is being Mom 2.0 ?! I guess it depends on the culture, and your parents. My wife is Chinese, we share the house chores according to our time schedule and what we enjoy the most and/or do the best. Typically, she cooks, but I can cook too if it's convenient : she knows lots of dishes that just require a wok and local ingredients. She bakes cake, she learned by herself, and I bake too, learned from my mom. I do the housecleaning, but she does it too sometimes. We share the clothes cleaning. And so on. My wife learned by helping her parents... because, yep, FIL cooks with MIL, and he shares the housecleaning. I believe single child grow up not doing anything to help at home, so as adult, they might not be good fit for Mom 2.0.

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You seem to be a lucky guy Dr. M.  May I ask how long you have been married?  I also married a Chinese girl but as soon as we married her 5o year old father retired and expected me to send him 5,000 rmb every month to Wuhan so he could relax, go fishing, and travel twice a year while he forced my MIL to keep her job with a SOE to get the nice pension. It was because of this monthly 5,000 shakedown that we constantly fought and then split. Did you have any similar demands put on you for monthly payments?

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Luck... Let's say, experience ^^ Seriously, there are plenty of decent women around. My wife's friend are likewise, and their parents are generally decent enough. Same with my own Chinese friends, they all can cook at least basic dishes, dumplings, they can wash a home, etc. One have terrible parents, and just live her life without asking them their permission for everything. You can find such people too :)

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I dont know what chinese girls you have met but most I know can do all of these things. My wife cooks great Chinese and Western foods. Bakes cookie and cupcakes for me regularly. Cleans daily, washes my laundry and wont let me touch the dishes. She fixes clothes, plants flowers. She works hard to make our home comfortable. As a housewife and mother to be this is the job and she takes pride in it. Neither of us are particularly old fashioned. And i dont mind housework, especially doing the dishes. But i respect her sense of fairness. I wake up and provide anything she wants so she takes alot of care in doing what she perceives as her duties.

I knew my wife was special but alot of my friends wifes seem to be of the same ilk. I wasnt aware this was a rare phenomenon.

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some girls are pushed to study so much that they are not allowed in the kitchen and the parents do all the cleaning, i seem to remember on ecc an article 2 years ago about cooking classes in beijing for ladies just graduating from college, so they are more marriage marketable material, so said the article, the article was quite humorous with a comment about teaching the wife to cook because the husband cant afford to eat in a restaurant every night with the mistress, and of course if your a great cook, he will skip the hot body and the restaurant for the wife. hell of a sales pitch for a cooking class.

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Its not about what your wife cant do...its about what your MIL can do. Thats the Chinese way.

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some women see themselves as princesses deserving a royal ransom. they know how to do chores, but refuse to do them if they feel their man is not meeting their demands.

during my early relationship, this cultural attitude was quite infuriating. i got it from her, the MIL and even the FIL. eventually expectations became more reasonable, as they saw i was a good father. only the FIL never really changed much; hewalks around the house like a delusional zombie and nobody likes him.

anyway, i had been living alone like a student before i came to China, so withholding meals and not cleaning the house really hurt them more than me. my main criticism of Chinese housekeeping, is that it's all copied routines without much thought put into it. i count myself lucky that my wife has a nursing background, or my family would suffer from some bad hygiene habits. there are still small annoyances, like i have to ask them if they can pop my clothes in the washing machine when i'm working in the city, because if i don't ask, it will still be unwashed a week later. the top of the fridge is covered in years of dust. i clean under the couch every few weeks because nobody else does it. i find plenty of missing things; this week i was rewarded with a hidden treasure of imported chocolate.

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We know which accounts are the CFTU guy. We should know which account is OldMajor/ Snowballs. 

Whenever we see a post by the CFTU guy we should remind people not to click on their links. 

 

Also we should take it upon ourselves to ignore their BS and stop whining to the admin  to ban them

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With all the visiting family this week/month, my wife has been running a regular training program for all the visiting girls, wives and Mothers. 25 year old daughter is enjoying the opportunity to actually do something to help MOM. 28 year old sister-in-law, that hooked the brother-in-law largely because she has 6 years of English training, is witnessing what it takes to be a wife. (she is useless). She knows less English than my 2 year old niece. she doesn't do anything around the home. she does work, but my brother-in law sees nothing of her income, it all goes to her family. this is a Guangzhou couple. He owns  a house and access to cars. (works for Toyota marketing. she is sort of "nice", but definitely useless, a "work in progress" ..... almost 2 years married now and no babies yet. A definate hurry up and marry her thing from my BIL. Hope they don't ask me to help with that issue He bought the house in Guangzhou, met and married his now wife within about 4 months. (met online).

no cooking or cleaning or reproduction.... MIL does come over to help.

I think this is "typical" but certainly not my way of doing things...... my wife and her 2 Hong Kong sisters are GREAT!!! A little more worldly knowledge (a LITTLE)

BHGAL:

current update:

my step daughter (25) admits to being a girl, but has accepted my invitation to bake a simple microwave oven cake. she is also compiling a list of stuff required for an outdoor BBQ for tomorrow, for 20+ people.

my sister-in-law (28) does not agree to being called a "woman" (she is a "girl") and she has gone back to her bedroom to play with her mini ipad thing and will not participate in baking a stupid cake.

 

 

I thought I would keep it simple, with the microwave cake thing.... she fails, both as a girl and as a woman.

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Eh, my wife is too tired to cook and clean right now.

But most of the time she's too damn lazy to do anything useful, even when she isn't super pregnant. I find it highly annoying. I love her, but she's lazy as hell.

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I hate to point at the fly in the ointment but with this account you're claiming to be a 'Woman'. So what experience do you have with women in a relationship setting? Are you saying you are willing to be the homemaker in a relationship? You fully endorse those gender roles?

Englteachted:

You are wrong about the 'west' and you are wrong about China. 

Again what experience do you have with women? (Just admit that you are really  a guy)

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China has women?

icnif77:

I thought you drowned.

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surprise Yes. The reports of my demise have been extremely exaggerated!

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I smell a bored email address blessed expat...is that you Hulk? Sorry...Wendy.

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I'm too busy with my company to mess around on the internet like that, lol.

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I'll be taking bets this time. How many days until he gets banned?  

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