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Q: Do you think that I can completely overcome shyness?

I have big problem, sometimes I wonder if I should see psychologists. I am too shy when seeing a man I found attractive. 

 

I will feel too shy to go approach a man I found attractive and even if the guy approached me first, I'll acted cold and pretent to not look at him and tried to not speak much to him. Eventually those guys I found attractive who approached me first in real life would leave after feeling that I'm not interested.

 

I tried to overcome many many times but failed. I know if I don't change, I may end up being alone the rest of my life. I really have no confidence if I could overcome shyness completely.

 

Anybody has suffered serious shyness problem? Do you think if I can overcome it completely? 

 

 

11 weeks 4 days ago in  General  - China

 
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if this is an example of you being 'shy' 
http://answers.echinacities.com/node/327393

 

I hesitate to think what you are like if you are forward......

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You should have taken the time to take some free therapy sessions on your recent visit to the USA.

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See if you can find a drama (acting) class/open improv group in Shanghai. The games/exercises that they do COULD help you deal with that.   I had some serious social anxiety issues after the first time I was in Baghdad, and it greatly helped me. 

 

Don't expect a sudden, monumental change after trying it once though; change takes time. 

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There is a lot of stuff online to help you. Here's a website you can start with.

 

www.wikihow.com/Overcome-Shyness

 

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Some girls meet a guy and are "flirtatious", some meet and are "shy", meet a guy like you would a girl by being "amiable", if he asks about family in the first 3 questions, he wants to know if you have a bf and screw your brains out once, if he gets to family after 5 questions he wants to sleep with you more than once. That's a good start.

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if this is an example of you being 'shy' 
http://answers.echinacities.com/node/327393

 

I hesitate to think what you are like if you are forward......

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Dont think too much , be stright forward , a girl being shy is a very attractive thing for men but certainly this rule has limits though, I recommand you to try to have more friends , hangout oftenly and dont care bout what people would think of u If u have done so , or didnt just be you and try to stay focused at your goal 

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