Sure most that want to be "friends" are just using you to practice english or just to be able to say that they have a laowai friend. But you also get the opposite end of the spectrum, they worry after you like a mother hen, and are willing to bend backwards to help you. You just have to accept that like most things in china, most of the friends that you come across will be fake, but the real ones do at least exist.

1) Friendships between Chinese people is serious business. They'll die for a friend. One of the things I really do like about China.

2) Friendships with foreigners are just for show. If someone just wants to be friends because you are a foreigner, it will be one-sided, annoying, and end once they get bored of seeing a foreign face. They mostly just want to show you off to their real friends, and have you put on a little performance.

3) Some Chinese are more reasonable about foreigners, but you'll probably make friends with them the same way you'd make friends back home: gradually, at work, through mutual acquaintances, etc. Speaking Chinese helps.

Depends on what kind of people u r.
I am willing to help all my friends to improve their Chinese, but none of them use me as a teacher. U can meet 10 new people in a dinner party, change ur number with 8, there r 3 that u get along very well, the next day only one calls u for a brunch. That one might be a friend. True friends will stay. U can tell and don't need so long.

I've made some true friends here. One time, I got stranded in the middle of nowhere about 2 hours outside of Guangzhou. A guy I met drinking one night a few months before drove all the way from GZ to get me. That's something only a bfff would do. Like a boss. Just pick your friends carefully but don't be so quick to turn people away.

find real friends always difficult, especially a man live in stranger contry. if you chinese friends use you only for practise or show off, just leave him.people are different ,as a chinese ,i must say most chinese are kindly to foreigners, but a real mutual friendship is hard to setup, i think that need you both effort to creat it.

kchur thats BS i have seen countless "friends" let their buddies continue walking into an oncoming car then after they didnt die they laugh at them

The Chinese friends I know are not your typical Chinese. Most of them are bar fly types that are pretty westernized. They are pretty well the same as my friends at home. Some I've made good friends with and I've even had them at my house.

I have many great and good acquaintances and sex friends but friends like I had before back home... no nothing like that yet but I think I can find no doubt about it... ****ADMIN I THINK THIS IS TOPIC/THREAD RELATED YAH?****

Its tough finding a true friend here. And sadly, most of the people who tend to throw their number out there are the hard core networking types who are much less likely to be looking to you with true friendship in mind.

Its all about time, patience, and enough misses to make a hit more likely.

And remember what Sunshine Bear says: If you want a friend, you have to be a friend.