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Viki87

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Q: Best friend got engaged

My best friend just called me and saying that she just got enaged to a guy she has been dating for 6 monthes.

She told me she has no passion for him but she likes him and doesn't hate him. I told her to be very careful before jumping into the marriage with him. So she got enaged at 30, by catching the red flag. I am 31 now but still keep looking for the special one.

I am still single but my business keep going successfully and I am preparing on getting some other stuffs settle and leave the job and invest on alibaba to get more customers for running my company full time and be a full time entrepreneur. Life isn't perfect right? When you get career sometimes you may can't get men.

My friend adviced me to just pick a guy treats me well, but I just can't cheat my heart. I have been looking for the special someone who I can feel the great passion for a long time.

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It's not a question. Spam. Reported.

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I've known girls who get married after a few months not even really liking the guy. Sometimes the best they can say about him is that he's 'nice,responsible and not a bad person'.

They have no choice, they have to get married so the family doesn't lose face and the family approves of the guy (and arranged it) so it's settled.

I was very close to a few of the girls,seeing the look on their faces when they try to pretend they're happy and everything is great kills me a little inside.

What do I think? The post would probably get deleted if I said what I think so...congratulations, right?

Viki87:

I got what you mean, I truly hope my friend will get happiness by rushing into her decision.

I am the "weird" version, hehe, 32 chinese age as a lady and not married but running a company.

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No, your just fucking weird

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Pre nup

Stiggs:

I've never heard of a pre nup in China, which is surprising when you really think about it.

I suppose that it being a contract it wouldn't mean much anyway.

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Viki87:

Pre nup is important. I'll get one

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Some people want to wait to find the right person, no matter how long they wait, but then later they might lose their passion for each other. Some people want to find someone to give them stability, and then over time they will appreciate each other.

I don't think either one is bad. But both have their disadvantages.

Viki87:

You are right. She's my best friend, a very good old friend who I grow up with. I wish her happy.

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DirkBourne

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Two WOWS!

First WOW!, you have a friend..

Second WOW!, she's more desperate than you.

Viki87:

Men don't have to give birth. It is easy for you to say us desperate.

Men can make a lot of girls waste their time by dating with you for many many years then break up with them. let's say it makes a woman face high risk to give birth around 35, many women even died while giving birth. Men can just walk away and have no pressure of facing high risk of giving birth at 35 or 40. Of course it is easy for you to judge as a man.

If I'm a man, I wouldn't even think of getting married now.I can just focus on grow my company and probally I'll be rich at 35 and I'm sure I can get a lot of women want to marry a sucessful rich entrepreneur man. A business man who is sucessful at 35 is a catch for women at 20S. And as man, I wouldn't worry about the risk of giving birth at 35 or 40.

But unfortunately I'm a woman, I need to consider the age for reducing the risk of giving birth. I would like to have my child one day.

So stop being shallow and judgemental.

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DirkBourne:

You;ve just described yourself; Shallow and Judgemental, Moron....

I'll reply as I wish so STFU or stop posting your boring drivel

As for giving birth, please dont.... One of you is enough.

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"Shallow and judgemental" Vicki? Pot and kettle.

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