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Q: Can a Chinese boyfriend expected to be kinky?

People here talked a lot about Chinese girlfriends, how they are, what they should be etc... But what can I expect from a Chinese boyfriend?

I know everybody's different, but in general, what kind of boyfriend do they make?

And most of all... are they daring and adventurous?

12 years 34 weeks ago in  Relationships - China

 
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being that im a guy, i dont know much about chinese boyfriends. but for what ive seen, daring and adventurous they are most definitely not. also its gonna be hard to get a guy accept that you make more money. massive face lose to have your woman make more money. but then you get points for having a western girl. so maybe it cancels itself out
and if hes a rich guy, then you are like his bmw and expensive watch. just an accessory.

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That's not very encouraging, Njord... That's probably just a myth, right?

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It’s really hard to say.
If most Chinese girls r supposed to be gold digger, only care about money nothing else, Chinese guys r really hard to generalize.

What I know is, guys from North China r most likely Machismo, that is like rich45 said, will not date u if u if u make more money etc., guys from South China r tender, and might not care so much about who is the bread maker.
Shanghai guys r really another group, they can be house-husband, they can cook, they care about family, they always obey what their wives/gfs say. Perfect husband in many people's eyes. (not mine though Tongue )

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And I had to be transferred in Beijing! I wonder if many Chinese from the South are going up for work... thanks a lot for the info, Wenna! Wink

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Gonna have to agree with Njord on this one

I won't go into details, but ugh...the two Chinese boyfriends I've had (at least I didn't give up after the first!) were mind-blowingly...selfish. And ignorant, and unreceptive to any advice, teasing, coaxing or even begging that I did. Don't think I've ever been so physically frustrated before...

I understand there might be a culture gap, but come on, is pleasing your lady such a foreign concept???

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Alva, I certainly hope that young women are the same as their males' counterpart!

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As far as I could see, a lot of Chinese men are like Rodney Alcala, back when he was a very shy and timid men. They need to man up, drop the purse and go for the gold! Rodney Alcala did vanquish his fears of rejection and landed a lot of girls after he went loose.

Maybe Chinese men have to ask themselves "What would Rodney Alcala do"?

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why not ?
it depends on you?

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Ha your rodaney alcala is a amercan how can be he idol for China? Of course were adventurous we are very romantic and not arogant like americans and west who cant appreciate the good side and not wine about everything bcuz its not like ti their like

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From personal experience, I'd be tempted to say not really.

You have to keep in mind most men haven't had any classes about sex ed, they're super shy and some obsess over having virgin girlfriends (to protect ego?). Also, they're terrible at flirting.

Chinese men aren't the most suave, kinky or romantic, but they're pretty devoted to their girlfriends Wink

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alva you sound like you need a date? where you at, I'll come pick you up

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you could try putting a saddle and bridle on him and see if he like it,, if so giddy up Laughing out loud Laughing out loud

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Poutine: welcome back - you've been away too long!
Njord: Spot on, again!

wenna: [to quote you] "Chinese guys are really hard to generalize.." And then you go and generalize them! twit!

I think we all know that Chinese guys are a little bit timid when it comes to getting fruity. But if you get him drunk and take the lead with confidence, before you know it he'll be jamming that crystal butt plug inside you just the way you like it! Plus forte!

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Chinese guys do indeed seem to be a little bashful at first it seems. Flirting is already difficult for them, so anything beyond will often times require the woman to take the lead a little. But it's not because someone's shy they can't get kinky.

Also, I find it interesting that the girl who was complaining about sexual harassment at the workplace is simultaneously curious about Chinese men being kinky. Pustuluterine sounds like a tease.

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