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Sign up with Google Sign up with FacebookQ: Chinese women boss hating foreign men teachers
My boss loves( to get something ) Foreign Teachers but only girls/women.. the foreign men , she always have a problem with them.. Even though they are really good.. I think she can't control them and that's why she behaves like this with them. Is that the case with all the bosses or only mine?? How to deal with this boss!!!
9 years 23 weeks ago in Business & Jobs - China
smile and continue to do your work like a professional.
if she makes suggestions, thank her and say that you will consider them.
plan your escape.
I was in a similar situation:
Misogynist departmental President.
It ****ed him no end that i was good at my job - despite looking for faults all the time
Maybe their English is better than yours?
For example, what does "( to get something )" mean?
Anyway, bosses are pretty much the same everywhere. Learning how to deal with bosses is something only you can do. It's a learning curve that can take decades. I myself took too long to learn..... and unfortunately I can't go back to learn sooner.
She probably had her love tunnel invaded by a foreign teacher, who then finished the "run" part of his "hit and run" plan, and that's why she doesn't like them.
jetfire9000:
This is the right answer. And I'd like to add a bit more - that it is also probably the case that the force behind all of that "hate" is actually a slight admiration, yet muddled with heavy insecurities. (Similar to kindergarten and elementary bullying.) In other words, if you find a way to calm the woman down, her affections will slowly grow on you, until you can be the one that invades her love tunnel. At that point you won. You will be immune to her attacks forever after that.
My boss is a woman. She employs about 15 teachers and most are men. The office is almost completely men too except for a few family members. She is fine with both men and women. It could be like Hulk mentioned above, she has had a bad relationship with a foreign man. It could also be some men had caused trouble for her company in the past (drinking, fighting, etc...). If your boyfriend does a good job she will learn to like him. He just needs to practice his people skills and charm on his boss.
male bosses have always tried to cheat me on pay or pay late or try and pay me for 4 tuesdays in a month when there is 5 tuesdays every 3 months and think that a foreigner and a cpa is too stupid to know this, female bosses have always been more honest with my money, perhaps the emotional part is not a problem because i don't discuss anything personal at work with anybody, none of their business.
I encountered a different case, old and disgusting Chinese male boss who was hitting on young and hot foreign female teachers, he is married and his son is probably older than those teachers, that was funny to watch.
I've encountered this too, both in the US and China (female bosses hating males). It could be any number of things, but classic misandry, pure and simple, could be the reason. It could be she just dislikes men. A few people mentioned that she might have had bad experiences, which could be the case, but I don't ant to use that as an excuse for her. I've had bad experiences with women in the past, but if I treated all women poorly based on previous injuries committed by women, that would be unambiguously sexist.
The race issue (and "foreignness" is as much of a race issee as a national issue in China) can add another layer. It could be a way to rationalize, not "Men are all terrible and deserve to be treated like shit", but "Those men are terrible and deserve to be treated like shit, unlike our men. Our men are better."
if you really wanna' deal with the situation, then just leave....... If the boss woman only displays positive attitudes towards women in her company, then that would eventually weed the men out. The result: a pure woman staffed teaching company. They'd end up looking more like a KTV than a serious learning institute..
Well, Chinese are pretty emotional and Chinese women doubly so... I agree with some other posters that she probably got a little too intimate with a foreigner and got burned.
Either way, it doesn't matter. Just do your job well, attract new students and the business part of her head will kick in and realize she makes more money keeping you around and will start to be nicer.
This is of course assuming she likes money and wants to make more of it. If she is a complete idiot (which does happen sometimes), she will eventually go bankrupt after alienating all her male staff (too hard to get ALL foreign female teachers) and building a bad reputation.
If it seems like the latter, then you better prepare to jump ship.
She's just too shy in front of men.Don't misunderstand her.