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Q: Does your Chinese wife find it difficult to wear her wedding ring every day?

My husband tells me ,it's a must to wear marriage ring after marriage in western culture.

He's been wearing it all the time lol but I am not, I am still not used to wearing it. it's just inconvenient to wear as I like to dress simple. I often forget to wear it and some people think I am still single which I am not ,I always tell people that I am married ,my husband sometimes complains about me not wearing it. I know it's no good, I am trying to wear it more often now.

In Chinese culture,Wear it or not,It's all up to you ,so,people usually wear it for important festivals like Chinese new year, other time, they just keep it in somewhere private.

So, does your Chinese wife have the same problem?

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My wife has worn our wedding ring every day since the day we got married, she is Chinese. I would be deeply offended if she didn't wear it, according to our customs (and my way of thinking) removing your wedding ring is saying either you are not happy with your marriage or you are looking for a boyfriend.

 

Indeed in the UK when I was young (and single) we would go to discos and look for women with the white skin where the wedding ring used to be (which shows up brilliantly under UV lights at a disco), for us that was a signal she was looking for sex, (and 90% of the time we were right).

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OMG,Many people wanna sexy

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Your husband is right - in Australia, for both men and women, the ring goes on and it stays on and doesn't come off unless you divorce or are looking to cheat.

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i see someone is married but available.

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She sucks.

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crimochina:

in a good way?

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Laajine:

yeh she is sucks bro

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Now this is where I see it differently

My wife wears the engagement ring and the wedding ring when we go out

however it is not a every day item

Mainly because the weding ring is gold and very soft  and the engagement ring due to not wanting to damage it looking after kids

Personally I do not have a problem with it 

At the end of the Day she is my wife and a ring will not make her Love me any more or less than she does

maggiegirly:

Well said,Phil

I do wear the ring when I go out with my husband together.

I guess I should get used to wearing it by that time.

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If you ever take off your ring, aside from putting it on the nightstand/sink in the bedroom/bathroom, it is a very serious social cue. If your spouse is not there, it means that you're looking for another man/woman to 'be with'. If your spouse is with you, you better explain that "it feels uncomfortable, I'm readjusting it and putting it right back on". I'm from the US.

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I don't wear any kind of jewelry and I'm married. It goes back to my apprentice days and the stories you hear from people wearing rings or necklaces. Even though I am not on the tools anymore its just something I have taken with me. As for the wife she has the ring whenever we go out but at home its off.

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I agree with most above posters, wear your ring every time you are outside with other people. I expect my wife to do that.

In the beginning both of us forgot it from time to time, but now it has become a habit and we rarely forgets it (she more than me though).

 

All from my wifes family and my colleagues in China wear their ring everyday, so I always assumed this was also normal for Chinese to do. Some of them wear it around the neck if they use their hands a lot during the day.

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Oh yeah, absolutely around the neck would be okay too (especially if your spouse got you an appropriate necklace to hold it). This would be the best way to handle it if it is really uncomfortable- put it on your left ring finger whenever possible, and on the necklace when you need to. If after a while the ring still feels uncomfortable or especially if it actually hurts/harms circulation, talk about getting it adjusted for you.

 

I seriously cannot emphasize how terrified I would be if my new wife was not wearing her ring. Please put it on.

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When my wife and I got married, we were living in the US and she wore her ring all the time, as did I.  But when we moved to China, I had to buy her a second, much more plain ring, because she was afraid someone would see the rock on her finger and want to chop off her hand to get it.

 

But over the years, our rings 'shrunk' and it was either take them off or lose fingers due to circulation loss.  So now, neither of us wear our rings.  My wife has worn the main ring I gave her twice since coming to China, which makes me kind of sad when I think back to how much I paid for it.

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My Dad has literally not taken his off since his wedding day. His finger has grown around it  now. 

MissA:

My Dad's the same - I think now he physically can't take it off. Let's hope mum never dumps him!

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Nope, I used glue

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No

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Yeah, my wife does not wear it very often and she only  wears it on special occasions.

I do not make a fuss about it as I am happy in my own skin and leave my wife free to do what she wants. She loves me and I her and we do have a five year old son to add to the bond. She finds the ring special (it is a fine specimen of a diamond to boot!) and does keep it in a special place. I must admit, I am kind of proud when she does wear it as she likes to flash it around, discreetly I might add, and that tends to make me chuckle inwardly. Hey! we are all human. lol

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my wife knows i was a notorious playboy and would never let me go anywhere without the ring, its her ball and chain, though i still get a kick out of ladies flirting with me right in front of her, oh im sorry i thought she was your student or daughter, yeah right.

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Tattoo it perhaps?

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I paid 15 gallons of incesticide for my wife, so you can be damn sure she's going to wear the Cubic Zirconium that I gave her, every day, for the rest of her life.

 

Since she's so faithful, I bought her a red dress and a TV with a remote control! It's even HD ready (downscales to 480i, but it's ready)!

 

I wear my wedding ring every day as well. I found it in a cracker jack box which I shoplifted from Target. Hey, I may be cheap, but I'm very romantic and practical. If she takes off the ring, I will crush her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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My spouse is Chinese and she often takes off the ring, especially when preparing

food. However, she never just leaves it lying around. When she does not wear it on her hand she has it around her neck on a special necklace. We both talked about this before we got married and not to wear the ring is okay, except when we go out.  Neither one of us is looking for an affair, because we are happy and comfortable in our marriage. Not to wear a wedding ring all the time seems to be normal thing in China.

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