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Q: Do you feel comfortable if your girlfriend...?
Do you feel comfortable as a boyfriend if your girlfirend's clothes always more expensive than yours?
11 years 40 weeks ago in Relationships - China
My wife buys clothes as and when she wants and so do I. We buy the clothes we want to buy within a reasonable price range but it really does not matter who gets the more expensive ones. If your girlfriend is constantly buying as expensive as she thinks she can get away with when you are paying then maybe you need to question why she is with you. Other than that does it really matter provided you are both in agreement
I have to encourage my wife to spend money on herself.
when she dresses she always dresses well
and it make's me dress better than I would if we were not together
so to answer your question it is not a problem for us
good question
girlfriend...?
it would depend on full scenario... if u r her sugardaddy.. then its part of the deal that she will keep using credit card..
if she is spending money to buy... then is different issue..
if i am damn rich... then who cares...
etc etc
why concerned? Is she requesting your money to buy expensive clothes? then that might be a red flag.
If the girlfriend is buying her own clothes, why should he care how expensive it is? It's her money, right? The only time it would be an issue is if you're living together and you need some of that money to survive.
victoria1987 only talks about MONEY, JOB & BOYFRIEND on this platform......akaMJB 除了这些你脑子里还有什么东西？
i do not care about that and actually i never thought about that
So... Is this still a relationship advice and comforting forum, or has it become about fashion and clothes yet? I'm confused
I fully expect girls to care more and pay more on clothes than I do.
That said, there is not much reason to pay top yuan for every garment unless her only purpose in dating me is extracting my limited money.
Why the hell should I care how much she spends on clothes as long as it is not from my wallet? The day when it starts to go from my wallet beyond my expectation, she will go out of the door as well.
BTW, in a healthy relationship, who gets time to compare the price for clothes with your partners? Does this only happen in China?
I like a woman to wear nice clothes, I'll wear a suit or nicer clothes sometimes, but I'm a guy, I'm hard on my clothes so I'd rather rip a pair of cheap jeans than expensive ones.
For the most part, what she wants to wear is her business. I would not forbid her but recoment, for example, if we are going to a funeral and she wants to wear a miniskirt, I would recomend something else... but not order.
As to cost, as long as the clothes are clean and neat, then there is no worry.
I wouldn't have any issues with it - presuming it doesn't affect our relationship in any way.
After all, I choose to spend my money my way (atm, paying off CC's 
) - preferably by eating out in nice restaurants, a bit of travelling, going by taxi rather than bus. These are all non-essential spends - and that's what I work for.
So, if my thing is travel, and her thing is expensive clothes - who cares???
If I wanted to live like a pauper, then I'm sure I could just dump my job, and get a real skanky trailer-trash girl to join me on the dole.
But, I don't... so I have no problem if she chooses to spend her money on her hobby... clothes (or jewellery, or whatever).
giadrosich:
"...get a real skanky trailer-trash girl to join me on the dole."
That's actually pretty funny. I lived in the Southern U.S. for many years, and I know exactly what you are talking about here. "Skanky!" What a great word. 
My ex aksed something about my parents' house,I am so doubted about that ?Maybe if I am a poor girl,he might lsft me ealier.I hate material guy
Vic, I imagine the answer depends on our own experiences. IF she is independent and likes to wear expensive clothes, that she buys with her own money, fine by me. IF she's leaving on her boyfriends money, then i would kick her ass. I also have desires in questions of things i would want to have (and not only clothes wise). If it will interfere with my future plans then I prefer to save the money. And at the end of the day we are talking about clothes. You dress it 5 to 10 times and then lose it on the closet. Why not save the money for a washing machine (a good one) that will allow you to have a better quality of life... This is an example of what direction our thoughts should be aimed for.
Victoria1987:
hehe,true,lunckily I never use my ex's money to buy clothes,they never gave me also.
Hypnos:
Nothing against giving. It's normal in a relationship. Maybe you were unlucky with boyfriends or maybe they thought you didn't deserve (dont be offended please, i don't know you). It's always nice to present someone with something they like, and also receiving presents we like. But having a woman saying to you "I don't like this bag because it has no label on it" is, not to be very incorrect in my description, materialistic. So, booty in the ass for those like that. :)
Shining_brow:
But, Vic, while you don't use your bf's money to buy clothes, are you still able to contribute equally to the relationship in other areas??
Can you afford to pay for your meals, the shopping for both of you, all the other things that he pays for... do you also put in an equal share?
victoria sounds like a poor girl who crave for things she ain't got...work hard gurl!
I tell my wife I'm cheap so she don't have to be. And it's true. 
