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Q: Chinese man complex?
OK.....I will do my best to leave the penis issue out of this.
But why.....when I am out with a Chinese girl, do Chinese men almost accost them, and tell them how bad it is they are with me?
I almost knocked this little fricker out tonight after repeated attempts to tell my GF why seeing me is wrong.
Is it culture, government or penis complex? I need to know before I get arrested for decking one of them....I was soooo close tonight, and I am a pacifist.
12 years 4 days ago in Relationships - China
Remember back in the 60's and 70's? If an interracial couple was seen together in the US (I dont know if same in Canada) they would be asked "cant y ou find someone of your own race?"
To a lesser extent , same thing happens with my sister (hispanic-latina) and her husband (asian) and they live in the US.
kchur:
Same in Canada, according to Tommy Chong, who was half-Chinese, and who described his dad as a tough-ass because people were always picking fights with him when he was with his wife.
Damn foreigners comin' here stealin' our women, takin our jobs!
THEY TOOK OUR JOB!!!
DUK R JAWWWWWWBS!!!
Crazy. This has never happened to me...and I live in a much much smaller (read: more conservative) town than you do. Not sure if I could show the same restraint you did...bravo!
Happens a lot to me and I'm in Shanghai, supposedly the most westenised city, but the people that talk shit I think are from other parts of China.
Its the China-is-the-best-country-in-the-world mentality. I'm sorry to say it but its true. Dont tell me its because for every 100 women in China there are 120 men, while thats true im sure thats not what the Chinese guy whos talking crap about us is thinking at that moment. They literally see it as a betrayal, almost like treason! If you're with a foreign man then you've turned your back on your country. Its nothing to do with the size of our.....manhood? its a racial thing, because remember, ABC's and BBC's in the eyes of Chinese people, are still Chinese (what a load of crap).
And unfortunately I dont think this mentality will change. To be honest old people generally dont care so much, its the younger generation that talk crap. AND its not just a guy thing. My girlfriends friends both male and female told her she should find a Chinese guy. Whats that about? Oh yeah, China is the best country in the world, how can you betray your motherland? Stupid brainwashed commie pricks
I had a Chinese guy walk right up to me and poke his index finger into my chest 3 times while yelling, "No, no, no!" At that time I was walking hand in hand with the girl whom I married 6 months ago. I was shocked at this but held my cool. I'm a big guy and my wife was worried that I may pound him so she went after him instead. He scurried away quickly. That instance was totally unprovoked and came out of nowhere. Man, I was pissed off!
GuilinRaf:
If you had punched him, well, we know what would have happened. However, since your wife dealt with it, he "ran away from a girl".
I think he lost the most face that day....
thedude:
My GF did the same thing. I was waiting for her outside the bar while having a beer...buddy and friends came over saying heeeelllloooo and were friendly. As soon as she comes out and grabs my hand and we walk away, the guy has a shit fit and starts screaming at her and wont stop following us.
jleav14782:
In China, publicly walking hand-in-hand with someone of the opposite sex is considered lewd behavior. It's possible that, from that Chinese gentleman's perspective, you were parading a Chinese national around town in a way that dishonored her and thus also them. This is difficult for many Westerners to accept, I know.
derek:
jleave, are you attempting to justify their behavior? If so, give your head a shake. Chinese gentleman???? A gentleman doesn't walk up to a guy and angrily stick his finger into one's chest. C'mon, man. What are you trying to say here.
Chaching:
WTF jleav? In the words of Jack Nicholson, "Go sell 'crazy' somewhere else." Holding hands may have been considered lewd behavior some time in the past, but not today man. Half of the Chinese couples are holding hands and kissing. Hell my buddy saw a Chinese guy getting a blow job in public next to the river. It was in a small conservative town too. The point is, I can't agree with your theory. Maybe its my physical appearance, but I have never had anyone be hostile towards me about being with my wife. I believe it exists, but I feel really sorry for the first guy who trys it. Something like that would make my eyes burn with fire and I would tell him to bite the curb as I put a heal in the back of his head. I did have an older Chinese stranger wallk right up to me and ask me if I was American. then he proceeded to tell me that he thought my "black" president was no good. I just laughed at his ignorant, racist, little mind. I don't pity the people that really are stupid. In my experience, the vast majority of Chinese people in mainland China are uneducated and uncivilized. Really the only intelligent Chinese I've met are the ones that leave China. They are educated in the US, Australia or the UK and either are too smart to return to China, or they return out of respect for their parents. I'm counting the days until I can leave this shitbox. It was charming the first year, but now I'm going to devour the next little cunt bastard that cuts me in line. Do it you little shit!
1) Chinese drown a bunch of newborn female babies in buckets, or shove needles through their brains, or the rich abort female fetuses.
2) China ends up with a significantly smaller female population.
3) Some Chinese men beat the shit out of Chinese women. Most Chinese men insult Chinese women constantly in public, to impress complete strangers. Chinese men, who have no accountability and literally do whatever they want in all places at all times like literal fountains of piss shit and vomit, create an impossibly long list of things Chinese women are not allowed to do, lest they look like whores (ie. "She went to grad school? What a whore that should die. We should kill the whore.")
4) Why 5000 year history greatest, most handsome, most clever, most humble Chinese man no find girlfriend?? Oh, look, small minority of Chinese girl date foreigners. ME AM ENTITLED TO CONTROL ALL CHINESE WOMEN!!! MOST HUMBLE CHINESE MAN *SPIT SPIT VOMIT SHIT*. Fucking foreigners are already responsible for my country being rich or poor, and for my own personal happiness, and now foreigners are responsible for me getting laid. GET ME LAID FOREIGNER! YOU OWE IT TO ME!!! EVERYONE OWES EVERYTHING TO ME I AM ENTITLED TO EVERYTHING!!!!!!!! ME AM GREATEST CHINESE MAN 5000 YEAR HISTORYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!
GuilinRaf:
Very accurate description.
Question, I have heard of all you mention in #1 except the shoving needles through the brain. Whats up with that?
kchur:
Through the soft spot. Quick and painless. Mostly farmers in Fujian, apparently, for some reason.
Jíliú.hé:
if you where not talking about china i would have to say that you where being Bias and ignorant but since it is china we are talking about, i cannot find one hole in your argument.
Because of Asian face, I thankfully don't get that from strangers. BUT! those that know that I am American have warned my girlfriend and asked her about being with me, including her parents. Which I find ironic since her last boyfriend, who was someone introduced by the parents, took her out on dates once a month, never tried to sleep with her and would go days without contacting her
When people ask or comment, I just laugh and make a sinister face and tell them that I came to China to steal a woman.
well this behavior seems to happen in the bigger cities. in tthe smaller cities they simply make rude comments.
remember this is the middle kingdom. in countries where ignorance is prevalent this is the mindset/ our women . as if women are the property of the men in the country. "what??? you dont agree with me!!"
plus remember the men here absolutely suck so they know they are not attractive to anyone. except maybe north korean women looking to escape poverty. so they know open competition is something they cant win. and typical chinese thinking dont change for better, dont improve yourself so that you can compete ....... "feel" insulted and blame others.
crimochina:
also the men here love to put down their women call them fat and ugly (then why are you with her) we call them beautiful encourage them build up their confidence.
Let me guess, those same men that come up and rant at you would pat a Chinese guy on the back if he was dating a female foreigner? If I was dating a Chinese guy, and he was ok with that, I'd probably dump him. You're right, sounds like these types of guys think of women as property or some kind of trophy, unable to think for herself.
happened a few times with the wife an I. Don't take much notice of it at first I did when we are walking past and the guys look few smart arse remarks at us but dont have the guts to say it to my face. But now if it happens turn a blind eye and think I am the one with a wife and youre the lonely guy who cannot find happiness.
Its not my problem you cannot get a girlfriend and keep her happy and no happiness is not buying her an Ipad or throwing around money. Happy is making her know you are there for her in any situation maybe they are jealous of that fact.
I would say kick him in the balls but I'm afraid with a small penis comes little to no testicles.
The reason some idiots act this way is because they got no game...And a big inferiority complex, and it's not only Chinese that do it.
xunliang:
You see I dont think it is an inferiority complex, they actually are inferior in many ways.
Man Im sooooo Lucky
I have never come across it in China yet from Chinese anyway
I have fired up on a couple of occasions with dick heads here and mostly women in their 40s I might add
And hitting a woman is a mortal sin in my book.
Not looking forward to confronting it in China.
Bye the way guys
what was the general age group of these dick less wonders that spoiled your day?
xunliang:
Most I've come across have been in their 20's and its usually a small group of dirty looking loosers.
kchur:
Always early twenties in my experience. I've heard of older guys giving other foreigners trouble, but for me it's always been the young ones.
thedude:
yes, always early 20's in a small group and of course no girls are with them.
Dude, is this a very common thing, or only an occasional problem?
thedude:
It happens about once a month, usually late at night and the guys are drunk. This time was by far the worst...usually its not as bad.
MissA:
Well, you obviously did the right thing in not decking the dickhead. Obviously, anyone who's going to display such closed minded idiocy and racism is not worth getting violent over... but I guess that's hard to remember when some stranger's up in your face refusing their permission to date somebody that's a complete stranger to them!
They're mad because in China a grown man can't do anything by himself. Everything here involves hand holding and someone older you have guanxi with getting jobs and such for you. So, these weak-kneed losers can't get women on their own and they are angry. Such a useless bunch.
