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Q: The competititon in Shanghai is too strong?
It is almost so hard to get eveything in Shanghai
1,Too many job applicants,very hard to get the good paid job.
2,Too many women come from diffrent places,but foreign men are not that much.I was fishing in Burger King with lots of foreigners in today ,no expat guy appoarched to me:(
Only in hostel,guys will apporach me:(
I have been in Shanghai for one year and half,I am just here for finding a man.Now I am confused,should I still need to stay in Shanghai?I have no family ,no friends,no boyfriend with me,I just feel too lonely.Sometimes I am not happy,girls who are less good-looking than me get handsome foreign boyfriends,but I just can't get.
Victoria, I have one simple question for you... why are you posting these questions on this forum??
From what I've read, you're not really interested in the answers that are given to you. I mean, apart from Silva and the girls, I think most replies have come from foreign men - the ones you are trying to get. They have been giving you , advice, which appears to be what your questions are asking for.
And yet, you continually ignore them!!! (and, often, insult and deride those who give you answer you obviously don't agree with)
Why is that?
And why do you keep posting these things???
1. what is your major and your salary expectations?
2. what kind of expats are you interested in?
Victoria1987:
My major is English and my salary expectation is 6K.
The kind of expat guy I am interested is good looking tall guy,like talking and laughing.He doesn't have to be rich,but has to be a hero.Who will care about me and my parents also.
He doesn't have to be perfect,but he has to communicate with me when here came a problem,don't run away.
I'd like to share my opinion with you, but admin told me I have to be nice to people.
So have a happy day 
Vicky try placing a profile on a foreign web site like Eharmony or RSVP maybe you will have better luck! In the meantime keep trying to get a job.I understand what it is to be lonely and I know it is not fun good luck to you
nicholasba:
tagged, pof (most canadians and english speakers) enjoyshanghai ...try to put an ad there and/or reply to them....good luck
Victoria1987:
You are nice,Phil.I feel I need to find people to play tennis with me, go hiking together ,or go dancing together will be fine.I get interviews lined up almost every day.But I find those companies are crazy,most of them onl pay low salary.
I got a low paid job offer,but I don't want to go for it.
So you've moved up from a hostel to Burger King. That's wonderful. Next you could just grab random men by the penis as they get off the subway.
People on this forum have wasted a good deal of time being sensitive and trying to give you serious advice. But you don't want advice. You just want attention and compliments.
YOU ARE A BORING PERSON.
People who are interested in talking about things other than themselves are interesting people. They are the ones who find good, long-term partners. You are not one of those people.
"Girls who are less good looking than me get handsome foreign boyfriends"
OF COURSE THEY DO.
You are vain and utterly superficial. You think good looking girls deserve better men. Why do you think that? Have you considered that the girls who foreign men marry might have qualities that you don't? Like being interesting. Or being able to talk about things other than their own personal drama.
Stop acting like your (alleged) good looks entitle you to something. No one cares. Young foreign men in Shanghai will always be outnumbered by shallow stupid girls like yourself - and you are now competing with shallow stupid girls 5 or 10 years younger.
Therefore, even men who are only interested in youth and beauty (like YOU ARE) will not be interested in you. Realise your hypocrisy.
DaqingDevil:
Hoo boy! That's kind of covered it. However........I'm still free Victoria. I need a shallow person in my life right now. But pretty? Yes?
Victoria1987:
From your comment,I might guess you are a loser in your life.and your words are rude and dirty,and you told I will grab men's penis by radom.you are a less educated person,or who will say that?Use your brain.
And for sure I am a quite good looking young lady.Every men like good looking women,then came to personality.Like you go shopping,you find the dress looks awesome,then you will go check the quality.Only stupid women think men don't care about looking,be wise, girl.
Make yourself look great,then men will notice you.Well,I just refused 2 foreign guys in my real life yesterday,I got approached by 2 in one hour in a hostel where I just go there to have internet.
sorrel:
Victoria, if by some unfortunate chance your face was injured tomorrow, you would learn to value the man who puts character above fleeting physical beauty.
Victoria1987:
I kown,but for now I have my advantages in hand.Every man wants get a pretty woman,every lady wants to get a handsome man at first.
Love is a deep thing,but at first,it is like what I told.If the handsome man who I love's face got injured,I will not leave him.But still I wil get attracted by handsome man at first.Victoria1987:
DaQing Devil,if you think you are good looking and age from 25-31,and would move to Shanghai,then you will get a chance .Sorry,I don't want to be mean and hurt people.But as a lady,I am telling what is in my mind because it is a forum,not the company I am working.
Samsara:
Thanks for the response, Victoria.
“I might guess you are a loser in your life”
You may indeed. But considering I have a girlfriend I love, a job I love, and the time and money to pursue my interests, whether or not you consider me a loser is of little consequence.
“Your words are rude and dirty”
Oh my goodness, I said “penis”. Whereas you hang around hostels and have sex with random men who “follow you off the street”, then tell people about it on the internet.
“Every men like good looking women, then came to personality. Like you go shopping, you find the dress looks awesome, then you will go check the quality.”
So, what you are saying is:
1. Men go shopping (young, attractive, foreign men)
2. They find a dress that looks awesome (you)
3. They check the quality…
4. You never hear from them again
Your ability to choose analogies isn’t much better than your ability to choose men.
Victoria1987:
Are you making jokes,come on,you think you have a girlfriend,you are not loser?It is so easy to have bf/gf,the person doesn't have gf or bf usually is the one who has high requrements.Average looking and narrow minded people are everywhere,do you think my standard are as low as yours,that is funny?
You think you have a job,hahaha,it is not hard to find job in China,China is a world factory.If you are so good,why not go find a job back to your own country if you are a expat,sorry,I dont want to make others feel bad.
I was working for many companies,lots of bosses value me,I gave up my opportunity to go overseas business exhibition,I gave up my chance to get promoted to be an international export manager before I came to SH because I need to find a expat bf soon.People can't get the two things at the same time usually.Cheers
And my degree is only college,usually I was working in the same office with bachelor degree holder and master degree holder.Do you think my bosses are nuts?
Why they hired a low degree girl?Because she is special,usually my degree is the lowest one in all the company I have worked.
And the chinese company I just finished working for is a company I got order from world's top 500 company for them after roughly one month working there.Because they were lying to me,that is why I left.I am 26,last year I was 25,before I came to Shanghai,I was 24,I was very young before I came and also for now I am,but usually I was the one my company would pay me room or coffee in high standard hotel or 5 star hotel to have meeting with clients.hahaha.You loser.
Just for some period it is very hard for me to find good job in Shanghai,all people kown the competition in Shanghai is strong,sometimes people need luck to find a job.
For sure you are stupid
sorrel:
Victoria, please re-read what you have written. It does not make much sense. We can only help you if you write sensible answers and can understand you.
Flemingo:
you gave up the chance to work overseas (that's where we come from, there's loads of us there) to find an expat in China...
good call.
Why don't you just go out with Crimo? He's willing to go out with almost anybody. I also thought I heard him one time say he was interested in you. WHy don't you just hook up with that Expat?
3/10 I'm just mad you haven't looked at anybody here like my boy Crimo . ..
Victoria1987:
Dont make jokes.Do you like people to force you to do something you don't like?Don't act stupid,grow up.
GuilinRaf:
ReallyV ickyym if you dont want idie an old maid, Crimochina is your ONLY chance of finding a husband.
That is IF he will have you.
Hulk:
See, even 99Silva has the ability to make rational, logical posts. I don't know why people think this is a joke.
Samsara:
Answer of the day.
Victoria - This thing with you and Crimo is official now. No more talk about other men, OK?
EDIT: Only answer of the hour, apparently.
Hakupatasa:
Are we all invited for the wedding? "Shanghai Love Story" should be the name for the upcoming book or movie.
Victoria, if you continue on the path you are on and ignore the advice/suggestions that so many posters (most of whom are foreigners) have given you, you will continue repeating the same behaviour over and over again.
YOU have to change your approach if you want a healthy relationship with a foreigner
Victoria1987:
Change what?I just go to burger King and coffee shop to meet a guy.You are funny?What you are talking about,it is a good way to meet a expat guy.
Victoria1987:
I have interviewes lined up in chinese trading company ,it is a company can allow me go to international exhibition in US and Europe.Another one is Madrine school,expats students will see me every day.
sorrel:
ex-pat students would have less money than the men in hostel's. they are more likely to get you drunk first!
Victoria1987:
What you want to tell?
My man doesn't have to be rich. Many western guys living in the hostel are not really poor,usually they are young expats have to save mony to buy air tickets to go to many countries,and for long period,living in the hostel is a good choice.Many of them live cheap by 50rmb,spend 20-100 for by lunch or drinks in hostel,sometimes spend 200rmb for partying in club.They are not poor people actually.My ex boyfriend just do travling before he went back to university in Israel.My London boy even doesnt want to work in China because he can get job back to home,I don't think they are losers.They are just 25 expat guys,what the hell can be rich?Maybe a few of 25 expats are rich enough to live in Paris Hiton hotel every night for one year and and can buy many international airline tickets to travel to many countries as well.sorrel:
can you make something clear. Are you saying you have had 25 foreign boy-friends? I'm sorry, you are not being clear at all, I just want to understand.
sorrel:
PLEASE read and check your posts before you submit them, otherwise people will misunderstand you. Also, please THINK before you answer. You said you were an CET 4, but from what I see of your posts, you still need a lot of practice. I am a CET and IELTS teacher and an IELTS examiner
You go to a hostel and you will meet young men with no money or interests, other than having fun and travel. I never stay in hostels. You need to find an older foreigner that has a job in China. You must look at how a man treats and thinks of you. You must look at WHY you like the man.
Sorry, but you're not pretty. On the contrary, you're one of the ugliest Chinese girls I've ever seen. You look like a rabid dog, and your personality matches, too.
I could easily look past that (looks don't matter) if 1) I weren't already married, and 2) you weren't the most colossally narcissistic person I've ever met.
Keep telling yourself that we're wrong, and it's not you. Obviously it IS you. You're just a puck-n-chuck, and that's all you'll ever be until you wake up and smell the fugging coffee and see the problem is yourself.
TedDBayer:
I don't think she is ugly and if I did, i would never say that. if I was staying in a hostel, I'd do her, but don't they charge if you have a guest, better to stay in a good hotel.
nicholasba:
she is not that ugly but there are way more pretty and smart gals, and younger, than her. She is average
nicholasba:
besides, jesus! I broke up 5 yrs ago with a girl that was 19yr, pretty (now she is a model), rich, and after all not that boring, when compared with vicky......vicky, i should have meet u b4, you make other girls looks good....
Hulk:
But the thing is, she thinks she's pretty... she keeps going on and on about how pretty she is. I agree, she is pretty. Pretty ugly, and pretty likely to stay that way.
Victoria1987:
Sorry,but still people tell I am pretty,guys tell I am a very pretty girl.Guys keep telling me...How lucky I am?You guys' comment won't change anything.
Hulk:
Can I have permission to post a recent photograph of you, Vicky?
Victoria1987:
You told your wife is a virgin,I am so doubt.Many chinese girls already had sex in university.Many are just pretending.hahahaha.I once read a story,girls go to get their fake virginity in hospital,and their husbands are so proud and start looking down on other women who are not virgin.
An enthusiastic woman actually frightens men, and rightly so. If you meet a girl that is over enthusiastic to spend time with you and enter a relationship your first assumption is she's nuts and if it doesn't work out it's gonna be ugly.
You need to relax and enjoy life instead of looking for men in fast food joints.
Also, stop throwing your hoochie around with guys you want relationships with. there is alot of truth to the saying men don't take girls seriously who give it up so easily.
I would also suggest reading some books and working on your interpersonal skills. Do you have anything interesting to say to these men you're meeting?
Vicky, give up.
You will never find a man willing to marry you.
And even if he does, he will need to find a ba er nai to be fully satisfied.
You are destined to die an old maid, or , if you are lucky, you just might make a second rate ba er nai.
If you were alone on the moon with a man, you would still not manage to score. He would much prefer his hand over you.
Give up, become a nun or marry Crimochina.
You are not worthy of finding a boyfriend, let alone a husband.
You are too picky and judging by your photo, not hot enough for more than a couple of hours.
Victoria1987:
Because guys running to me every week in the hostel,for sure I can be picky.
Not all girls can get as much as attention as I do.
You think I am not pretty and hot,up to you,I am not asking you to marry me.As long as the men in the realworld think I am pretty,it is fine.At least wherever I go,guys usually will look at me.For sure I kwn I am attractive.Have you ever seen a chinese lady have a really good S shape alone with a good place,I bet not a lot.Once I heard foreign guys were talking with each other:Wow,she is so hot,I have never seen a chinese woman has that shape before.Someother guy was talking about me:I tried,but she only want foreigner lives in China,you may get a chance.Some other expat guys are talking about me when I walked by:See,pretty girl. Usually after said a hi to foreigners in the hostel,guys will follow me every day. Other girls will be picky if they are in the same situation like me do.They are not picky because they dont have many guys chase them,they don't have many choices.The competition would be too much if you were alone with Neil Armstrong on the moon. ...
1. Qualifications upgrade.
2. Personality upgrade.
I find reading some of the advice in this thread hilarious. I met my partner in a hostel (he was managing the place - cue a million bad 'service' and 'perks' jokes) but in fairness, I wasn't looking for anyone at the time!
Hulk:
That's different. She goes to hostels specifically looking for foreign guys that live there.
Please ,someone, take away her posting privileges for a month. Victoria, please quit cluttering up the Answers forum with your stupid attention-whoring shit.
I think she might just be trolling us at this point...
but you guys know what the funny/sad part is depends on how u see it...
the day she gives up on her dream of find a foreign husband..she can proly easily find a chinese guy that would do anything for her...yep, Chinese guys are thrilled to marry any girls that are willing to have sex with them..too bad foreigners don't feel the same way..for Vicky...
I think she might just be trolling us at this point...
but you guys know what the funny/sad part is depends on how u see it...
the day she gives up on her dream of find a foreign husband..she can proly easily find a chinese guy that would do anything for her...yep, Chinese guys are thrilled to marry any girls that are willing to have sex with them..too bad foreigners don't feel the same way..for Vicky...
Brilliant. Another hum-dinger for me to read over my morning cup of tea.
Victoria as some of the other posters here have said the main problem is you. I hate to tell you but you are not that pretty, just ok, thats' assuming your picture really is you. You come over as being a narcissist, and most men absolutely hate that, in fact we tend to like girls who are beautiful but don't even realise it. You admit you sleep around with men very easily, as I said on another post to you when you do that and tell the world about it you are just being sluttish. the men who are looking for a real relationship do not like that and the ones who do are the ones you have screwed, but no-one seems to stay very long do they, can you guess why. Also do you think a good place to meet is a fast food joint, why not a decent coffee bar or a good English corner where people are going to stay for more then twenty minutes, or is that how long it takes you to decide you have found another guy to screw? You have been regaling us for so long now with stories of your love life I am not sure whether you are for real or just trolling. Maybe you really are a wumao hoping to get western guys to discredit Chinese women and so your masters can then say they were right about the evil foreigners. If you are for real you really need to grow up. Compared with English girls you seem like fourteen or fifteen and a man wants a woman not a little girl. The advice so many of us have given you is good try to learn from it and try to keep your panties on for more than a couple of hours, no-one respects or wants someone who is so easy for a real relationship. Sometimes as one night stand a slut is all some people want but sluts get dumped in the morning and you have already found that out which is why you are always complaining on here.
sorrel:
Victoria, just because someone disagrees with you doesn't make them a loser. You just make yourself appear more foolish if you write such a reply. You clearly did not read my suggestion of THINKING before you post.
tomcatflyer:
Victoria why am I the loser. I have been married to a beautiful Chinese woman for almost seven years and have lived in China for just over two years now. We have a circle of friends here from all over the world including China. We are able to live my life the way we want and we have traveled to quite a few other countries. We are truly happy together. You on the other hand are desperate to get a foreign husband and like a lot of teenage girls think that if you open your legs readily they will love you. So if that is true how come you are still looking. Compare your life to mine honestly and then tell me who the loser is.
I think it is very clear this is not a real person. It seems like a foreign male that has had bad experiences in China, and is out to trash Chinese women.
Hulk:
Nah, she's real. I've known her for a long time, and have personally seen her outside this forum. 
You are so damaged, daddy didn't give you enough hugs?
Victoria1987:
My daddy loves me a lot,for sure does my mom.Don't worry,I am a happy girl.Cheers
Hulk:
Yeah, your daddy loves you... that's why he continually beats the shat out of you for stealing money from him to pay for hostel fees?
It seems to me that you know how to easily attract and marry a Chinese guy. For sure, looks and sex could get you any Chinese guy you desire. For sure, that is also how you can attract a certain type of foreigner, if you know how to play that game, but you don't. Your strategy isn't getting the results you want, so change it. Why do so many guys at the hostel chase you? Because other pretty girls are smart enough to go after better guys, they wouldn't waste their time at a hostel.
I'll tell you something. It's not true that foreigners don't believe in having face. In fact, we do, but our values of face are different. A girl who sleeps around doesn't necessarily lose face, but if she sleeps around with losers she loses face. A girl who brags about herself loses face. Well, you think you are bragging, but you're actually insulting your own intelligence. Burger King? Really? I understand that in China, Burger King is kind of like a middle class place, but outside of China, many foreigners see it only as a cheap fast food place, one of the cheapest around. It's the same with McDonald's. Living in China doesn't change their perspective of those restaurants. Even Pizza Hut is not a high end place, and is barely even middle class back home.
That is why they are suggesting coffee shops, those are nice anywhere. And although we don't have English corner back home, we do have things like book club, and it is along the lines of that, finding others with the same interests, and it's more likely to have foreigners. Be smart, fish for guys in an environment that attracts good guys, not hostels or Burger King. Get some hobbies, make yourself attractive on the inside, not just the outside. Guys can smell desperation, so don't try so hard. If you want to catch a fish, you don't splash around and make tons of noise.
Victoria1987:
Guys chase me in the hostel because they other girls are smart.No,many girls are chasing foreigners in the hostel,but guys just ignore them and still come to me.
I am not thast stupid.
Coffee shop,you think coffee shop is a good place?I doubt,it is not expensive for you westerners.Money can't represent everyhing.Do you think rich guys must be decent?
I am not the average chinese girls,many guys got attractive by me and started conversation with me and told I am very smart or open minded.They want to be with me,but as I told already,I am looking for young expat handsome guy.So they have no chances.
Victoria1987:
I even don't care about your words,because I found you are just not wise.I only value wise people and only add wise people on my QQ from this forum.The wise expats are QQing with me and laughing at you guys.
Cheers for killing my time with those stupid men and women.I feel like I am watching a drama at home now.
sorrel:
Victoria, you have clearly not paid attention to the posters who gave you 'wise' and sensible advice !! Was THAT wise?
Victoria, SO MANY foreigners have given you sensible and practical advice on how to help you in your life. Over the last year many of your responses have been impolite i wonder have you bothered to read and understand what people suggested - for your own good. YOU are responsible for your life and if you fail to learn from your mistakes, it is not the fault of anyone on this site. Being impolite so often to people will only make them less willing to help.
Christ, I wish she would just shut the f$&k up.
Victoria1987:
Christ?Oh,dear,I am not in a real religon.Hey Christ,do you want to go playing tennis with me?
My God, Victoria. You have opened your mouth and made me regret my previous comments. The more you comment, the more stupid you look. The more you write, the more you prove to others how utterly unsuitable you are for a good foreign men. I guarantee you the good man you are looking for would never stay with you for more than a few days. The problem is not Burger King or hostels. The problem is not how you look. The problem is your personality. Say whatever you want, it is as clear as day, you will never find a foreign man to marry until you do a lot of changing. A lot. Maybe Chinese guys like your extremely immature behavior. Go find one quickly. You won't find a foreigner who wants anything more than a quick ride.
xinyuren:
I wish I could say it more concisely, that girl really irks me.
Victoria1987:
You look stupid,ok?You kown some foreigners messaged to me and they told you guys are stupid and rude,they told me to ignore you guys because many of you guys on the forum are disconnected to the real world.The wise expats are looking down on you and they are friends with me now
xinyuren:
oh yeah? where are your "friends" now? Why aren't they here to support you and tell us how great you are?
Victoria1987:
My friends don't care about this rubbish forum because so many people are stupid,I just found it is stupid enough which can make me laugh and I have time to kill on it.
Jnusb416:
Oh, the wise ones are messaging her? I would think more likely that the ones who think they have a chance are messaging her.
xinyuren:
It seems they all have a chance! They're waiting in line to have a go.
I'm looking forward to the last word on this sorry saga
You're so vain,
I bet you think this post is about you
don't you?
