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Q: Do you carry your Gf's/ Wife's Purse?
This is a big deal for these girls. Like your not a real man if you dont.
I never have, and my girl is ok with that. Anything that can fit in my pocket is ok. And if shes buying something, i will hold it on the end of my fingers and make a face like its filled with dirty diapers so that everyone can so how horrible this is for me.
But recently I was at a lake walking around with a bunch of friends and my friends wife was moaning that he didnt wanna hold her purse ( he was already holding her bottle of water and camera bag) . She said to him, that Canadians are gentleman and I would do it. Now I set her straight pretty quick and said that women in Canada arent lazy bitches and they hold their own damn purse and if they didnt wanna carry it they wouldnt bring it. She wasnt phased though. She said fine, im a bitch, now hold my bag.
He did.
Is this a common issue with you and your girl?
Fortunately mine doesn't carry a purse though she complained once and said, 'look how the Chinese guys take care their gfs by carrying their purses and bags.
Stiggs:
With some of the guys you see, it's hard to say who the purse actually belongs to, him or her.
thefidu881:
For many of them it's a kinda showing love as per my perception of the matter. But then again I can see their faces revealing something odd they are compelled for. Anyhow if this is gonna make her happy I won't feel it.
mike695ca:
@stiggs Thats true, the fake LV man bag has become an epidemic. But still, Generally when I see a otherwise normal looking guy holding a pink bag. I just assume..... Although it wouldnt surprise me in the least.
Stiggs:
maybe the best thing to do is to carry the bag, but only on the understanding that she won't leave your side and risk people thinking the pink Hello Kitty bag is yours.
Not only do I carry it, I wear it as a fucking necklace and don't care what anyone else thinks. *throws limp wrist*
Hulk asked a similar question once, she doesn't ask me to carry her purse, I don't ask her to carry my purse. 
I usually carry my wife's purse though I know its not really an American custom. I do feel weird carrying it but for her I will do it as in China it seems to be the norm for the husband so why give her another reason to complain.
The best solution is to carry a sports bag including yours and her items. Anyone can carry it and no-one can judge it.
if you don't want to carry it don't bring it.
mike695ca:
Bingo! But then, it raises the question. If they dont bring their bag, how will they bring their , tissues and phone, and ipad and la jiao and apples and all the other useless shit? ( note that i didnt say money)
I do carry it some time. Loosing a few worthless battles is an acceptable price to win those battles that matters (ie. kids education and upbringing, where to live).
I'll hold it occasionally when she's looking at clothes in shops. When we're in the street she gets the response "Wo bu Shi Shanghai ren"!
Hotwater:
PM me your phone number as is love to have a drink with you. Maybe even take you home after....I'm sure you like to take it....
Typically not, I picked her specifically for her arms and hands.
Hahaha...
I sometimes do... but like you... there is a very low time limit until I start passing it back to her and complaining because... I not only hate hold purses... I hate carrying bags in general. Why?
Nightmares from my military days carrying backpacks during marches...
Nightmares from Spring Festival trying to navigate suitcases through unmoving Chinese crowds...
Nightmares from going grocery shopping in China (when I first got here) then it starts to rain and I can't find a taxi...
I hate bags... but if we go hiking or to climb a mountain... I am always the mule... I hate bags because of that too.
mike695ca:
Lol all very valid reasons. I am blessed to have none of those experiences yet i still cant. I just hate it when people are inconsiderate. If you need to bring it. Im your carry dude. But if you want to look cool bringing a prada bag everywhere then you better carry the damn thing. All heavy crap can go in my pockets. Im cool with that.
I don’t carry her bag/purse, I don’t have a xiaosan/small 3/girlfriend, and I don’t beat her. I am not Chinese why would I do any of these things?
gusman:
That's my response to my GF .Do you want me to do all the other things Chinese guys do?
I recently bumped in to an old friend, he was carrying is GF's purse, I ribbed him, his GF gave me dogs abuse "I'm training him ! don't fuck it up'
No, No, and Hell No. It is total Puss behavior.
a tip for u guys out there.... girls don't want u to carry their purse. Girls want a dude with a Set. Gentlemanly conduct for sure, but still carrying a Set.
If u get confused,, just ask yourself if the following fellas carry purses:
John Wayne
Kirk Douglas
Clint Eastwood
Frank Sinatra
Lee Marvin
* please note that there are exceptions for everything- carry it in emergency, carry in very rough crowd in fucked-up place (mindinao), carry as funny joke (even Kirk played homo on movie for fun cuz he is/was not judgmental)
I did but she wasn't my gf. It was my colleague who was carrying a cake (she insisted on carrying the cake), so I just lugged her handbag along. Felt strange though.
Only when she has my money in it !!!
Joking of course.
What is bad is when the man and women have matching purses
My gf does not carry a purse. She has a little woman's wallet that she puts in her jacket. Thus no battle ensues!
I will hold it for her if she is looking at something in a store, but walking down the street with it, no way.
It makes me sick! I think these guys that carry their girlfriends purse should also wear their girlfriends matching heels.
I do, it makes her feel like I care.
I'm ok with it, it's not heavy and suitably feminine enough so people know its not mine.
I never did it, will not! feed so hard to immerse myself in Chinese culture!
Bit surprised about the unipolarity of responses so far. Many expats with wives still aren't carrying the purse? I sd t hav th sam battls with my girlfriend but eventually gave up. Nowadays I only make her hold the damn thing when I'm tired and if she gets mad then I tell her tough luck....
Holding a purse isn't a completely bad thing though... It makes other Chinese girls with boyfriends hella' jealous to see a foreign guy that offers this treatment in addition to the other perks - you can just see the looks on their faces!!
I also love to over exaggerate the manner in which I hold that bag, hoisting it far in front trying my best to put that Prada tag on display for everyone to see. It embarrasses the Hell outa' her lol.
