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Q: Do Chinese guys pay for everything when with their gf's?
A Chinese girl tells me that I have to pay for everything, and ALL the time. I am not completely opposed and I almost always pay, but she says that Chinese men do it 100% of the time, so I should too. She has a full-time job so I don't think she should hold me to paying all the time. Western woman dish out the mula now and then no problem from time to time. What do you think?
11 years 5 weeks ago in Relationships - China
It is hard to say "NO" to someone you love. But when the other partner takes advantage of you it is called "abuse"
Even if a Chinese woman expects this from a Chinese guy, it doesn't change the fact that you are not Chinese. If you are OK with paying for everything, fine, but lets say your relationship lasts. Would you pay for everything for life?
If she doesn't use her money, why does she work ?
Yes ,most of the time,Unfortunately,I feel sorry for them.
I'd like to go dutch,he pays big money (60%) and I pay small money(40%).
That's how we did It when we were GF & BF.
My husband and I liked It.
No, most chinese women keeps husbands money in their wallet, and sometimes they give them these money, like in mcdonalds, and let the guy pay, just for show of. I saw it manytimes. If for GF and BF, its mostly they want the guy pay for all, but you have to put your feet on, closes are her choice, u pay just sometime. pay for her the lunch and so on, is well, but do not pay everything. anyway, after you marry her, you will get the scenario i write in first sentence 
ChickMag:
These Chinese women seem to have it figured out. I admire it in some way.
maggiegirly:
My parents take care of the money together which is great.
there is anther way I'd support, let the person (wife or husband) take care of the money who's better at taking it.,and My husband agreed. Both husband and wife should have the right to say on how and where to save ,especially spend big money.
Nessquick:
You are right Maggie.
I was just really wonder a lot, when I saw a picture like described.
In our home, we also share the money and care of them. savings are on my wife hands, spending is my business :-)
Just do what's best for you, obviously. If it's something you agree with that's fine, if you don't agree with it then don't do it.
It's important to know though that if it does bother you at all then you need to make that known now and NOT pay for everything. If you try to be the nice guy and pay for everything now even though you don't agree with it 100% it's only going to turn into a big problem down the road which usually results in people breaking up (after the guy spent a ton of money).
I've seen it over and over again where guys try to be nice and pay for everything at the start and think that down the world the girl will magically change her attitude and start paying for some things. When that doesn't end up happening, shit hits the fan.
If you are a baller, then yeah you can pay for everything and flex your wallet, but in my opinion, to pay for everythingggg is a sucker move. If she works, she gotta pay! When I was with a girl in Shanghai we went dutch for awhile, then she tried to transition me into being the bank. Thats when I said nah, and we were walking in People's Square, so what did she do? She whipped out a little of the Sa Jiao, to which I walked away. And the end result she begged and begged for another chance and said she was wrong. But if I even went back, I would be a sucker.
It is hard to say "NO" to someone you love. But when the other partner takes advantage of you it is called "abuse"
Yeah, it's a tradition in China. Men pay for everything in a relationship. Good luck!
Usually, yes. Plus, Chinese wives will also be very happy if you give them all of your hard earned money too.
cub:
@robk, yeah, have u noticed Admin keeps rehashing old posts just to keep ECC going? Before i reply i look at when or how old the post was
The Chinese men pay. But of course they expect something in return
When they are getting marriage, the man offers house and car. That's also a tradition, even it's changing a bit by the days.
My Chinese girlfriend has told me about the tradition of male fiance's paying for basically everything until marriage. She has tried to stick to this "tradition". We just bought a car and she put in $2000 and I made up the $4400 difference and I was amazed that she coughed it up. She promised me $700 a month for living expenses. I am still waiting for this month's money. The excuses keep coming, but my patience is flagging.
if I could do it over, I think I would have kept walking by her and I probably would be better off in my ways. Sex is good as long as she is on her back and I am doing the drilling. Oral sex hang up? Oh yes. But the sex can get quite good.
As a girl, i don't think guys should pay the bills every time. When the guy and the girl are dating, of course, the guy should not ask the girl to pay, but the girl should be offered to pay sometimes. It is a way to respect the guy and let the guy knows you are not taking advantage of him. I don't like the guys paying all the time as it would make me feel i owe him something.
Viki87:
"When the guy and the girl are dating, of course, the guy should not ask the girl to pay'', LOL. I don't think the guy has the obligation to pay his date. Why can't ask her to pay? If the girl refused to pay her own bills, of course the guy can ask.
I'll pay,, as long as she takes care of the Tip! 
*Damn,, I'm such a sexist pig!
My Chinese gfs pay for everything. I don't know to much about the guys though,
it is the same in every nation.
earthizen:
Every lowly evolved, underdeveloped, poor nation which is filled to the brim with prostitutes, professional and amateur, public or private, sure.
