Last year we became friends. He was always staring at me in the office
and coming up to me. He was kind of shy and one day I invited him out.
He was surprised and we started to get to know each other. He flirted
with me and then would shy away. One day a new foreign guy joined the
office and the Chinese guy was fearful and acted so weird. He seemed
worried that a new man was there...

The Chinese guy was always asking me my plans for travel and who I'm
going away with.

I discovered that he had a new job overseas and I decided to make a
small move by inviting him outside the office for coffee. We got on
really well. Then after new year we said goodbye. He said to keep in
touch.

After a bit of small talk over emails I decided to pluck up the
courage to go and visit him. While I was on the trip as a twist of
fate I bumped into a very important manager who offered me a job in my
field of work. Then when I met up with the Chinese guy later that day
I told him who I crossed paths with. He was really surprised and said
you should go for it and take the role. He said it would make me
really established. He said why don't I live there?

It was my last night so the Chinese guy was kind of awkward. Anyway so
we said goodbye. I told him I had feelings for him. He was so
surprised. Sadly he said..why I'm Asian? I told him it isn't about
where he is from but who he is. He was so surprised. So despite me
visiting him, inviting him out for coffee....he was still clueless. He
was overwhelmed and promised me to keep in touch...

I have a few weeks left of my visa. Do I take this job in the Chinese
guy's country? I can have a flexible contract and I would be
independent of him. I guess it would be a good way to get to know each
other. Does this mean he's serious about me?

I don't regret telling him how I feel although I guess I will give the
Chinese guy time to digest my declaration...

Any thoughts?

Jessica x