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Q: Average age differences between spouses in china past and present thats normal and accepted
In china in the past and up to now the modern present time what is the average or acceptable age differences Chinese ladies will marry a local or a foreign man? I mean is it normal a Chinese lady would marry a local man or foreign man 10 20 even 30 years older than her and wouldn't mind his age difference and truly loves him , her love is real not motivated by wealth looks or material gain and will ignore their age gap? I have read of some Chinese marrying with a 15 and 20 year gap Just curious
Mick Jagger is 72. His wife is 29.
They're having a kid!
http://www.latimes.com/entertainment/gossip/la-et-mg-mick-jagger-dad-bab...
Didn't you ask this when you first started posting here when discussing this young girl who was interested in you/a greed card?
cub:
no hot, it had/has nothing to do with the coveted almighty ''green card'' If u notice in my post i mentioned if this was the case between a local ''chinese'' man also
It's common for Chinese women to marry older guys, but when you ask about motives I really don't think there is any rule you can apply.
From what I've seen it's socially acceptable, but then there is also a lot of pressure for the women to marry for family reasons. Often, love isn't considered relevant in the decision to marry someone. There are different priorities and values at play there.
That being said, I'm sure there are a lot of marriages that are based on love and all that, but if you're looking for some sort of guideline as to what to expect I don't think anyone can give you that.
I will say this though.. from my experience there are a lot of women eager to rush into marriage with an older guy from a foreign country while barely knowing him, and the family are right behind her pushing her on. It's hard to believe there are any real feelings involved there, or maybe there is the prince on the white horse factor where she naively thinks her life will be perfect and it's true love just like in the Korean soaps she watches with her mother all day. Reality would soon set in once the relationship gets going, but she thinks it's real.
This is a tough decision if you really love the lady and you think long term like I always do.
Thinking long term is planning your estate after your death and Chinese don't like to talk about this at all. So if your 45 and the lady is 25, she will enjoy about 20 good years with you before your bad health or death and then she will be too old to get another man and take walks on the beach with a dog instead. Maybe you will have a kid or two and she will have some grandchildren but if your in the states, grandma will be lonely and not living with her children and grandchildren.
Did you leave her when she is in her forties in a good financial position or is technology made her skill set obsolete and she is competing against better trained younger workers.
Did you use her for your own lust for 20 years and then die and now she is on her own with no money, no man, and no future prospects. Most women look at now, but later may be worse than suicide.
I suppose the other side of the coin could be worse, marry someone close to your own age so you can get that 50 year anniversary, but the lady loses interest in sex and the man does not so the lady ignores his cheating and they stay together as friends to avoid loneliness in their old age. This happens more than people want to admit and some kids know what dad is doing and mom goes to the grave never knowing of the transgressions.
Stiggs:
Yeah,it gets complicated.
What happens when you've been living in China for ten years, or she has been living in your country for ten years.. and someone decides they can't do it anymore, they have to be around their family and people from their own culture, or the political situation changes and one of you needs to leave for safety reasons but the other can't for visa reasons.What if neither of you can deal with living in the other's country anymore? What if there are kids and elderly in laws to think about? Then you're in the position where someone is going to miserable, which can only hurt a marriage.
I've lived abroad for long enough, and have enough friends doing the same thing to know that for most people, one or two years is enough, maybe five years max, then people start to plan their move home. Some people are able to adapt, accept and enjoy their new lifestyle and live in an alien culture for years or even the rest of their life but I would say they are the minority and there is no way to predict who they will be.
Shining_brow:
"What if...?" "What if...?" "What if...?" "What if...?"
And what if you get hit by a truck on the way to the marriage ceremony and killed - or worse, left a vegetable?
The vast majority of people are not clairvoyant, and so any decision made must be with that in mind...
If one is 45 and the other 25, there's nothing to say that the 25 year old won't die within 2 years - let alone the 20 of the 45 year old. Similarly, nothing to say the 45 year old won't make it to 120... (especially when we look at technology and medical advances! Telomerase research, anyone?)
I think the problem is - most people don't think about the future... they sort of think about their future, but not of the world around them. There's this idea that everything is going to stay pretty much the same for the next X years. They imagine that they may change - but not the world.
Just ask any 80 year old now about the world, and I think you'll appreciate my perspective.
measure age difference in Panda Years ?
cub:
haha diver, good answer that pic the guy had BOTH of his hands full!
retiredinchina:
reincarnation as a panda is the way to go.
if you don't reproduce, they give you porn to watch, they give you food, they clean you, you get more than one female, you never work, you just lay around and get fat and F**k, if you figure out how. it's a great life. Oh almost forgot you get to rape the females, just chase her up a tree for 10 days and don't let eat till she submits. perhaps osama will come back as a panda, he already has some of the qualifications.
I reckon you could get a woman 30 years younger than you no problem Cub. And nobody would bat an eyelid at a 50 year old Chinese woman marrying an 80 year old American with his own trailer 
retiredinchina:
We do have trailers (mobile homes) as you may call them, and they house some rednecks and illiterates in some pockets of fly over America. On the other hand we have some that are fully furnished and painted that will last longer than a house in china. The plumbing fixtures want need to be replaced for over 15 years and paint will last unfaded for at least a decade. I can't say the same for anything that is built by the Asian rednecks and illiterates of China. The large plastic trash containers here don't even last a year, oddly the green plastic curb container I had in California has been working fine for 20 years and of course it was made in China.
retiredinchina:
http://mobilehomeliving.org/4000000-mobile-home/
This hillbilly redneck domicile can be yours for 4 million and the mortgage is only 20,000 dollars a month.
i wud considr a swing upto 10yrs on eithr side as normal.
Mick Jagger is 72. His wife is 29.
They're having a kid!
http://www.latimes.com/entertainment/gossip/la-et-mg-mick-jagger-dad-bab...
