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Q: Is the cell phone addictive?
-Is the cell phone addiction because Chinese young people have poor social skills, and meager conversations, or do the smart phones cause the young people to HAVE the poor social skills?
-I think it is a modern problem, since elderly people seem more able to talk to people, for example on trains or so on...while young people seem pretty glued to their iphone.
-I'm trying to get my fiance to quit with her pretty serious smart phone addiction, as it seems a never ending stream of vapid posts, selfies, and stupid conversations, and an avoidance of all ideas. But she is resisting.
9 years 25 weeks ago in Web & Technology - China
The "staring at the cellphone" phenomenon is a consequence of poor social skills, not the other way around.
Because Chinese youth were overprotected by their elders (consequence of the one child policy), never allowed to go out, never allowed to play with other kids or by themselves, because of all of that they have poor social skills.
Older folks have better social skills because they were born or lived during the communist era when being part of a group was natural and essential for one's own survival.
For the same reason Chinese stare at us, because they have no idea how to accost foreigners.
Kids are not exactly encouraged to be out-going by their up-bringing, so yeah, they are ripe for being glued on a phone and messaging rather than real-life interactions.
For your fiance, that will be hard. You can try to organize common activities, things as simple as biking around a nice place, jogging, things like that. Back home, finding nice places for afternoon-long walks is easy, but in most Chinese cities it's a bit of challenge if you don't have a car.
Nessquick:
that's it. with driving 1hr away of home for 20 minute walk somewhere and than drive back. that's what life should not be about. but chinese love it.
I made a rule with my fiancee, no cell phone during meal time, she agreed to it, but sometimes still forgets herself.
Now I'm trying to get her to quit playing Clash of Clans and Hay Day, now that is a fight and a half!
Chinese people, the young ones in particular don't ever learn social skills, or public speaking or anything like that. Just better to bury your face in front of a small screen.
To be honest it's kind of a worldwide problem.
It's what psychologists call a transitional object. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Comfort_object
If g/f, fiancee has this continued behaviour, your relationship is doomed. Best to cut it off. If she finds clash of clans and selfies more interesting in you, there is problem brewing.
Install Checky on her phone without telling her, then after a couple of weeks show her the stats As to what others write about "the older generation". My MIL is using her phone ALL the time, despite thinking the "radiation" is bad for peoples health. If her phone says a sound, she cannot just leave it, no matter what is going on. She is hugging her phone during cooking, eating, shopping or while taking a nice relaxing walk. A total slave of her phone. Let's say I now posted a link to something she finds moderately interesting on WeChat. It would be reposted 5 mins later, unless of course she first spends time finding a Chinese equivalent of whatever I posted. She is posting links to so much crap each day, that just reading it would take hours at normal reading speed. I actually think that since she got her phone, going out with friends has come to an almost stop for her. She still does, but it used to be every day, now it is not even every week. (which is bad, because that means she has more time to sit and fart while playing with her phone near me without disregard for me dying from the dangers of cell phone radiation.
Disclaimer: I have complete confidence in the safety of cell phones. The 900-2400kHz radio spectrum is non-ionizing radiation, which per definition means it DOESN'T*T impact living cells. "But my ear feels warm".... that is the battery discharging you uneducated dimwit. "But batteries have a magnetic field", so does Earth, now leave my planet.
DrMonkey:
Someone saying that "But Earth magnetic field is *natural*, it's not like artificial magnetic fields" in 3, 2, 1... Saint Maxwell, forgive them.
iWolf:
Dear sciency guys, correct me if I am wrong please, but isn't heat and light also radiation? Are my light bulbs and doona cover giving me cancer? Oh shit, I just realised that my body heat is giving me cancer too!! Oh the humanity!!!
Scandinavian:
iWolf. You can avoid the radiation from your body heat by freezing yourself to absolute zero. (-273C) This would also stop any ongoing diarrhea, at least until defrosted, as a nice bonus effect.
DrMonkey:
@iWolf Wait until people read about granite stone and radon's emission, complete with picture of granite stone used in buildings.
Scandinavian:
one could hypothesize that all things starting with G will kill you
Guns
Gluten
Granite
Gutteroil
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My MIL just happened to have her mandatory thermo-tea cup flood her handbag today. A lesson in proper closing of containers well deserved with all the open soy bottles and stuff in her apartment. Anyway. We are two hours into her going cold turkey, she is sitting at the piano playing the most gloomy version of Frère Jacques.
