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Q: Do all Chinese women have an angry button?

I read some posts about Chinese women and how mad they can get and what they do. Since I've only experienced what I would call a little rude behaviour, how bad can the average temper be from a Chinese woman? Are they all temper prone? What happened to humble?

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i know when you try to break up with them they snap, some will cause you to have to change cities because of serious stalking. and school's really have silly security guards all they need to do is tell here leave but they stand there laughing like idiots

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Yes, yes they do. They may tell you that because their mother's have bad tempers that they also possess the "snap in an instant gene". For them, hitting is not out of the norm. But I guess you already know that.

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Have you heard of the Incredible Hulk?
Well he is nothing in comparisom.
If you go down this path     keep going to the Airport and change your name.

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Yes. They'll flip out at the drop of a hat. Unless you establish your alpha male status early. cool

For real though. If you're thinking about dating a Chinese girl then make sure that you let her know that you won't tolerate unreasonable behavior. The first and last time it happened with me was when my girl got mad when she saw me with other girls in some of my high school prom photos. That were taken 5 years ago. Stupid stuff like that can set them off. When that happens you better find a helmet. 

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alpha male and being married to a chinese girl isn't that a contrdiction in terms?

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i know when you try to break up with them they snap, some will cause you to have to change cities because of serious stalking. and school's really have silly security guards all they need to do is tell here leave but they stand there laughing like idiots

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If you came here looking for docile, you ain't gonna find it.  Chinese women have tempers that make Latinas cringe.  But as Beaufortninja said, establish at the first outbreak of a jeauvenile tantrum that it won't be tolerated.  If you let them get away with it once, then they know that is how they can control you just like every other guy.

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Do you mean all the women outside China don't have tempers? No offensive

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Of course! All women outside of China that have a temper only have it because they talked to a Chinese girl. That was sarcasm, in case you didn't notice. Everyone, male and female, from all over the world have tempers. SOME Chinese girls have a very immature temper where they get angry of very silly things. Most of the time, thankfully, they grow out of that stage. But sometimes they never do.

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not just Chinese.  I had a Korean gf who erupted like a volcano.  A quiet volcano (you know what I mean).  The only way she could be fixed was with a good dose of Louis Vuitton....that lasted 8 months.

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How bad can it get? Some guys lose their "little brother"....

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Damn...don't get me started....my gf had a crap after our first "time" together.  Wanted to know why I was so good, and grilled me for an hour almost yelling, about my past "experiences".  But ninja is right...you need to establish the alpha male role off the bat...do NOT let it fester.  It's not about taking control, it's about maintaining SOME control.

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Does that not beg the question how she knew what so good was. Seems she needed to do explaining herself.

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They have an "angry button". But just below that is the belly button. Then just below that is the "calming button."

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You have to know how to work the calming button.... it can be tricky ;)

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Mate, if that 'button' is calming her, you aren't doing it right!

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All three of you should center toward the G-spot button ... or Louis Vuitton butT ...-on.

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I have been married to one for more than 30 years. That is ending soon due to her snap temper. She was ok until the first child. After that things went all to Hades. A few months ago I asked her what I was supposed to do when she lost her temper. She said I was to say, "Thank you wife for correcting me. I will try to do better in the future." I told her to take a hike. She has a flash temper, is lousy in bed and doesn't appreciate anything I do. I won't touch another Chinese woman with a 10 foot pole. They make Italians seem rational. She has two sisters. All of them are bad tempered. All are either divorced or no longer intimate with their husbands. Take my advice, you'd be better off dating Satan.

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Wow! I understand why your Avatar name. You've put it in a very few words you life of 30 years of hell. I have read many times, on this forum, that Chinese women are aromatic and naturally flavored honey, at the beginning of their mating relationship. It seems it is in their nature to be so and become just they way you've deppicted, slower and surer on the long run. I feel sorry that it happens by the time of the birth of a child and further sorry when quite the birth of the child is the cause of such switch. If I am not wrong it has to do with the pot natal syndrom identical to otherwise known as PTSD.

 

I wonder whther there is any fix to such disbelief and shocking changes. It seems there is and it requires to akcnowledge the vices and request for help. But, as long as it happens in China, all dirt must be kept under the rug, never mention of it and never dust it in the eyes of the beholder responsible to clean out his life because you may incur in the cultural "loss of face" and that is unforgivable. This unforgivable can it be that you rather be caught cheating on your wife than to make her lose face.

 

Here you are with children, however, by the end of 30 years of marriage. You must have been Socrates to suffer this long and hope alltogether such misery. Socrate's wife was somehow the same, except that she was not a Chinese. Hahahahahaha LOL.

 

I agree that a foriegner ought to aoid such cultural intercourses. Indeed, Italian women seem more rational in comarison with the Chinese couterparts.

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Chinese women are mostly first born only children. I'm married to a SH woman. When Shanghainese people talk it's already at a high volume in my opinion. She's super controlling and henpecks the hell out of me. Conversely shanghai men are considered the best men to marry because they're so considerate and nice. IMHO only three kinds of men can survive a relationship with a Chinese women. A. Alpha males who are hyper vigilant in not giving an inch of control to their woman and set clear rules of engagement and painstakingly explain what comments and behaviors are acceptable. B. Beta males who are ok with someone making every decision for them.  C. Guys who are looking for a mother figure.  Within 6 months of marriage my wife turned into hitler and threatened to divorce me because i went to a bar to get a drink with my friends while she was on a business trip. I accepted her offer immediately. When she got back I had her remove her things and move back in with her parents. We reconciled but not before I presented her with a list of demands. It was super harsh but that was the only way it was going to work out. Now 6 years later we are fine and have a son. There is a constant power struggle though. I have found with her the best defense is a good offense. Never ever ever go on the defense or answer for your actions if you know you did nothing wrong. Go full offense and claim her behavior isn't acceptable in your culture. Then be offended by this and put her on the defense. Or just bail at the first sign of her inner hitler coming out.

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